Feeling just awful today...

[JerseyJanice]

Our good friends and neighbors are moving. Their youngest son and my son have been almost inseparable for the past three years. I am heartbroken to see them go.

They bought a bigger, newer house on an acre of land about 45 minutes from here. Can't blame them for "moving up" but we're going to miss them terribly.

Yes, we can keep in touch, but it's not the same thing as having them across the street. Our boys were constantly ringing each other's doorbells. In the summer, they're out late playing Manhunt. We belonged to the same swim club. Last summer, they were having a lot of difficulties with their middle son who is severely autistic. I had the other two boys with me at the pool almost every day.

I am simply heartbroken over this. I feel almost as bad as if someone passed away.

 

[Serena]

 

[lowie]

Our good friends and neighbors are moving. Their youngest son and my son have been almost inseparable for the past three years. I am heartbroken to see them go.

They bought a bigger, newer house on an acre of land about 45 minutes from here. Can't blame them for "moving up" but we're going to miss them terribly.

Yes, we can keep in touch, but it's not the same thing as having them across the street. Our boys were constantly ringing each other's doorbells. In the summer, they're out late playing Manhunt. We belonged to the same swim club. Last summer, they were having a lot of difficulties with their middle son who is severely autistic. I had the other two boys with me at the pool almost every day.

I am simply heartbroken over this. I feel almost as bad as if someone passed away.

sorry your friends are moving, the good thing is that it is really not that far. my ds's best friend across the street, moves next week, but they are going to NC from florida. there are no other young boys around here for him either

 

[luvmy2sams]

Been through this myself, only our friends moved from OK to FL. DD still misses them..it just not the same anymore. It sure gives us an added reason to anticipate our trips to the Mouse, though.

I know just how you feel. to you!

 

[JerseyJanice]

That's a shame, Iowie. We are very fortunate that there are still a lot of other boys who live here.

I'll never forget how we first met this child. I didn't allow my son to play "in the street" when he was a preschooler and kindergartener. Early in the school year when DS was in first grade, we had a garage sale. It was a bust; I lugged a ton of stuff outside and sat there all day to make $35.

But it was the day this boy and my son became friends. He bought a Chuck E. Cheese Pizza Oven from us for 50 cents. (What a horrible toy that thing was!) He brought it home and came back to play with my son on our lawn. After that, he started ringing our doorbell at least once a day.

These past couple of weeks, the two boys have spent even more time together--as if I thought that was even possible. I guess the boy was clinging to my son. Now I feel bad that they got even more attached.

My son is with my sister for the weekend; she's taken him to her company picnic. I'm glad he's not around to see me taking it so bad. I can't stop crying.

 

[disykat]

Our neighbors moved when our boys were in 3rd grade. They had been best buds sinced we moved in right before Kindergarten. They had a really tough time. The boy who was moving had it even tougher. They left early in the morning and we found a note he had written taped to our door. I guess he had been up all night really upset. It was heartbreaking.

The boys kept in touch by telephone etc. We visted once while on vacation after 5th grade and even had the boy join us for part of our vacation. They're in 7th now and still call each other occasionally. Since they live on the other side of the U.S., more visits are probably not in the cards. At 45 minutes away, hopefully you'll be able to plan sleepovers, etc.

My son has never had the same kind of friendship again and has no one in the neighborhood to play with. I'm glad he had the experience.

 

[escape]

JerseyJanice -

Moving days are horrible!!!! I can still remember when my two best friends moved to different cities a few years ago. I cried like a baby .... and I'm an adult!

More hugs and pixie dust for you .

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I'm so sorry that you and your son are having to go through this! I place such an importance on the early friendships that when we moved 6 years ago when my youngest child was born I would only consider a house in our elem school district. My DH wanted us to consider a house further out of town (he works at home), but I didn't want the kids to switch schools and leave their friends. The didn't have closer neighborhood friends, but they had close school friends who were good kids and I didn't want them starting all over again if I could help it. I know that people move all the time and it works out fine, but we didn't have to have our kids transfer schools, so why make them? (we needed a bigger house with our kids kids)?

Hang in there--I know it will be tough for awhile. You're basically grieving even though nobody died.

 

[justplaingoofy]

Pixie dust all around!!

 

[Savsmommy]

We moved when I was 10 from Ohio to Florida. My best friend and I cried, we met each other in our Kindergarten class. I always wondered what it would have been like if we didn't move, Middle School, High School etc... I am 31yo and I still keep in touch with her by email but believe it or not I haven't seen her since I moved. Big hugs to you!! Do you know who is moving in there house? Maybe it will be another family with a boy your son's age.

 

[disneymouse]

wow. the same thing happened to us 2 weeks ago! our good friends / neighbors moved from fl and are now in GA. I cried too our kids are good friends plus they were so sweet to my 2 year old. we used to sit outside together for hours watching our kids play..it's certianly been quiet around here lately.

 

[JerseyJanice]

I knew you all here would be so sweet and thank you guys. I'm feeling so hurt and wanting some empathy, KWIM?

What can I say? For a while now, I envisioned my son and their youngest growing up together. They're close to another boy, and the three of them have been like the Three Musketeers. Always together, always interested in the same things. They are such BOYS! I know nowadays there's concern about kids getting unfit from watching TV or playing video games all the time, but that's nothing we've ever had to be concerned about here.

These three boys are in constant motion; if they aren't running or playing a game with a ball, then they're on some form of wheels. Bikes, Heelies, skates, scooters, skateboards--you name it. If there's some way of moving faster or more, these three boys do it and are great at it.

The third child's mom and I have been a wreck all week. This move is a real loss to the block.

Do you know who is moving in there house? Maybe it will be another family with a boy your son's age.

All I know is what the sellers told me. It's a younger couple (late 20's or early 30's) who are both professionals that work in New York City. We're just a few miles out from the City, and the houses here are older and smaller than a lot of people want to stay with for life. It suits us to stay here right now, but I can understand why some move on and why others consider this a "starter home neighborhood."

Still, we have something on this block money can't buy--we're all good friends and neighbors.

I don't blame this family for moving on, but it's hard to imagine that they'll find a place with more caring friends than they had here.

 

[disneymouse]

[Still, we have something on this block money can't buy--we're all good friends and neighbors.

I don't blame this family for moving on, but it's hard to imagine that they'll find a place with more caring friends than they had here. [/QUOTE]

i know! those things aren't easy to come by either that's why i'm so sad to see my neighbors move too. i know it will take some time to get used to them being gone- it's nice to know i'm not the only one 'grieving'

 

[Kahana-ri]

I am sorry, a big to you. My best friend and family are moving too in July. Out of state even. Needless to say, I am just in denial right now.

 

[Lynn CC]

to you and your family. We had a boy move out of the neighborhood when my DS was younger and it was a tough loss for his friends on our Lane. My DS, and 2 other boys and the boy that moved were all close friends always playing in motion too. Surpirsingly enough, they got over it faster than expected and the 3 boys that were still here (and still are) just carried on with their games for years. It's hard to believe that they are all in college now! It seems like yesterday that they were young and having fun day in and day out together.
They barely speak to one another, they all went in different directions one's into sports, one is into partying, and my son is vert intellectual and likes to keep busy with volunteering, reading etc..
So they all found different friends during High School.
Change is tough sometimes, isn't it?

 

[palmtreegirl]