Feeling guilty

[Suellen]

I would feel too guilty to do it. Catholic Guilt runs pretty deep around here!

As much as I would love to take a kids free trip any where ~ I enjoy spending time with my girls too much and know the time they will want to travel with us is so short. I am guessing when the hit 14, 15 they won't want to go with us.

I would LOVE it and wish I could do it. But I would miss them too much.

 

[disneyfantotheend]

I thought I posted to this thread, but I don't see it.

Anyway, my kids are now 13 and 16 and I couldn't go on a vacation without them, never could even when they were younger. I basically bribed my DS to go along this time, because I just couldn't imagine not having him along. But I do look forward to an adult only trip when they are on their own.

I don't think there is anything wrong with going alone, just that I wouldn't do it.

 

[monorail girl]

HI! I agree that you and your hubby should go. Your kids will have a great time with Grandma. My husband and I are going solo in Jan 2011 for the 1/2 marathon. The kids are going in Nov. 2010. I am looking forward to the long weekend. Offers to watch the kids do not come that often. Have a great getaway

 

[MichelleVW]

I would go. Parents need alone time, it's only going to strengthen your marriage. Have fun and don't feel guilty, your taking them in September!

I agree!! They will have a great time with their grandma!! Congrats for booking your trip! You will miss them and you will say things like "oh, Bobby would have loved that" But you will still have a fun but different Disney vacation. I miss my girls when they don't come with me, but I still have fun!

I would feel too guilty to do it. Catholic Guilt runs pretty deep around here!

As much as I would love to take a kids free trip any where ~ I enjoy spending time with my girls too much and know the time they will want to travel with us is so short. I am guessing when the hit 14, 15 they won't want to go with us.

I would LOVE it and wish I could do it. But I would miss them too much.

My girls are 17 and 19 and still haven't hit that point yet!

 

[Planogirl]

I would feel too guilty to do it. Catholic Guilt runs pretty deep around here!

As much as I would love to take a kids free trip any where ~ I enjoy spending time with my girls too much and know the time they will want to travel with us is so short. I am guessing when the hit 14, 15 they won't want to go with us.

I would LOVE it and wish I could do it. But I would miss them too much.

My 17 year old son still gladly goes to WDW! They don't necessarily ever want to quit going on trips. Of course, that's the only exception.

I say go and quit worrying about it. At that age, they are normally happy to stay with Grandma plus they have their own trip to look forward to.

 

[marielynn724]

definitely go! it will be such a different experience for you being there just the two of you adults. you may not get another opportunity! also, don't worry about what other people say - i got a lot of "why are you going THERE!?" from people when we decided to go to disney on our honeymoon. it's YOUR vacation!!! do what will be the most fun for you.

as for your kids, you said you are bringing them back in september. so it's not like they are missing out. since you love disney so much, i'm sure you will get to bring your kids plenty of times. take the opportunity to do something romantic with you and your hubby! and maybe bring back something really nice for the kids

there's no reason to feel guilty!

 

[marielynn724]

i'd like to add - i'm 23 and my sister is 26 and we STILL travel with our parents! it's just now our fiances come too! my parents never went anywhere without us (except to dinner on their anniversary) and i always thought that they should have done stuff together more, just the two of them. kids always love being with their grandparents, too.

 

[selina4disney]

definitely go! it will be such a different experience for you being there just the two of you adults. you may not get another opportunity! also, don't worry about what other people say - i got a lot of "why are you going THERE!?" from people when we decided to go to disney on our honeymoon. it's YOUR vacation!!! do what will be the most fun for you.

as for your kids, you said you are bringing them back in september. so it's not like they are missing out. since you love disney so much, i'm sure you will get to bring your kids plenty of times. take the opportunity to do something romantic with you and your hubby! and maybe bring back something really nice for the kids

there's no reason to feel guilty!

My inlaws (second marriage for them both) went to Disney World in December 1973 on their honeymoon and they were in their 50's. I remember thinking how weird that was that someone grown up would go to Disney World. So when we got married in 1974 in April it never crossed my mind to go there...and we didn't either until years later when we took the kids. Since then our kids have grown and we keep going back as adults in our 50's and I just am sooooooo sorry this never occurred to me as a serious honeymoon destination...I think we would have had a blast and probably taken our kids a lot sooner than we did. I really feel I missed a lot not seeing the park when it was a "baby". If I had a time machine.....

As for traveling with your parents...my folks never took us because Dad didn't want to go. So I took Mom a couple years ago and she loved it...we are going back in December and taking my youngest daughter (25) with us. I have had trips alone with my youngest daughter and my oldest son for Food and Wine and with him and my grandson...and we love these trips together. Wouldn't trade them for anything!

 

[Missus Toad]

Couldn't do it. For us, Disney time is family time. My kids are a big part of the fun for me, and I'd feel like something was missing without them.

 

[camnhan]

This is so funny that you posted this...we are going with the kids in May and I have been thinking about seeing if we could swing a long weekend in Sept/Oct for Halloween (DH favorite)....however I can't imagine going without the kids!!!
I am so torn!! We have done other trips without them (Cancun for his cousins wedding and Las Vegas with friends) and the guilt trip they layed on us about that was terrible...can't imagine what they would do if we went to Disney without them!!

 

[StuckInKS]

So i have a question for you Disney lovers. If you had the chance to do a solo trip to Disney without your kids, would you?

My wonderful mother in law has offered to take my 2 boys ages 2 and 4 in May while we do a solo trip for 5 nights. We were gonna do a trip to Vegas but decided that a Disney trip with the $500 gift card for CBR (our favorite) would be cheaper. Now my boys have been to Disney several times (May 08,May 09,Sept 09) and we are doing a family trip this september for the full week. But im feeling a little guilty that just me and my husband are planning a trip in May without them. Especially since i know my 4 year old just loves Disney. When his teacher asked him his address he said Disney World . Not to mention the fact that you have the family members and some friends who look at you like your nuts and you get the usual, why not do something else, or i wouldnt go there without my kids. Well we just LOVE Disney. lol I guess the people who are not Disney freaks like us just dont understand. Thankfully me and my husband feel the same about Disney. It just feels good to be there and going with the kids can some times be tough since they are little right now and doing our own solo trip would be nice, but i still feel that guilt. Would anyone else do a solo trip to Disney and leave there kids at home for just one time if they could? Thanks for any replies, positive or negative.

Kristin

Your kids are slightly younger than my oldest two (5.5 and almost 7), but I know that they (my kids) love to go as much as I do and ask to go everyday. My 3 year old talks about her last trip when my older two start asking about a trip, but ahe never initiates the discussion or talks about what she will do on our next trip like my oldest two. My youngest, who is 2, doesn't even know what's going on until we get there. So, if I could leave my kids (personally, I miss them if they stay at my grandma's overnight, so I couldn't leave them for a trip anyway) then I wouldn't feel guilty about my 2 and 3 year old because they would hardly know the difference, but I would my 5 and 6 year old because that is ALL they talk about.

Edited to add: If we had just did a family trip a few months before the solo trip or if we planned to go as a family within the next few months after the solo trip AND if the solo trip was very short (3 days or so) then I wouldn't feel as bad.

 

[JennMouse32]

So i have a question for you Disney lovers. If you had the chance to do a solo trip to Disney without your kids, would you?

My wonderful mother in law has offered to take my 2 boys ages 2 and 4 in May while we do a solo trip for 5 nights. We were gonna do a trip to Vegas but decided that a Disney trip with the $500 gift card for CBR (our favorite) would be cheaper. Now my boys have been to Disney several times (May 08,May 09,Sept 09) and we are doing a family trip this september for the full week. But im feeling a little guilty that just me and my husband are planning a trip in May without them. Especially since i know my 4 year old just loves Disney. When his teacher asked him his address he said Disney World . Not to mention the fact that you have the family members and some friends who look at you like your nuts and you get the usual, why not do something else, or i wouldnt go there without my kids. Well we just LOVE Disney. lol I guess the people who are not Disney freaks like us just dont understand. Thankfully me and my husband feel the same about Disney. It just feels good to be there and going with the kids can some times be tough since they are little right now and doing our own solo trip would be nice, but i still feel that guilt. Would anyone else do a solo trip to Disney and leave there kids at home for just one time if they could? Thanks for any replies, positive or negative.

Kristin

I personally dont have any kids, but my cousin who is going with me this year, has 3, and my friend that went last year with me has 1, and they were both thrilled to get away for once.. if you dont everything else with your kids, i dont see why you should feel guilty.. its calle grown up time.. every one deserves it.. my cousin cant wait, she has a 12 year DS, 4 year old DS, and a 1 year old DD, as well as a jerk for a DH.... it will be her first vacation away from all the kids.. ​

 

[lunapnp]

Just out of curiosity: for all the people who have said NO...they wouldn't go without their kids....is it because the OP is going to Disney? Or, would you NEVER take a trip without your child(ren)?

Now that that question is out of the way...Yes! Yes! Yes! Go without your kids. My husband and I are doing the same thing in May. We have been trying to take an anniversary trip for three years! Our work schedules just haven't allowed us to take time for just us. We do A LOT for our kids and provide them with basically anything they want/need...within reason, of course. So, I do not feel guilty for going without them. My husband and I usually try to take a trip (long weekend) at least once a year without our kids. But, like I said, our work schedules have prevented that for the last few years. And like a PP said, I think it shows your kids that you value your marriage and want to spend time with just your spouse. Go and enjoy your trip!

 

[Suellen]

I am 99% sure we wouldn't go away without our kids no matter where it were. MAYBE a weekend get away to celebrate and anniversary ~ maybe.

 

[camnhan]

AND..not only would I feel guilty but my DH and I would fight the entire time because I would want to get up and head to the parks and things in the morning and he would want to lay around and sleep in!!!
I can just hear him now "we are finally away from the kids getting us up early and have a chance to sleep in and you want to get up??"

hahahahaha

someday we will go...

 

[Scrappy_Tink]

Spending 5 days with Grandma is just like going to Disney World!! The boys don't even need to know you are going, they just know they get to stay with Grandma and be spoiled...this is great bonding time with Grandma, they get to bond with Mom & Dad every day!

Hope you have a wonderful time! DH and I went without the boys to food & wine fest last October, and had a wonderfully romantic time. Every marriage needs some time to "recharge" the love life! Sleep in, have long nice dinners together, stay up late and enjoy a few frou-frou drinks, without feeling you can't get a little tipsy because you have other responsibilities to tend to. but most importantly...leave your guilt at home, the boys are being taken well care of!

 

[Missus Toad]

Just out of curiosity: for all the people who have said NO...they wouldn't go without their kids....is it because the OP is going to Disney? Or, would you NEVER take a trip without your child(ren)?

I just got back from an overnight without the kids in Atlantic City and had a lot of fun with just DH. I'd go other places without them for short periods of time, but Disney happens to be our family place.

 

[saradela]

Sorry if I am the only one, but no, I wouldnt go, ,when I go to Disney, I want to take even my dogs! !!!!!

Anyways, I always envy the people that can make the guilt go away....and enjoy life....

 

[joannalh]

I would absolutely go on a vacation with my husband and no kids. Since we moved far away from family that's something I really miss-the opportunity for them to spend some time with grandparents and other family members while we have some time away. I think it's really important for parents to do things for themselves sometimes-good for both the parents and the kids. Whether I'd pick Disney, given the opportunity to go away, I'm not sure. But if I didn't it would have nothing to do with feeling guilty.

 

[JennMouse32]

parents need a break from everyday life too, that means from the kids too​