I'll put in a pitch for the VGF original building. Not like I'm biased since it's our original and most-loved resort.
Those villas are gorgeous, IMO. We just returned home from a week in a 1 br. They're among the larger 1brs of all. So spacious and comfortable, much more so than a studio if you have kids.
We've toured the 2br and Grand there. Those are simply posh beyond words. The Grand Villa has a separate media room which would be terrific for kids to watch their videos/tv while adults amuse themselves otherwise

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The GF has at least 4 restaurants currently open (besides V&A's), along with room service to VGF with a somewhat limited menu. There are 4 shops--Mickey Mercantile, Sandy Cove Gift Shop, Curiouser Clothiers and Basin White--for more shopping variety than the other
DVC resorts offer.
Plus, you can easily hop onto the monorail to go explore the Contemporary and Polynesian with a pleasant boat ride from the MK boat dock to Wilderness Lodge.
I do agree that WL would be an excellent choice for the not-very-Disney-hectic feeling. I'd book a Boulder Ridge villa, though. Anywhere close to the WL lobby can be quite noisy if you're in a Copper Creek one. Also, the CC ones (except the Cabins) are converted WL rooms with an odd floorplan, I think.
We very much enjoyed a brief stay in a BRV 1 br once. Even considered buying a small BR resale, it was so relaxing staying there.