Feeling sad...

[Saxton]

I know there may be a lot of pain but don't count anyone out, I've seen through a friend of mine and her family that people can change. When this friend came out to her mother the mom said things I can't repeat on here. She was as mean and hateful as anyone could possibly be. For years my friend had no contact with her mom, her brother & sister-in-law and their two kids. It hurt her but she knew she had to be true to herself. When she and her partner had a committment ceremony and reception none of her family was there.

Well, within the last 2 years there has been a total change. I don't know what the spark was but now her mom accepts her and her partner. I never thought this day would come but now she has a great relationship with her mom. Maybe your partner won't have the same happy ending with her family but you two will be together and that's what really matters. If things get better with her family then it will be an unexpected gift. Oh, and congratulations to both of you!!

 

[jharrowell]

I'm sorry to hear it went badly for both of you, rejection can be a hard thing to take.

I do hope things work out and that DP's family come around, but if they don't you need to remember where your priorities are and who comes first.

My father stopped talking me the day I moved in with my partner and to this day I've not heard a word from him.

That was 10 years ago.

Yes that was a hard thing to come to terms with but my partner means more to me than anything and if that means losing connection to that part of my family, then so be it.

Again I hope things work out for the best, but if not, howeve much it hurts at the time, wit a loving partner at your side it's not the end of the world.

 

[npmommie]

the stories here of parental rejection just make me so sad. I can not fathom how a parent can do that to their child. It brings tears to my eyes.
OP, I hope your DP's mother comes around, I hope it all works out.
This should be a happy time for you both.

 

[SingingMUA]

Again... thanks for all the support. It really means a lot...

DP's dad has also gotten in on the "what are you thinking?!?!?" bandwagon. He called her a couple days ago, and told her that he had heard that she sent out a "disturbing" email. He basically told her that she has lost her mind, and that it's time for her to "take care of herself" and stop "taking care of me". Some background here, her older sister and twin brother, and also her parents (but not to the extent of her sister and brother) think that I'm taking advantage of her, and that I'm with her for her money.

The thing about that is, when we met, and then eventually got involved, I made a lot more money than she did at the time. And it was that way for quite a while. It just so happened that she sort of "fell into" a great job, that pays her well (though they don't know how much she makes exactly), and she now makes more than me. The thing is, they don't KNOW how much I make, they just assume that I don't make a lot of money, and am therefore dependent on DP to pay all my bills and buy me stuff (soooo NOT true). So they assume, based on where she works, that she must make a ton of money, and that I, (based on my job) do not.

Anyhoo, that's where things are now. It's still a very tough situation, and with the holidays coming up right now, I don't know what's gonna happen. DP is already thinking that she may not have T-giving dinner with her folks, due to the fact that it will most likely be very awkward and tense. I'm not sure what to tell her about that, because if it were me, I wouldn't want to go there either (I haven't actually really been around her parents in about 2 years due to snide remarks and comments made by her dad that basically say he thought I was around too much).

Again, thanks for the support... I'll keep you guys updated.