I was one of the first respondents on this post and have seen this post turn into a VERY interesting thread. I have been in the OP's position many times flying with children, not just the scenario I quoted. I also always buy my children a seat for their safety, my comfort and those other passenger around me. Do I expect my entire family to be seated together? Not anymore, after all the changes I've had to endure flying. DH and I have been separate when just reveling alone, we've been separated traveling with YOUNG children. All I really ask for now is for one of us to be seated with one of our children. We have always gotten that accomdation (a little complaining has usually helped). I also agree with Ducklite that the airlines do seem more accomdating since 9/11 than prior. The worst situation I found myself in (the one originally posted) was prior to 9/11. Since then, anytime my children and I have been separated (yes it has happened since then), I've always gotten us back together, but usually it's 2 and 2. My DS was always tagged as an infant, since he was under 2 and was charged the infant fare, and yet twice since the first incident, we have been separated due to schedule and/or equipment changes. Since then I constantly check my reservations for changes. If I note a time change or an equipment change, I call the airline to check on my seat assignments. I know the seats are assigned randomly by a computer during such a change, and there is really nothing we can do about it. When traveling with young children, you need to be more proactive in looking at your ressies to monitor your assignments. But as posted by a previous poster, the airlines are not required to keep entire families together, nor will they unless you ask. Tey are entitled to have a child under 5 accompied by a parent/gardian, and if you call and point that out prior to your flight, you will recieve it. You might not all be seated toghether, but you will have a parent per child. That's exactly what the OP does have. One parent per child, since they only one child. I think he/she is a little annoyed, since their child is a lap baby and they had planned on "sharing" the holding of the cihld. Well, maybe the OP will learn a lesson, always buy your child a seat!!!!