Feeling guilty

[Promomx2]

This has been a crazy year for us. DD got married and moved 400 miles away in Jan.; Dh, ds and I took a busy vacation to Fl in July; we bought ds his first car and now in the process of restoring it (equals money and every weekend); dd is now pregnant and moved 600 miles away. Dh's job has been a pain to him and right now I'm stuck on the couch with a pinched nerve in my back. Anyway, I got the idea of just Dh and I flying down to wdw for 3 days right before or during thanksgiving for a second honeymoon (it's been 27 years), but we''d have to have ds 15 stay with dh's mom. I know he'd be bored but fine, it's I just am feeling guilty about spending the money and the time away from my ds. But then I feel to go ahead and go, because next year we'd be visiting the new grandbaby and to go while we can, we suddenly lost a good neighbor also this year and I have family that no longer speak because of the wedding. I guess I need someone to tell me it's ookay to leave your kid for 4 days and enjoy life.

 

[ols386]

Of course it's ok to leave your ds for 3-4 days. I don't see anything wrong with that at all. Sounds like it would be good for you and your dh to get away, just the two of you. Will you be able to travel with a pinched nerve in your back?

I hope things get better for you.

 

[golfgal]

It's 4 days, I wouldn't even blink an eye leaving a 15 year old home with Grandma for 4 days. GO.

 

[luvmy3jewels]

It sounds like you have had a busy and stressful year! Don't feel guily, just GO and have a good time. Life's too short and you never know what is around the corner. Sometimes its important for spouses to just get away and have fun together to unwind. Ds is old enough that he can take care of himself (particularly with his grandma's help).

 

[MIGrandma]

You're not abandoning your kids, you're taking a well-deserved short vacation for yourself and your husband. There is NOTHING wrong with that. In fact, I've always been one to encourage couples to spend time together, without the kids. It does the couple good to spend time with just each other, and it does the kids good to spend a few days with grandparents or some other caring family member or friend. It's a good thing!!

DH and I have been married 35 years yesterday and EVERY year we have ALWAYS spent at least ONE (or more if possible) night away from the kids each year. Usually to celebrate our anniversary, to go away to a nice hotel or B&B. Or in later years when we could afford it we would go away for several days and leave the kids with grandparents or aunts/uncles. Of course we vacationed with our kids too, it's not like we left them home every time. But I just feel it's important for couples to spend a little time alone together every once in awhile.

I say GO, and enjoy yourselves!! Do not feel guilty!!

 

[Tinkermommy]

This has been a crazy year for us. DD got married and moved 400 miles away in Jan.; Dh, ds and I took a busy vacation to Fl in July; we bought ds his first car and now in the process of restoring it (equals money and every weekend); dd is now pregnant and moved 600 miles away. Dh's job has been a pain to him and right now I'm stuck on the couch with a pinched nerve in my back. Anyway, I got the idea of just Dh and I flying down to wdw for 3 days right before or during thanksgiving for a second honeymoon (it's been 27 years), but we''d have to have ds 15 stay with dh's mom. I know he'd be bored but fine, it's I just am feeling guilty about spending the money and the time away from my ds. But then I feel to go ahead and go, because next year we'd be visiting the new grandbaby and to go while we can, we suddenly lost a good neighbor also this year and I have family that no longer speak because of the wedding. I guess I need someone to tell me it's ookay to leave your kid for 4 days and enjoy life.

My hubby and I take a few weekend trips a year so I think it's perfectly fine.

I bolded the above because I would not leave my children on a holiday. I would pick another weekend. I love Thanksgiving and it's all about being with family.

So for me, 4 days away from the kids, no problem. Being away on Thanksgiving, I wouldn't do it.

 

[Freyja]

Go go go!!!!!!! Have a magical time

 

[WDSearcher]

What did your son say when you mentioned the possibility?

Not that I'd necessarily base all of my plans on the opinion of a 15YO, but if he's all, "Whatever, mom ... knock yourself out", then you can go without the guilt.

If he's more, "Seriously? You would leave me alone on THANKSGIVING?" Then you might want to talk that through ...

 

[SC Minnie]

We left DD16 with my mom last Oct for 4 days while DH and I went to WDW. Didn't kill her and she got to spend on quality time with grandma.

 

[cm8]

This has been a crazy year for us. DD got married and moved 400 miles away in Jan.; Dh, ds and I took a busy vacation to Fl in July; we bought ds his first car and now in the process of restoring it (equals money and every weekend); dd is now pregnant and moved 600 miles away. Dh's job has been a pain to him and right now I'm stuck on the couch with a pinched nerve in my back. Anyway, I got the idea of just Dh and I flying down to wdw for 3 days right before or during thanksgiving for a second honeymoon (it's been 27 years), but we''d have to have ds 15 stay with dh's mom. I know he'd be bored but fine, it's I just am feeling guilty about spending the money and the time away from my ds. But then I feel to go ahead and go, because next year we'd be visiting the new grandbaby and to go while we can, we suddenly lost a good neighbor also this year and I have family that no longer speak because of the wedding. I guess I need someone to tell me it's ookay to leave your kid for 4 days and enjoy life.

no you don't life is already telling you too!!!! Hope you have a blast

 

[wvjules]

I wouldn't leave my child to go on vacaiton on a holiday either. Any other time is fine but just not the holidays. IMO, of course.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

It would depend on the holiday. For us Thanksgiving isn't that big of a deal so it wouldn't even hit the radar (all our family is either out of state or with their in-laws). Christmas would be a definite NO. Easter is more religious than bunnies and eggs so probably not.

Try to go before Thanksgiving and have a blast. This way you can enjoy yourself and won't feel any mommy guilt for being away over Thanksgiving. And BTW, WDW is quite crowded on Thanksgiving day. We spent it at MK and had dinner at the Poly last year.

 

[Magic Mom]

It's three days and he's 15. Unless he has some emotional issues you aren't mentioning, he will be just fine. Go and have fun.

 

[Promomx2]

Thanks for all the support. We picked right before thanksgiving because ds has the wed-thur-fri off from school, our wedding anniversary is nov 26. And the past years thanksgiving has only been just us four and dd won't be able to come home (we're hoping she'll come home for christmas) and dh and I went to wdw for 1 day on our honeymoon and we have always wanted to go back to see the christmas decorations and of course ds doesn't care about decorations. Ds says he'd rather stay with a friend instead of gma, but I think 3 nights is too long to be at a friend's house. If we left on monday night, we could be home on thanksgiving and have a late dinner, but that would mean ds missing one day of school, which I don't think is a big deal. We're going to have a family meeting tonite to discuss everything.

My back is getting better so I hoping this is a one-time thing. It was weird, I bent over to pick up a tshirt off the floor and wham, it felt like someone pinched my side with metal thongs.

 

[Aimros]

ABSOLUTELY GO! And do not feel guilty one bit! You're only going for 3 days and it sounds like you and your DH need time to enjoy yourselves and eachother for a change! Stop worrying so much and get excited!

I wish my parents had the time to go on more vacations together... savor your time together!

 

[mumom95]

If it makes you feel any better, 4 years ago when my kids were 5 and 6 we left them for two weeks with grandma and grandpa while we went on a 10 year anniversary trip to Alaska. They survived and actually loved it. Grandma and Grandpa's house is like a vacation (although, I'm sure with an teen that may not always be the case).

We've left the kids with the grandparents for many weekend getaways. Heck this past mother's day I went on a girls only cruise with some girlfriends.

Just because you have kids doesn't mean you have to give up everything else. And I think it's good for kids to see that their parents have a relationship that is their own.

That all being said, we are going to Hawaii next year for our 15th anniversary and decided to take the kids. They are old enough now that I really enjoy vacationing with them.