Fathers & Teenage Daughters

[pw2pp]

I wouldn't worry about what is going on in his "psyche" that is causing it, I would just tell him to get over it already and be a supportive father like he should be.

 

[pw2pp]

I just re-read my post and it seems kind of harsh.

I just mean that HE is the adult and he should make an effort to show an interest in his daughter's life in order to stay close to her. It is SO important for teenage girls to have a loving, supportive father in their lives. Many girls who don't have this, end up looking for love in the arms (or beds) of boys/guys/men, and many times it is with OLDER men.

 

[MosMom]

I got along famously with my dad during my teenage years but he was really all I had so maybe that is why. He had to be mom and dad so it probably changed the dynamics of our relationship. My dad and I are so much alike though that we've never really butted heads at all over anything.

 

[UncleKyle]

I don't want daughters. If I get them then I know will know their is a God and he is punishing me. Because the second she walks in the door with a guy that looks, talks, and acts like me then I will have to kill him.

 

[Disney Doll]

My guess is that it has something to do with the dating thing and knowing they are goign to lose "their little girl" someday to another man. I htink they figure that if they are cranky now, it won't be as hard then.

My own father was a great, involved, loving man when I was a teenager, and still is. When I found my DH,. I married him because he was the closest any man ever came to being like my father.

My DBIL is also a great dad. He was putting in a mirrored closet door for my DNiece a while back, and he looked into and said "Someday I'll be watching her get dressed in her wedding gown and looking in this mirror". Moved him to tears (and me too!!!!)

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Originally posted by pw2pp
I just re-read my post and it seems kind of harsh.

I just mean that HE is the adult and he should make an effort to show an interest in his daughter's life in order to stay close to her. It is SO important for teenage girls to have a loving, supportive father in their lives. Many girls who don't have this, end up looking for love in the arms (or beds) of boys/guys/men, and many times it is with OLDER men.

I just had a talk with my DH about this after I saw a show on Dr. Phil.

My now 18 yr. old cousin has a 1 yr. old baby with a 30 yr. old guy. Her father is an alcoholic who rejected her and put her down to her face. She was definitely looking for a father figure.

 

[jocon]

Originally posted by grinningghost
He thinks all teenage boys are after one thing only. And I don't know if that's true or not, because I was never a teenage boy.

I was, and it is true Sorry, just the truth.... I anticipate that when I have a teenage daughter, the same issues will exist for me. Growing pains, ya know!

 

[LvsTnk]

Originally posted by grinningghost
I think part of the problem is DH is remembering what HE was like as teenage boy, and that's what gets him going. He thinks all teenage boys are after one thing only. And I don't know if that's true or not, because I was never a teenage boy.

I know that's the problem in my house! We just happend to mention DD's boyfriend last night at dinner and I have never seen my DH give her such a look I really felt sorry for her

 

[grinningghost]

Well folks, it looks like I'm in for a few rough years.