We did the package because there was no way we were going to have the experience we did our first time. Then, we went to the later show, and even arriving 90 minutes early, the area was jammed with people, and it just got worse. It was very hot and humid, children were crying because their feet hurt from standing so long. There was no room to have my then 8 year old son sit at my feet, people were so close together. We had to wait for the early show-goers to exit, and then begin the long walk up the hill to the area. It was horrible. I never complain about Disney, and I'm not doing that now. It's just that I, and my family, were so extremely uncomfortable that we knew it wasn't worth it to go through again. We would just save an extra few dollars and do the package, sit down and eat comfortably, no rush, get our Fantasmic pass, and walk right in down to our front seats.
We chose Mama Melrose because the food there is so good, it's nice and dimly lit which feels great after a hot day in the sun, and it's has a nice slow-pace ambiance as opposed to a bufffet. We were going to do H&V because the price was lower, but we said let's splurge and go where we really wanted.
Next time, we'll try Brown Derby, although it's ouchly expensive. I'm sure we'll do H&V someday, too! But we really liked the Italian food at Mama's.