Far from even beginning to really plan, but...

[Briarprincess]

I really love the idea of getting married at Sunset Point. I am in love with anything remotely tropical (hence a Luau graduation party after high school), and have always dreamed of getting married there. I have a decent size family- 5 aunts, 5 uncles, my grandmother, 10 cousins, my parents, sister = 24 people. That alone puts me over an Intimate, let alone Sunset Point, and I don't even have DBF's family included in that count. I would love to have my family there, but I know I'm not going to give up easy on getting what I want. His family guests would only be his mom, younger sister, old sister + 1 kid and older sister + husband + 2 kids = 8 people. Making family we'd love to have = 32. So we'd be a custom.
Here's my planning though, and I'm looking for opinions. He's already told me plenty of times, we can get married without his family. He's close to his mom and younger sister, but not too close to the older two because of age. So it would basically be my family that's the issue. We're extremely close, so I have to be careful about inviting people. My parents said that if it's what I truly want, they'd pay for us to elope without them. But I want my oldest cousin there. Badly. And my parents, and my cousins parents, my other aunt and unle, and my sister. No one else... no one but them, me and dbf. I know my grandmother would be offended, but she wouldn't be able to handle flying down, let alone a drive. I would be the first grandchild getting married, so I'd like to have her there, but I know I won't have it in me to make sure she's always occupied (she's that type of grandmother..... ). So would I be horrible for inviting my cousin (who is my best friend, honestly) her parents (who have always treated me just like a daughter), my parents, sister and grandmother? They're all from the same side of the family, so no one from my dad's side would be there except my other aunt and uncle who are Disney nuts and are very close to us (my mom's best friend is my aunt, and my uncle and I share a birthday). I can't see myself getting married with any one of these people being there and the others not (except my parents, they have to be there).

So for the quick version of that- Would I be a horrible person for inviting only a very select few family members and not the rest?

 

[LouisianaDisneyFan]

Perhaps you could plan on a vow renewal at Sunset Point, or if you are determined to have a tropical feel, have a destination wedding someplace that can accommodate all your close relatives who would want to attend the nuptials. Or, have a wedding at home, then have a second private wedding at Sunset Point with just you and your FI so that you can have that special moment together. Many options are open to you. Good luck with your planning! ~Ev

 

[Mary626]

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

I opted for the Custom wedding because I wanted those that are most important to be there for us - well for various reasons (pregnancies, new jobs, etc), most of the people I was trying to accomodate aren't able to come to our wedding now... If I had known that I would have gone with the intimate and saved myself a heck of a lot of money!!!

I know that's not really advice per se, just my own experience. I'm sure youj'll figure out what your'e most comfortable with, once you know what you wantm, then stick to it and don't feel pressured into anything else!!!

Goodluck and have fun planning your wedding!

 

[FutureAshleyDukes]

I would be careful about not inviting anyone from his side of the family. Even though he's okay with it, they might be hurt if they find out that you two were married with only members of your family there.

I think LousianaDisneyFan's ideas are definitely something to consider. I hope all goes well with your planning!

If you want something tropical, maybe you can look into a DCL wedding.

 

[Briarprincess]

Thanks for all the advice. I'm not willing to budge on having the wedding at Disney, so if anything, we'd just do it at SeaBreeze Point. Depending on when we actually decide to get married (either May or June of 2008), it would completely change my family's availablity. All the younger cousins would be in school still if it were May, meaning we'd do it on a weekend for them to be able to come. But if it were June, we'd do late June and do a weekday. His side of the family, it's less about school and more about time off from work. And the fact that they're not very into the whole Disney idea. My family is nuts over it though . So we've more or less decided that before we book anything, we'll poll our families and find out who'd be willing to even go down. If enough say yes, then we'll do a custom.


Oh well, I don't even have an official ring on my finger yet. The closest I'm getting to that is looking around for one while we're there next week!