First trip as a single Mom

[Andreja]

Too bad people are selfish and do not understand children are reason for their living :/
But it is not end of world, just have to find some motivation in rising your children

 

[Floydian]

I can look them in their eyes and truthfully say I gave it everything I had

In my personal experience, this is one of THE most important things. When you know you gave it your all, it is far far easier to learn and grow and move on.

 

[Floydian]

I am so sorry you are going through the same hell that I've been going through. The betrayal, lies and the emotional rollercoasters are rough! There is a great website that I came across when I learned of my husband's extracurricular activities: survivinginfidelity.com This site has really helped me through the rough days and nights following the discovery, to become stronger and healthier as each day goes by. Lots of hugs and prayers coming your way!

I agree about that website!! It didn't save my marriage (nothing could if even one person doesn't want to). But their forums are filled with positive insights from people who truly understand.

 

[ADecentGuy]

I agree about that website!! It didn't save my marriage (nothing could if even one person doesn't want to). But their forums are filled with positive insights from people who truly understand.

I agree about survivinginfidelity.com. I've been referred there by several people on this board and it is a very helpful place to visit.

 

[Kat&Dom]

I never saw this part of him before we had kids. To be fair, it may have been there, but I just didn't see it. But when it started to become clear I had one chile who wasn't even 2 yet, and one on the way. I wanted my family. They were THE most important thing in my life, and I couldn't see past that. I loved him more than I did myself. It took almost 4 years for me to be convinced I'd be better on my own. That's a long time, but now I can walk with my head high and know that someday, if my children ever want to talk with me about what happened, and I can look them in their eyes and truthfully say I gave it everything I had. But there comes a point where you need to let go so that you can become who you are supposed to be... for me it was being a good mom. It's amazing the energy one can focus on something. If it gives back it is sooooo worth it, but if it gives you nothing back, then it's just draining the effort you could be giving everything else in your life. IT IS A HARD LESSON TO LEARN.

ok, there I go again. Rant... rant.... rant...

I don't know you but I am so proud of your strength. I too was married to a cheater and we split up 3 years ago when my son was 18 months old. I focused on my son and being the best parent I could for him. He is a very happy 4 1/2 year old and we are heading to Disney in 20 days! It will be his 5th trip to Disney - I love Disney as a single mom - it is a place where I can enjoy hanging out with my son and have fun together.

Life is really good as a single mom and I love it. I do feel sorry for my ex because all of his bad choices are going to have him have to live with huge regrets later in life. He is in such a downward spiral that he is unable to be a good dad to his beautiful son. I could never hate him although he hurt me deeper than I have ever been hurt before - I loved him and trusted him completely - his happiness meant more to me than my own. But I also got the greatest gift of my son from being with him so I focus on how lucky I am to have my son because some people never get to have that type of joy in their lives. The pain I went through is more than worth it for the beautiful son that I have.

Anyway, I just wanted to say how proud I am of how strong you are and that you are focused on the right people - your children. I hope life brings some wonderful things your way because you deserve it.