Fitting rooms

[lacrosse_lady72]

It's not that his opinion doesn't matter, it's that I can see for myself in the mirror what looks good and what doesn't. I don't need for him to tell me. If it looks good I can see it, if it looks bad, that's quite obvious. We're talking about clothes, not buying a house or a car. Something under $1000 I do not need to run by him as it's a small purchase, if it was a major purchase I would confer with him. I still think that most of the posters here that need their partners opinion are very young, as minor things seem much more important then, there's a larger need to please someone else, and women and men gain more self confidence as they grow older which tends to lessen the need for another's approval.

I doubt when you have been married for 15 years that you will still need his opinion on lingerie, as by that time everyone knows that all it's good for is landing on the floor.

It's true, I'm young. Along with being young, purchases at VS aren't made lightly. I'm a student, I'm broke and I'm not made of money so yes, I want $300 worth of lingerie to be worth it. Also, (TMI probably) my lingerie doesn't just hit the floor, we make very good use of it.

But I think this is the most important thing: I don't need his opinion on anything, I want it, and vice versa.

 

[FireDancer]

It's true, I'm young. Along with being young, purchases at VS aren't made lightly. I'm a student, I'm broke and I'm not made of money so yes, I want $300 worth of lingerie to be worth it. Also, (TMI probably) my lingerie doesn't just hit the floor, we make very good use of it.

But I think this is the most important thing: I don't need his opinion on anything, I want it, and vice versa.

Not to mention not many women I know buy lingerie for themselves... if you know what I mean

 

[disykat]

I could wear a burlap sack and dh would think it's hot, so hysterical to me that any woman needs to get her man's opinion on her lingerie, lol. Really??? I feel like I've gone to sleep and woken up in Oz.

I can't see a grown man or woman needing help with something as simple as buying clothes. I am perplexed that grown ups do this. If you all are teenagers I completely understand.

I agree - except that I wouldn't understand teenagers doing this either. I'm amazed by this thread. I have never seen a man in a woman's dressing room before.

My teens would never want me in their dressing room or to come into mine. Now I realize they're afraid people will think I'm their girlfriend.

How does the conversation in the lingerie department go? My mind is reeling with the possibilities.

No wonder I can't relate - spending $300 on lingerie is totally beyond my reality. I might spend about $500 a YEAR on all my clothes.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

OPEN YOUR MIND!!! Everyone isn't like you! Get over it. I'm sorry you feel your DH's opinion doesn't matter but my DFiance's does matter to me.

ETA: Sorry the caps aren't just direct toward you, really they're for everyone with the same general opinon, and they're not meant to be hurtful but it gets my point across. The opinions of others are taken into consideration at different levels uniquely with each individual.

Lingerie is not for me. If it were just for me, I wouldn't waste the money or the slight uncomfortableness of the garments. But it's not. Sure, DFiance would still think I'm hot in a burlap sack but that's not what I'm going to purchase. I want to purchase the hottest thing to him, the thing that looks best on me, according to him. I'm not trying to impress myself.

Of course lingerie is for the man, they are visual creatures. But I don't need dh to tell me what looks best on me, and I most definitely know what he likes. I think it's silly to keep commenting on this so I'm going to bow out, all of your points are valid and in keeping with someone in your age range and stage in life and relationship.

 

[OceanAnnie]

OPEN YOUR MIND!!! Everyone isn't like you! Get over it. I'm sorry you feel your DH's opinion doesn't matter but my DFiance's does matter to me.

ETA: Sorry the caps aren't just direct toward you, really they're for everyone with the same general opinon, and they're not meant to be hurtful but it gets my point across. The opinions of others are taken into consideration at different levels uniquely with each individual.

Lingerie is not for me. If it were just for me, I wouldn't waste the money or the slight uncomfortableness of the garments. But it's not. Sure, DFiance would still think I'm hot in a burlap sack but that's not what I'm going to purchase. I want to purchase the hottest thing to him, the thing that looks best on me, according to him. I'm not trying to impress myself.

That goes both ways doesn't it?

Women have felt as you do since the beginning of time. Who doesn't want to please their husband. If you buy something that isn't up to par, don't you return it?

 

[aprilgail2]

Bras? Seriously? WHY?

When I try on bras, I can tell on my own which ones my husband will like. What I'm usually more concerned with is how they look under clothes, and he's not a reliable judge of that.

I would not tolerate a man in a VS dressing room. Tacky.

I TOTALLY agree!!!!!!

I could wear a burlap sack and dh would think it's hot, so hysterical to me that any woman needs to get her man's opinion on her lingerie, lol. Really??? I feel like I've gone to sleep and woken up in Oz.

I can't see a grown man or woman needing help with something as simple as buying clothes. I am perplexed that grown ups do this. If you all are teenagers I completely understand.

 

[mjkacmom]

It's true, I'm young. Along with being young, purchases at VS aren't made lightly. I'm a student, I'm broke and I'm not made of money so yes, I want $300 worth of lingerie to be worth it. Also, (TMI probably) my lingerie doesn't just hit the floor, we make very good use of it.

But I think this is the most important thing: I don't need his opinion on anything, I want it, and vice versa.

Only 1/2 way through my coffee, but you were modelling lingerie in front of your DH in VS, and were wondering why your DH was told to leave?! Who would expect a man in the dressing room?! And who, in their right mind, is broke, and spends $300 on underwear?!

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Only 1/2 way through my coffee, but you were modelling lingerie in front of your DH in VS, and were wondering why your DH was told to leave?! Who would expect a man in the dressing room?! And who, in their right mind, is broke, and spends $300 on underwear?!

I never said he was told to leave. As I said in a PP, at my VS he was encouraged to go in with me... a few times so we've just preferred to do that ever since. Same with him trying on business stuff at Nordstrom.

I'm broke in the sense that $300 isn't just an everyday purchase, but it wouldn't kill me kwim? I will make it my big personal purchase for the month.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

That goes both ways doesn't it?

Women have felt as you do since the beginning of time. Who doesn't want to please their husband. If you buy something that isn't up to par, don't you return it?

Not usually, no. I don't like to waste my time buying something I don't want and I don't like returning things, and a lot of the time when I need to return something it will sit in my house until the return-by date expires. So I make sure I want it to begin with to avoid the whole returning thing.

Also, I'm not trying to convince anyone to keep their SOs out of the dressing room, nor am I telling them how silly they are for doing do. I have an open mind in why they don't need their SO in the room, or that they can judge their garments for themselves. I'm just giving my perspective on why my DFiance and I sometimes help each other out, at VS and Nordstrom. I actually cannot remember another place where we've done that since we usually don't go in each others dressing room.

 

[Planogirl]

I could just see my DH's face if I asked if a particular bra looked good or not. It would probably be the same expression if I asked him to go into the ladies' dressing room with me.

Seriously, if a man is in a ladies' dressing room with curtains or slatted doors I will complain. If the dressing room has full doors then I'll ignore it and keep my thoughts to myself.

 

[Arielle22]

I could just see my DH's face if I asked if a particular bra looked good or not. It would probably be the same expression if I asked him to go into the ladies' dressing room with me.

Seriously, if a man is in a ladies' dressing room with curtains or slatted doors I will complain. If the dressing room has full doors then I'll ignore it and keep my thoughts to myself.

If I asked my DH about a bra all he would say is "no it doesn't look good better take it off" accompanied by a leer.

 

[pigletgirl]

If I asked my DH about a bra all he would say is "no it doesn't look good better take it off" accompanied by a leer.

DF would think the same!

And people have started to ask me if DF will be shopping with me for our honeymoon and I told them no...way to ruin a surprise!

He already doesn't like shopping with me, I can't ever decide if I want something or not.

 

[wdwfan16]

I could just see my DH's face if I asked if a particular bra looked good or not. It would probably be the same expression if I asked him to go into the ladies' dressing room with me.

Seriously, if a man is in a ladies' dressing room with curtains or slatted doors I will complain. If the dressing room has full doors then I'll ignore it and keep my thoughts to myself.

My DH sees a bra as something women use to support themselves and make their clothes look nice.

If I asked him into the dressing room, except if I was disabled, I would get a reaction.

If I asked my DH about a bra all he would say is "no it doesn't look good better take it off" accompanied by a leer.

Bingo

 

[paintnolish]

Um, doesn't a bf/dh in the dressing room at VS kind of ruin the suprise?

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

It's not that his opinion doesn't matter, it's that I can see for myself in the mirror what looks good and what doesn't. I don't need for him to tell me. If it looks good I can see it, if it looks bad, that's quite obvious. We're talking about clothes, not buying a house or a car. Something under $1000 I do not need to run by him as it's a small purchase, if it was a major purchase I would confer with him. I still think that most of the posters here that need their partners opinion are very young, as minor things seem much more important then, there's a larger need to please someone else, and women and men gain more self confidence as they grow older which tends to lessen the need for another's approval.

I doubt when you have been married for 15 years that you will still need his opinion on lingerie, as by that time everyone knows that all it's good for is landing on the floor.

DH and i have been together for 8 years and i still like his opinions on things like my clothes or lingere....

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

My DH sees a bra as something women use to support themselves and make their clothes look nice.

If I asked him into the dressing room, except if I was disabled, I would get a reaction.



Bingo

that's definatly not what my DH thinks of when he sees me in a bra "oh hey it's support" i think that's the last thing he's thinking when i'm in a bra.

 

[si-am]

Um, doesn't a bf/dh in the dressing room at VS kind of ruin the suprise?

Yeah, this is my thought too! If I'm buying lingerie "for him," then I don't want him to see it for the first time in the dressing room!

 

[Fire14]

It wouldn't bother me either.


Oh & if a man was in the bathroom with me it would be no biggie either. I guess when you have seen one, you have seen them all (I am a nurse).

I so agree LOL. Heck I can't even use BR at work half time without a resident trying to get in, phone ringing or someone calling me on intercom.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

I so agree LOL. Heck I can't even use BR at work half time without a resident trying to get in, phone ringing or someone calling me on intercom.

i've used the men's room plenty of times both at work and at bars or other places i've gone. men generally don't care if i'm in there, if anything they'll be like "that stall over there is open if you need it!" i just don't feel like waiting in that long line for the women's restroom.

and i've also changed clothes in my car before. i'm still wearing underclothes but i'll change my shirt and pants in a car. *shrugs*

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

i've used the men's room plenty of times both at work and at bars or other places i've gone. men generally don't care if i'm in there, if anything they'll be like "that stall over there is open if you need it!" i just don't feel like waiting in that long line for the women's restroom.

and i've also changed clothes in my car before. i'm still wearing underclothes but i'll change my shirt and pants in a car. *shrugs*

That reminds me of when I was in high school. Pretty much our entire JV and Varsity lacrosse teams would change in the parking lot or our cars if it was an away game since we didn't have anytime to change. School would end at 3:30, travel to the schools 30 min-1.5 hours (rush hour) and game time was usually 4:30-5:30, depending upon the location. So we all became professionals at the car changing and parking lot changing, it's easy to put all of that on without exposing oneself. Although, we did have kilts so the bottom part was easy.