Feeling down and feeling like I want to binge

[lvs_eeyore]

Something bad happened at work today which is culminating in a pow wow at the office tomorrow. Im so upset, sad, and depressed that I just feel like saying to heck with it and eating whatever I want. I know this isnt good for me and isnt going to change anything. Im a comfort food eater....I tend to eat when Im stressed.

I know Im not going to lose my job or anything but I will have to be confrontational and thats something Im just not good at. Im not going to let them talk me into the ground because I have done the best that I can do.

 

[glo]

I am so sorry something bad happened at work. That really stinks and I wish it never happened but honey you can stop yourself from eating what you know is not good for you. If you can confront these people even if you do not want too, and you can defend yourself, you can stop from eating. The food you eat is not going to make anything better...I promise if anything you will only feel worse tomorrow when you think about it and still have to go through this.


Big hugs to you sweetie. You can do anything you set out to do. Just drink some water...go for a walk. Listen to your fave music...or come here and vent...we will listen, but don't go eat.


hugs

 

[ahutton]

I am also often a stress eater. I remind myself constantly that of the things around me that seem to be out of my control and upsetting me, that what I eat is something I can control, it is a place where I can pull the ropes back in. It doesn't mean I'm perfect, far from it, but it feels good to be able to say I didn't do something that would hurt me, and make me feel sick on top of it.

 

[lvs_eeyore]

Glo I know you are right. It will only make me feel worse tomorrow. I dont need that on top of what Im already feeling. Ive had two cups of coffee trying to both fill myself up and also to flush away what the bloat fairy has put on me the past couple of days. Been really good on my diet and I gained two pounds as of this morning. That wasnt a good start to my day and then I got tounge lashed the minute I walked into work by phone of course. What makes me angriest and most upset is that I have been telling them of the problem Ive been having for months and I keep getting the answer....well at least you have job security. Now she yells at me for what Ive been asking for help with for months!!! Ive told my boss SEVERAL times Im overwhelmed and I have told the office manager the same thing. She is the one that made the comment about job security not once but several times. I wish I could just cry and get all these feelings out but Im just not a crier. This will stew all night with me and probably cause me not to be able to sleep tonight. Just what I need. I dont need to be going in there dead on my feet to defend myself.

 

[RaySharpton]

{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}

God bless you, best wishes and encouragement, RaySharpton

 

[glo]

Oh sweetie. I am so sorry you are in this situation. I know that the food won't help though. What I do think will help is to get it off your chest. Maybe think of what you want to tell your boss tomorrow and practice it on us or your DH. If the office manager knows then remind her...of they converstion. I know it is easy for me to say because I am not in your shoes, but I doknow I fall apart when things at work happen. They tear me apart...

Try and take a deep breathe. You are doing everything you can do. Tell them that. I will say a prayer for you.

Big hugs and feel free to pm me if you need a shoulder tonight.

 

[AlreadyexcitedGrammy]

eaten- that is good - you came here and Glo has good advice. I "feel where you are coming from" work and stress eating.

Hang in there and I know it is hard - but, can you try not to put the person who will be in the driver's seat tomorrow in a corner, I think most of the time that makes it worse. (don't back down, but you just be the better of the two in the conversation) I agree, take a deep breath and then give your speel and if you can be the one in charge of yourself and your words you will be the "winner" no matter what happens. I believe in the power of prayer and I have sent some up for you already, also sending positive thoughts, and much PD your way for a good night sleep and just the right words to make you look your best tomorrow.

Many {{{{{hugs}}}}} take them with you and "feel" one just when you need it most. Just pretend that we are there with you-
one time someone gave me a "trinket" and told me to put it in my pocket and it represented them being with me - maybe that would work too - if you got a big group of WISHers surrounding you how can anyone dare "hurt" you!!!! You will be on my mind tomorrow too!

 

[Meriweather]

{{{{hugs}}}} Karen.
You can do it.....go look at the gorgeous vow renewal dress and think of the ceremony

 

[nativetxn]

Our Miss glo is very wise, isn't she? Listen to her. She's right you know. You can do anything you <i>want</i> to do...<i><b>anything!</i></b>

You are going to be just fine. If you feel unsure or worried at all tomorrow, just remember your friends here on WISH. Remember that we believe in you. Remember that we are proud of you. Remember, most of all, how much we care about you.

You can do this. You are going to stay in control and you are going to be just fine. We'll all be waiting right here for you.

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[glo]

Givimg Kath a standing O for just the right words

Kath, wise I am not...crazy maybe...but not wise...lol

All of us stand behind and beside you...you are not alone

 

[lvs_eeyore]

Thank you so much everyone for all your kind words. I will keep you all with me tomorrow at the pow wow. Katholyn thank you so much for that wonderful tune. I cannot tell you how much that made me smile and really helped to empower me. I AM WOMAN, I AM INVICIBLE and I will NOT let them get to me or let them make me eat stuff I shouldnt. I am in CONTROL not THEM. If I binge then THEY win. I WANT TO WIN!!! You are all the BEST!!!!

Glo thank you for being there for me tonight. You have helped me more than you will ever know. (((((HUGS))))))

 

[glo]

Hugs sweetie...that is what we are here for, to help and support eachother. We are all important and all worth it. You my friend have to believe that and keep it in you

Hugs, you will not be alone tomorrow

 

[Kelsie]

I'm going to give you 7 words that have helped me through many difficult times and situations. Ready??

<b>I will be alive when it's over!</b>

And, it will be over soon!

You are a strong, confident woman and you will get through this. Just think how proud you will be when it's <b>OVER</b> tomorrow and you didn't turn to food. I know you can do this and come out feeling proud of how you handled the situation.

(((hugs)))

 

[O'BWV]

I'm sooo sorry for your trouble tonight. It stinks when there is tan issue at work. It's really awful that you have to endure that powwow tomorrow, but that is something that is out of your control right now. Eating tonight, well that is in your control right now. Trying concentrating tonight on the things you can control. I have every confidence that you can hang tough tonight and give 'em h*ll tomorrow. We are all here for you and all believe in you! I, too, will be thinking of you tomorrow. Good Luck tomorrow but more importantly, good luck tonight!!


((((((Hugs))))))


-Mary Rose, the diet diva

 

[Mskanga]

LvsEeyore;
{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}} for you my friend, but food is never the answer to anything.
Hang on my friend, this too shall pass!

 

[John In Illinois]

I hope everything works out for you today, don't allow this to hurt you physically as well.

You can get through this without "falling off the wagon".

Good luck!!

 

[lmhall2000]

What happens to you but how you respond to it that influences people. We never know why these pits are placed in our way but many can learn from how your respond to it. Be confident that you have done your best- they can not take that away- be proud that you have not binged- and go for a long walk- let some of the energy inside you be burned away.

I remember some tough times thrown my way- but then I remember the simple times where the only expectation was to be yourself and enjoy life- (fishing at my papaw's farm, camping and hiking the Rocky Mountains, the birth of my children- etc.) those moments will be much more remembered than the low times when it's all work related and really not that important.

Here's to a relatively smooth tomorrow and kudos for coming to the board than to food- we can help you much more and we're fat free (well not really but some of us anyway!)
Tara

 

[lvs_eeyore]

Thanks to all of you and a lot of willpower I got through last night and today without binging. The pow wow was interesting to say the least. Not much was accomplished at all. Im really still in the same place I was before though with the promise of help. Nothing definite. I will keep plugging along and getting it done. I did get a new phone for my desk with redial and that will help when doing calls to track down information. Something small but good. We both (coworker and I) got called on the carpet for personal phone calls. Thats gonna stop for me. I dont want to upset my boss at all because he is such a super person to work for and I make very decent money. He did say he didnt see me as shirking my responsibility and goofing off instead of working. He said he is very aware that I am trying to do my best and keep up.

 

[nativetxn]

I knew you would be fine. Aren't you glad that today is over and you didn't let the situation break you? You <i>are</i> strong!

I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an' pretend
'cause I've heard it all before
And I've been down there on the floor
No one's ever gonna keep me down again

CHORUS
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman

<b><i>You can bend but never break me
'cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul</b></i>

CHORUS

I am woman watch me grow
See me standing toe to toe
As I spread my lovin' arms across the land
But I'm still an embryo
With a long long way to go
Until I make my brother understand

Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to I can face anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
Oh, I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong

FADE
I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman

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[AlreadyexcitedGrammy]

sounds like it was okay - and you are as Kelsie put it "still alive" and we are so proud that you made it without binging! And K's song just sooooooooooooooo right!!!!!!

Still sending positive thoughts and PD your way to help get this over with for you!