first date??

[cindys_castle2011]

So, Im going on a "date" tonight. I refuse to call it that, i like to call it an "outing" with friends. But its going to be me, my crush, his friend, and my friend.
Were going bowling and out to eat. He's 17 and im 14. My sister began to date when she was 14 also. Ill be 15 this summer, so I actaully started later than she did. But there is NOTHING to do in my town, the closest town with everything is about 30 minutes away. My sister wasnt allowed to go to this town, with a boy driving until she was 17... Im really excited, but very nervous.
Any tips for a first date?? And whats your story about your first date, (those who have)

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

Wow he seems kinda old...
No offence I just think thats pretty old, for a 14 year old

 

[acesupercoolme]

Umm... that's way to old for you...
I really don't think you'd end up being more than just friends with the age difference.

 

[Babyjustrun]

Well, if he's 17, he's either a Junior who JUST turned 17, or a Senior who's turning 18.
If he's a Junior, it's not that bad.
Senior.. ehh..

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

Im almost 13, and I like a 14 year old. I dont consider that too bad, but 3 years? Thats pushing it.. I think..

 

[cindys_castle2011]

Well, if he's 17, he's either a Junior who JUST turned 17, or a Senior who's turning 18.
If he's a Junior, it's not that bad.
Senior.. ehh..

Oh yeah he just turned 17 last month. Ill be turing 15 in 2months. He is a junior.
Im a freshman.

 

[Babyjustrun]

Not too bad then.
It's only two years.

 

[cindys_castle2011]

Umm... that's way to old for you...
I really don't think you'd end up being more than just friends with the age difference.

Well my dad, isnt happy about the age, but he's letting me go. So the age difference isnt the thing. Im sorry but could you guys give me tips, instead of telling me about the age difference. Sorrry if it sounded rude. But im aware of the age, and my parents talked to me about everything to do with that....

 

[TX~tink]

my advice for his sake, wait until your 15. just because 3 years is kind of a lot and the law is the law, they see 17 and 14 not in two months I will be 15. Granted you will most likely not be doing anything that will get him in trouble, I'm just saying you should probably wait until you get really invovled with him. Oh, and be yourself. just relax, don't put presure on yourself or the situation and it should go fine.

 

[reminisce]

for one thing, im in a grade with people two years older than me, and the age difference is NOT A BIG DEAL!. people need to get over that, now.

^^dont mean to be rude, but lets think about this for a second: in the real world, after high school, people marry and are sometimes 5 years apart. thats nothing. i personally know people whos spouses are 10 years younger than them. its NOT a big deal to have a two year age difference!!!!

now, tips....i dont really have very many for you. dont try to be someone youre not, and dont try to act older. thats VERY important. make sure you have a good time and if he turns out to be a dud, or if you run out of things to talk about, grab your friend and go to the bathroom for a few minutes. it gives you time to think, and talk to your friend without pressure. those are the key ones, but ive always thought the rest is something you have to figure out on your own

 

[K-Shong99]

I don't really think that's to old.
My boyfriend was 16 when I was 14.
Of course, I'm two months from being 16 myself now, but I don't know.
It just depends if the guy's got his mind in the right place.
But that's just me...

 

[ohdisco]

Um, seeing as she said he just turned 17, there's nothing illegal about it. Even if he were 18 and she were 15, as long as they weren't being sexually intimate, there's no law against it.

Soo, first dates! The number one rule: just be yourself. Try to avoid controversial topics, as they can be a buzzkill.

 

[KitKat_Tink]

17 and 14 isn't a bif difference...think of your parents guys..most are 2-5 years apart...

Anywho i havne't had my first date yet (and i'm a sophmore)

But i'm pretty sure i can still give you advice.

Have fun. Try to keep conversations going, be yourself. Let him talk some. If anything feels akward or like not cool or safe excuse yourself to the restroom and call for a ride home. Don't let him take advantage of you...casue some older guys do...but yeah have fun!

 

[ComfyinNautica]

He may be a little too old for you, but it's not so bad that you can't try it.

On a first date, it's good to be yourself. Try to act the way you usually do, without getting nervous. Also, try to show that you're interested in him, without being clingy.

 

[Addicted.to.Speed]

17 and 14 isn't a bif difference...think of your parents guys..most are 2-5 years apart...

Anywho i havne't had my first date yet (and i'm a sophmore)

But i'm pretty sure i can still give you advice.

Have fun. Try to keep conversations going, be yourself. Let him talk some. If anything feels akward or like not cool or safe excuse yourself to the restroom and call for a ride home. Don't let him take advantage of you...casue some older guys do...but yeah have fun!

My parents are three days apart lol

Just be yourself thats all the advice you need. And remember dont change yourself to acomidate(sp) what he wants to do. You can a little bit, but when you feel not like yourself you know its not working. People should accept you for who you are.

Best of luck

 

[Icheer560]

I've never been on a date and i'm 15. I don't want to rush anything. Plus i live in pretty small town...one high school and unfortunately not to many guys to choose from...

I don't want to date someone just so i can say "yeah i've dated"

But be yourself thats always the number one rule when it comes to guys!


HAVE FUN!!

 

[pirateprinces_dancer]

17 and 14 isn't a bif difference...think of your parents guys..most are 2-5 years apart...

Anywho i havne't had my first date yet (and i'm a sophmore)

But i'm pretty sure i can still give you advice.

Have fun. Try to keep conversations going, be yourself. Let him talk some. If anything feels akward or like not cool or safe excuse yourself to the restroom and call for a ride home. Don't let him take advantage of you...casue some older guys do...but yeah have fun!

Haha same here i've never had a BF and i'ma freshmen...i love your siggy by the way...I'm seeing PATD on like 3 weeks^^

 

[baby<3]

A junior and a freshman isn't terrible.

I'm a junior and my boyfriend is a freshman. *shrugs*

I don't see a huge problem.

Although, I'm 17 and he is 15.

 

[OmeDeBeard]

To all of you who think 3 years difference is bad, my parents married, and they're 4 years, apart, and after almost 20 years, they still love each other like crazy, it's disgusting. lol
Of course they started dating when they were 23 and 27, but still.

Anyways I hope you had fun on your outing

 

[joepic]

that's a three year difference.... I guess it's not uncommon these days. A lot of kids in my school are a few years apart.


good luck!