Family Loyalty . . .Small Vent

[joshsmom]

We're going to WDW in 42 days. The majority of my family members--ok, everyone except me, my mom, and Josh don't "get" Disney. No problem, move on. BUT, I am very disappointed that NO ONE--NOT ONE SINGLE ADULT in this family, will agree to take us to/pick us up from the airport. I don't want to leave my car there for 10 days. We don't have a metro system that will take us from our hometown to the airport. We live about 30 miles from the airport so its not TOO far away, but REALLY! I ended up calling a transport service yesterday to book our to/from the airport ride. I'm so sad. When others in our family need to get to the airport, I'm the first one to volunteer. I guess they don't remember those times.

Vent over. Now back to your regularly scheduled DIS . . .

 

[kbkids]

Oh Wow! That is sad. I'd think twice the next time someone needed a ride from you.

 

[YachtClubWoman]

Your post struck a chord with me. I don't understand why you would want to rely on someone and inconvenience them. I prefer to take care of my own transportation and not need to rely on someone.

We just decided on what a plan was for getting to the airport for our Mexico trip. In 14 years of traveling together, we have never relied on a family member to transport us. There is on site airport, off site airport, shuttle and limo services that we use - depending on flight times.

 

[kelleigh1]

None of my family lives close enough to take us to the airport. But I have a friend who is always willing to drive us...no matter what time our flights are at. I usually only ask him if we're flying out of Providence. If it's Logan, I find an alternate way of getting there. Luckily we live near the train station in our town and can take public transportation all the way to the airport...depending on the train schedule.

 

[joshsmom]

Luckily we live near the train station in our town and can take public transportation all the way to the airport...depending on the train schedule.

Wish I had this option. Would LOVE for our Metro system to branch out to where we live. They said maybe in the next 10 years or so. I'll be waiting!!

 

[KarenAylwood]

Your post struck a chord with me. I don't understand why you would want to rely on someone and inconvenience them. I prefer to take care of my own transportation and not need to rely on someone.

Well I personally think that a family is give and take (same with friendship!). The OP has stated that she's the first to volunteer when someone needs help. I think it's insulting not to have family offer to help out- leaving your car at the airport is expensive!!!

Even at college, whenever someone needed a ride to the airport (which, mind you was 1 hour and a tunnel away), someone was always willing to help out so they wouldn't have to either pay to park their car or pay for a shuttle.

When DBF and I were flying to Ireland his aunt refused to bring us to the airport or pick us up, so we had to stay at my parents' house 3 hours away, drive down that day, and pay $150 to park our car at the airport.

My feeling is that if a friend or family member needs some help, why not help them out? Especially when they've been helpful in the past.

 

[Stitchfans]

None of my family is close enough to take us either. That sure stinks though that your family takes advantage of you like that and won't help you out.

 

[Beth76]

Is your flight at a bad time? You know really early or during rush hour? During work hours? And are they not giving you a ride simply because you're going to Disney and they don't like it? I'm confused about why that's brought up.

 

[kristen821]

Have you asked them for a ride or have the just not offered? Maybe some of them don't realize you need a ride.

 

[canwegosoon]

Have you asked them for a ride or have the just not offered? Maybe some of them don't realize you need a ride.

IA I would come out and ask point blank...start with the ones you have helped in the past (may be one can do each way). I am also the type that hates to inconvience other, but the 1st one ready to help if someone needs it. Another option is check out areas near airport...many times there is a remote lot(with shuttle) to leave your car for 10 days. Check with car rental agencies, and ask if they offer long term parking. Good luck-I hope someone steps up. 3rd option would be hire a baby sitter to drive your car both ways.

 

[joshsmom]

Is your flight at a bad time? You know really early or during rush hour? During work hours? And are they not giving you a ride simply because you're going to Disney and they don't like it? I'm confused about why that's brought up.

Nope, flight is not at a bad time--around 10am and we're coming back home at 7pm. Not during work hours. I don't think its because they don't like Disney--that's just a side note actually.

I brought it up because I'm hurt that I need to have a service drive us to the airport when I have 5 adults in my family that all live within 9 blocks of me. I have taken and picked them up from the airport countless times because I really don't mind doing it. I think families should help each other if they can.

One sister said she couldn't do it because "I don't like airport traffic." She works less than 5 miles from the airport. Whatever. My other sister said that she just doesn't have "time" to take us over there. I asked over 6 weeks in advance!!! We leave on a Saturday morning and come back on a Monday evening. Both my sisters have husbands and they have not agreed to do it either. My dad just flat out said no.

I guess the point of my original post is that it makes me sad that my family won't help me out. I can take care of myself--I know how to call a transport service. That's not the point. I just feel that I have been there for them and they are not there for me.

Sorry to ramble . . .

 

[DVC Sadie]

We're going to WDW in 42 days. The majority of my family members--ok, everyone except me, my mom, and Josh don't "get" Disney. No problem, move on. BUT, I am very disappointed that NO ONE--NOT ONE SINGLE ADULT in this family, will agree to take us to/pick us up from the airport. I don't want to leave my car there for 10 days. We don't have a metro system that will take us from our hometown to the airport. We live about 30 miles from the airport so its not TOO far away, but REALLY! I ended up calling a transport service yesterday to book our to/from the airport ride. I'm so sad. When others in our family need to get to the airport, I'm the first one to volunteer. I guess they don't remember those times.


It is sad. They probably do remember that you are the first to volunteer to drive them to the airport but just think you do this because you really want too.

Have a great time on your vacation!

 

[Beth76]

One sister said she couldn't do it because "I don't like airport traffic."

OK just saw that you're from here. Granted while our airport is kind of a pain if you don't know where you're going, the "airport traffic" is not bad. Will they take you to the metrolink stop closest to your house?

 

[mickeyluv]

I personally think that they are just being selfish and self-centered. I mean, really, if you can't count on your family to help you when you need something, who can you count on!! I'm sorry, but this is just awful. But you just wait until "they" need a favor from you. I try to help anyone when I can because you never know when you might need some assistance!

 

[pearlieq]

That stinks! I wouldn't ask family for airport transport, but they wouldn't ask me either. We just don't do that. But if your family has taken that service from you and now won't reciprocate--no way!

At least you'll never have to drop one of them off again. I fear you're suddenly developing an aversion to airport traffic yourself...

 

[kristen821]

That is horrible that they said no when you do it for them. I think you should remember that when they need a ride next time.

 

[canwegosoon]

Nope, flight is not at a bad time--around 10am and we're coming back home at 7pm. Not during work hours. I don't think its because they don't like Disney--that's just a side note actually.

I brought it up because I'm hurt that I need to have a service drive us to the airport when I have 5 adults in my family that all live within 9 blocks of me. I have taken and picked them up from the airport countless times because I really don't mind doing it. I think families should help each other if they can.

One sister said she couldn't do it because "I don't like airport traffic." She works less than 5 miles from the airport. Whatever. My other sister said that she just doesn't have "time" to take us over there. I asked over 6 weeks in advance!!! We leave on a Saturday morning and come back on a Monday evening. Both my sisters have husbands and they have not agreed to do it either. My dad just flat out said no.

I guess the point of my original post is that it makes me sad that my family won't help me out. I can take care of myself--I know how to call a transport service. That's not the point. I just feel that I have been there for them and they are not there for me.

Sorry to ramble . . .

OK SO...print this out...You are a good person who does NOT have to help family members that will not help you!!!! No more "could you do this for me..." Sorry...I don't like XYZ is your new answer. I would see if you could hire a service or check other off site parking. I wish you the best...but the writing is on the wall-They are not worth it.

 

[inaminute]

I guess the point of my original post is that it makes me sad that my family won't help me out. I can take care of myself--I know how to call a transport service. That's not the point. I just feel that I have been there for them and they are not there for me.

I agree that it's sad and I know how you feel. Especially since you helped them out in the past.

The positive to this is that you already know your answer the next time they ask you for a ride to the airport. The first "no" is the most difficult. You'll be amazed how quickly and easily it comes with just a little practice!

 

[kerrynic78]

I think that is really sad.

It is not even a question in my family, we always offer and the same is always extended to us. Parking can get expensive.Their excuses seem pretty lame to me.

Hope you have a great trip!!

 

[Disney Doll]

I don't like to be beholden to or dependent on anyone for transportation. That way no one can say to me "Well, I am the first one to offer to take you to the airport".

Next time they ask for a ride, say no. If it's the one sibling who doesn't like airport traffic, I'd say "Well, I don't want to do it because I don't really like airport traffic, but here's the number of the car service I called last time when you did not want to take me. They were really good and very reliable."

If it's the other sister, I would say "Well, I just don't have time. But here's the number of the car service I used last time that you didn't have time to take me to the airport. They were really nice and very reliable."

If my dad asked, I'd say "No."

If no one asks, then don't offer. Look how much time you have saved yourself already, not schlepping back and forth to the airport!!! OTOH, if you continue to make ariport runs after this experience, then you have no one to blame but yourself for choosing to be taken advantage of.