I'm sorry to hear that you are having these problems with your grandpa. My FIL is facing similar problems with his mother, but he has other siblings that are at least helping out, even in small ways--your poor dad doesn't have that.
Your parents seem to be denying the big problems. It may take a critical health crisis to "wake them up." It seems that your grandpa really needs to have his car keys removed, or his car "fixed" so he can't drive. He is a danger to himself and others. The medical bracelet is also a wonderful idea (QVC sells some very nice ones that hold comprehensive information.) Also, there are home monitoring devices such as life line and life alert that could help if your grandpa needs assistance, however, he must be in clear mind to use the call button.
One thing you mentioned was that he would eat anything. This could cause problems with his diabetes and medications. You might want to check on getting a meals on wheels program and/or home health. Your dad may be more agreeable to these steps, rather than a nursing facility. Home health can help make sure your grandpa gets his meds correctly. Also, you might want to encourage a family member to attend your grandpa's doctor's visits if they don't now. Drug interactions can cause some major health problems, as mentioned before.
One thing you might also do is keep a journal of the irrational behaviors you witness. Once your dad sees how many things that are affecting his father's health, he might be more willing to consider the options. This sounds like a touchy family issue, but hopefully the needs of your granddad will ultimately be put first. Sending you my best.
Your parents seem to be denying the big problems. It may take a critical health crisis to "wake them up." It seems that your grandpa really needs to have his car keys removed, or his car "fixed" so he can't drive. He is a danger to himself and others. The medical bracelet is also a wonderful idea (QVC sells some very nice ones that hold comprehensive information.) Also, there are home monitoring devices such as life line and life alert that could help if your grandpa needs assistance, however, he must be in clear mind to use the call button.
One thing you mentioned was that he would eat anything. This could cause problems with his diabetes and medications. You might want to check on getting a meals on wheels program and/or home health. Your dad may be more agreeable to these steps, rather than a nursing facility. Home health can help make sure your grandpa gets his meds correctly. Also, you might want to encourage a family member to attend your grandpa's doctor's visits if they don't now. Drug interactions can cause some major health problems, as mentioned before.
One thing you might also do is keep a journal of the irrational behaviors you witness. Once your dad sees how many things that are affecting his father's health, he might be more willing to consider the options. This sounds like a touchy family issue, but hopefully the needs of your granddad will ultimately be put first. Sending you my best.
