Feeling Depressed

[becka]

I am now on day 6 with terrible back pain, the weather is crappy, work is stressful, home is stressful, etc...blah, blah, blah!

AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH!!! I think I need a good scream and then a good cry. I hate feeling sorry for myself but I really do right now.

It started when I injured my back last Sunday. This forced me to miss work 3 days this week and in the process have to use 2 days of vacation that I was saving to see my family. I had a surprise trip to see my parents this weekend with just DS and I for Father's Day....I was really looking forward to it but because I had to use the vacation in addition to my back pain there is no way for me to go. I will also probably have to cut 1 day off of my 4th of July trip to see my family. (I only get to see them about 3 times a year so this really upsets me). Plus I know that if I or DS gets sick again for 3-4 more days (and DH can't stay home with DS) then I will be forced to probably cancel our plans for WDW late this year because I won't have enough vacation. (It stinks to work for a company with horrid sick/vacation policies!)

DH is getting stressed because he is swamped at work and he is forced to take care of DS, the house and me since I am unable to lift DS or really help out around the house in any meaningful manner. Things have really backed up at home.

Then yesterday afternoon DH picked DS up from daycare just as they started taking his temp. He has been in a really good mood lately but has been running a low-grade fever. It has to be from his teething because he is showing no other signs of illness (not even a runny nose). Well if the temp is over 100.0 they will not take DS for 24 hours. Well DS temp when they took it was 100.1! That put us in a position where I can't take care of DS at home by myself, DH can't miss work because he is so swamped, we don't have any family here, the friends we have that don't work are on vacation or are unavilable and the other friends we have all work. So DH is having to stay home with a wonderfully happy non-sick DS today and hope that he is not doing too much damage to his job. I had to go into today but since DH could not drive me I had to risk driving myself in. I am just thankful that my back did not spasm on the way in.

Then last night we started having some work problems and I was called about 1 AM. There was lots of confusion but it basically boiled down that I really should NOT have been called after all. It was supposed to have been fixed last night but when we got in this morning it was not. Although it looks like it has just about been fixed now the automated system is still paging me and calling DH and home to let them know there is a problem!


AAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHH!

 

[CathyCanada]

Have the cry! It helps sometimes just to get the anger and frustration out. Well I do it anyway.

Is there a family member, friend or neighbour that you can call to help you out?

Hope all turns around soon and you're feeling better!
Gently hugs,
CC

 

[floridaminnie]

When times get hard I always remember this, God doesn't give us more than what we can handle. {{{hugs}}} and Pixie dust heading your way!

 

[Kitty 34]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}

 

[kamgen]

{{{{HUGS}}}} to you!!!!!

 

[binny]

(((hugs))) my friend. I hope you are feeling better soon!!

 

[hercamore]

Hi, sorry to hear this.

Summer work is in short supply this year for teens. any teen gals around who could help you out during the day?

herc.

 

[nativetxn]

I wished that I lived near you, Becka. I would so love to take care of Nathan for a day (or a week ).

I'm sorry that you are having so much pain and life is so stressful for you these days. The stress probably isn't helping your back pain much, either.

{{{HUGS}}} I hope you are feeling 100% better soon.

Katholyn

 

[FOJMO]

I know it sounds like you have a lot to be depressed about, but you have to know that threads like the following tend to put this in perspective.

http://disboards.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=387622

Things will get better. It is only temporary. Have patience.

 

[Miss Behaved]

Could be worse, you could be a broke blind paraplegic with a chronic nose bleeding problem.



SMILE

Just look at Javy, how could you NOT smile at that!

 

[olena]

So sorry, becka....*HUGS* I hope you feel better soon and that you don't have to use any more vacation days.

 

[Rajah]

*HUGS* Sorry you're feeling down, Becka. I hope your back pain goes away entirely soon.

 

[perdidobay]

(((((HUGS))))))))))
I have to say............. things will get better But don't feel bad about feeling bad right now..does that make sense??? Although others may have worse problems, that doesn't mean yours are not to be taken lightly................... I know you know you have plenty of shoulders here to lean on.......


MJ

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Ouch Ouch Ouch

I hurt my back once when DS#2 was a baby and it was agonizing just trying to get him from the crib to a changing table. Going into work and sitting for long periods was nearly impossible.

I hope you feel better soon.

 

[becka]

Yes I realize that others have bigger problems than mine. I am sorry if I offended anyone. I should know better than to whine here.

 

[Steve H.]

Originally posted by becka
Yes I realize that others have bigger problems than mine. I am sorry if I offended anyone. I should know better than to whine here.

You should never feel bad for "whining" -- you're hurting, it sucks and you have the right to complain about it.

Sorry becka -- hope you feel better.

 

[Miss Behaved]

You didn't offend me, I really hope you feel better, I just try and keep in mind that things could always be worse. When I see something on the news about an entire family being killed in a car accident, except for a 10 month old girl who's now parentless, I tend to put things into perspective and although I have problems, they're not nearly as bad as things could be. Ya know??

Best of luck

 

[floridaminnie]

Becka, everyonce in awhile we have the right to whine. Especially when you are constantly thinking about everyone else, but yourself. So have yourself a good screem and or cry. You deserve it!

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Yes I realize that others have bigger problems than mine. I am sorry if I offended anyone. I should know better than to whine here.

Constant pain is a pretty big problem. It's very hard to deal with what might seem to others to be small problems when it hurts just to go to the bathroom or take care of your baby.

Take care of yourself Becka and I hope you feel better soon.

 

[perdidobay]

Becka, feel free to Pm me antime you need a shoulder And shame on those people who down play other's problems with "you could have it worse" . It sure doesn't help at all does it?
I also personally can't stand the phrase " God doesn't give us more than we can handle" Then why do people die of grief and depression????????
I don't mean to offend anyone, but that's how I feel.