Finally....engaged!!!!!!!!

[Tessaluvstigger]

Hey everyone! I'm FINALLY engaged to the man of my dreams after dating for six years! This week DF and I went with my parents to Denver and yesterday we went white water rafting down the Arkansas River at the Royal Gorge after we went with my mom and dad on a dinner train in the Royal Gorge, the whole dinner was AMAZING and about halfway through Alex (DF) had all of us get up and we went outside, it was just about twilight and he starts making this big speech about how much he loves me and how he can't imagine his life without me. At that point I realized what he was doing and I have no recollection of the rest of what he said except for him asking for my daddy's permission in front of me....of course my dad said yes with huge tears in his eyes! I was so shocked even though I totally knew it was coming but I just didn't think it would happen this week! He had my parents hold on to the ring while we were rafting. I barely could choke out yes and the whole train of people were clapping and cheering for us! It was just PERFECT!!! We are shooting for December of 2012 since that's when Alex will be done with his pHD! How soon should I contact DFTW? My mom and I are going to the open house this month so I can always talk to them then!!! We are thinking of WP and ADH or American Adventure Rotunda if we have 100 people and if we decide we like Disney Photography! I've literally wanted a Disney Wedding since I was 12 and saw the Wedding Pavilion being finished...it's been common knowledge to my family that is where I'm getting married!!! My daddy is soooo cute about it, he's just so ready to give me the wedding of my dreams...not so ready to give me away, but at least him and DF and great buds!!! My mom is seriously my best friend and I know she'll take a TON of stress off of me by helping me plan especially since our tastes are identical!

The ONLY bummer we've had involves my brother and his wife. They've been married 2 years and his wife has been nothing but a nightmare almost every day of their marriage. She demanded my parents basically write her a blank check for the wedding and never ask any questions, mom didn't want to make decisions just to know where the 35 grand she was spending was going! Ever since then all my sis in law ever says about the wedding is what she didn't get never a thank you one! She's told my brother over and over she doesn't love him and has left him 3 times. Sorry, but each time you break my brother's heart it makes me dislike you just a bit more. She has actually hit my mother and has called me all kinds of names. I really don't want her there...what would you all do? Regardless I'm sooooo happy right now!!!!

 

[Princesspunkin]

CONGRATULATIONS cheer2::cheer2

Do not invite your SIL. Tell your brother he can come, but she is not welcome.
It is your wedding, your party, you invite who you want to be there. One of my cousin is upset with me because I did not invite him and told him he could not come. I am not paying for someone I do not want to be there. It is my money.

Dawn

 

[smileycrissy]

Firstly, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Do not stress over your sister in law. I understand you don't want her to come but, this may sound mean and I'm sorry if it does, if she is on the 'outs' with your brother at the time - she might not be coming! If you feel that strongly about her not attending, then tell her so. She has had no problem telling all of your family what she feels so you should have no problem telling her. It is YOUR day! And unfortunately if it ends up being a big battle within the family, then I guess you can give in and have her come.

 

[rachy]

Congratulations! x

 

[irishwishes]

Congratulations!!!!

Your SIL sounds like a nightmare and if you don't want her there don't invite her. She's made herself unwelcome.

 

[pixie921]

Congratulations on your engagement!!

 

[2nd Time Bride]

First of all - congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Second - your sis in law. You have some time but, as the other gals said, you don't have to invite her. But keep in mind she and your brother might be a package deal and he might not attend if she is not invited.

I wouldn't sweat it yet, you have a while and a lot can happen between now and then.

 

[geek+nerd]

Congratulations on your engagement!

I know all about nightmare families. . .I had a breakdown a few weeks ago because I do NOT want my uber negative grandmother at my wedding. My godmother said she's going to take care of it for me. I feel awful for not wanting her there, but I do not want to worry about when she's going to have some sort of outburst on what should be one of the happiest days of my life.

My thought is that it's your day. My dad has always told me to surround myself with people I love and who love and support me. I say if your sister-in-law doesn't fit that criteria, leave her out! You deserve to be happy and worry free on your wedding day!

 

[puente0629]

1st Congrats!!!! Welcome to the boards!!!

2nd Do not invite your SIL, she will make sure to ruin your big day and make your miserable because she is a miserable person.

3rd you can go to www.disneyweddings.com and check out their website, it has lots of information and pricing

4th a lot of brides here have used Disney photography and have loved them...we opted to use Misty Miotto (www.mistymiotto.com) because we wanted something different and she is one of the best.

Let me know if you need anymore info, I'll be happy to help!

 

[Tessaluvstigger]

Thanks to everyone for the congrats!!! I am still so just overwhelmingly excited! My dad is what is really sweet and cute...he just keeps throwing out ideas...he is adamant about the fact that I'm getting Cinderella's Coach, even when I try to explain how expensive it is! I'm so happy he is this excited and wanting to be involved.

As for my sis-in-law for now I'm just going to not stress. IF and it's a BIG if my brother and her are still married I'll deal with it then. I think part of my frustration is that her and I used to be very close and in the last two years she's just become a totally different person. I think part of it is that her and my brother had zero money when they got married and my parents still help them with a lot of bills since my brother is in medical school, I think she sees me and DF having good jobs and almost done with grad school and able to afford stuff on our own and she gets extremely jealous. I in return get upset because my parents continue to do so much even as snotty as she has become. I'm just gonna hope the sweet girl she used to be comes back again soon!!!

My mom and I are goin to the DFTW Open House at the end of this month together so I'm sure I'll pick up a ton of info there!!!! Let the planning begin!!!

 

[PartofDisney'sWorld]

Thanks to everyone for the congrats!!! I am still so just overwhelmingly excited! My dad is what is really sweet and cute...he just keeps throwing out ideas...he is adamant about the fact that I'm getting Cinderella's Coach, even when I try to explain how expensive it is! I'm so happy he is this excited and wanting to be involved.

As for my sis-in-law for now I'm just going to not stress. IF and it's a BIG if my brother and her are still married I'll deal with it then. I think part of my frustration is that her and I used to be very close and in the last two years she's just become a totally different person. I think part of it is that her and my brother had zero money when they got married and my parents still help them with a lot of bills since my brother is in medical school, I think she sees me and DF having good jobs and almost done with grad school and able to afford stuff on our own and she gets extremely jealous. I in return get upset because my parents continue to do so much even as snotty as she has become. I'm just gonna hope the sweet girl she used to be comes back again soon!!!

My mom and I are goin to the DFTW Open House at the end of this month together so I'm sure I'll pick up a ton of info there!!!! Let the planning begin!!!

Wow! You're engagement is soooo sweet! Congratulations!!

Good idea not worrying about your SIL being invited just yet. You never know what can happen between now and your wedding, everything could turn around for the better! I also have a family issue: One of my mom's sisters (my aunt) is an alcoholic, and I told my mom I do NOT want her at my wedding because she will be drunk the whole time. And I mean...DRUNK. It's really bad, she even lost her own kids over it and has 2 DUI's. My mom said it's fine, but we are all hoping she will get better, and if she does, she is more than welcome to come.

Woohoo for the Cinderella Coach! That is one of my MUST haves and I'm not giving it up! LOL! ADH and AAR are so beautiful for the wedding! We are having ours at ADH, we originally wanted AAR but it wouldn't fit in our budget. Plus if you go with ADH then you can use your own photographer.

I'll be at the Open House too! It'll be fun!

Again, Congrats! You'll have so much fun planning!

 

[brer rabbit 28]

Congratulations! You'll have so much fun planning your big day, everyone on the board is really helful and I have picked up so much good advice while planning our wedding.

We are only having a small wedding due to family politics, don't invite anyone who might stress you out, that's my advice.

 

[pigletgirl]

Congratulations!!!!

I probably have an unpopular opinion but it really isn't polite to single her out and not invite her. I have a family member who is just plain crazy, and yet they are still coming. No way around that. I won't let her ruin my day though. I cannot control her behaviour. But, maybe since she's left him 3 times already maybe you won't have to worry about her when its time to send out the invites.