I'm so sorry for the stress and anxiety you and your family are going through because of your husband's hospitalization. Sending prayers for a full recovery.
In regards to the issue in your original post, I recently heard a saying about how sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them. I try to take that to heart when I feel that someone outside my immediate family (kids and DH) disappoints me. We have a young adult son with moderate developmental disabilities, and in the 14+ years since he was diagnosed at the age of four, NO ONE in either my family (my 6 siblings) or my DH (his 8 surviving siblings) has ever stepped up to help us in any manner. EVER. My mom would visit before she became ill (she has Alzheimer's), but she was never in a position to be able to offer respite for us because my son is a handful, and she was in her 70's when he was born. But I have so many siblings and siblings in law (not to mention my children's cousins...there are about 50+ of them) has ever offered to help us out. We are often overwhelmed with everything that has gone on with our son over the years, but it's been solely me, my DH and my DD (who is a year and half older than him) shouldering all the burden. And maybe that's how it should be since he's our son. But if it were my sibling and I were in a position to offer help, I would, in a heartbeat. But that's just me. :/
In regards to the issue in your original post, I recently heard a saying about how sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them. I try to take that to heart when I feel that someone outside my immediate family (kids and DH) disappoints me. We have a young adult son with moderate developmental disabilities, and in the 14+ years since he was diagnosed at the age of four, NO ONE in either my family (my 6 siblings) or my DH (his 8 surviving siblings) has ever stepped up to help us in any manner. EVER. My mom would visit before she became ill (she has Alzheimer's), but she was never in a position to be able to offer respite for us because my son is a handful, and she was in her 70's when he was born. But I have so many siblings and siblings in law (not to mention my children's cousins...there are about 50+ of them) has ever offered to help us out. We are often overwhelmed with everything that has gone on with our son over the years, but it's been solely me, my DH and my DD (who is a year and half older than him) shouldering all the burden. And maybe that's how it should be since he's our son. But if it were my sibling and I were in a position to offer help, I would, in a heartbeat. But that's just me. :/
