Family dilemma; not enough points...WWYD?

[ems_mom]

My problem is that I offered my DD a week's stay at a DVC resort (BCV is her first choice) in a studio with her then significant other. The idea was we (her mother and father) would be vacationing in WDW the same week but stay in another location. And so we would get to spend time with them, get to know the BF better, yet have our time apart.

Well, just after Xmas they broke up after a year and a half together. Reasons not important but she broke it off. After a time, I asked if she still wanted to vacation in WDW with us (trip planned for 11/2011).

She still wants to go, and bring a girlfriend. Of course we love that our adult daughter is willing to hang out with us, but... we have already borrowed points from our next use year. Realistically, if we can get her into a studio at the BC or BW, we could only front a 4 night with a weekend or a 5 night midweek stay.

I want to offer her the first 2-3 nights, on us at POFQ, or something she likes. But after my promise to take she and *** on vacation, I'm feeling guilty. I definitely want to be at WDW with her (and whoever), but we just don't have the points for 7-8 nights. What would you do?

 

[DVCconvert]

I'm sure I'm missing something...but....

if you had the points for a week for DD+BF plus yourselves, why is it now you don't have points enough for you + DH and the other room?

Please pardon my numbspell.

 

[CarolynMink]

My problem is that I offered my DD a week's stay at a DVC resort (BCV is her first choice) in a studio with her then significant other. The idea was we (her mother and father) would be vacationing in WDW the same week but stay in another location. And so we would get to spend time with them, get to know the BF better, yet have our time apart.

Well, just after Xmas they broke up after a year and a half together. Reasons not important but she broke it off. After a time, I asked if she still wanted to vacation in WDW with us (trip planned for 11/2011).

She still wants to go, and bring a girlfriend. Of course we love that our adult daughter is willing to hang out with us, but... we have already borrowed points from our next use year. Realistically, if we can get her into a studio at the BC or BW, we could only front a 4 night with a weekend or a 5 night midweek stay.

I want to offer her the first 2-3 nights, on us at POFQ, or something she likes. But after my promise to take she and *** on vacation, I'm feeling guilty. I definitely want to be at WDW with her (and whoever), but we just don't have the points for 7-8 nights. What would you do?

Remember you can do a one time buy of 24 points for a stay if that helps. Also, have you compared DVC cash for room vs renting points. Or would a two bedroom work? Good luck.

 

[Kymm1111]

If someone offered me a free room at DW I wouldn't complain! Just tell her you will have to do a split stay, half in a hotel and half in a studio. When I book rooms for friends, I just give them the facts- ok your stay is at this place from this time to this time. I wouldn't even act like it is a big deal kwim?

 

[ems_mom]

Honestly, we were pretty much borrowing more than half of our next year's allotment for the boyfriend trip. (We are using all of this years points for HHI and our WDW trip.) We thought "he was the one" and were willing to give up our future vacation time to welcome him into our family.

This is why I am feeling guilty. I'm not as willing to forgo those points for my vacation next year for my daughter and as yet unnamed friend. I don't want to hurt my DD feelings or take away a vacation I promised her. I just want to put her up in a mod for some of that week so DH and I can take our vacation in 2012.

 

[KAT4DISNEY]

How about getting a point transfer? The cost may be similar to a cash room at POFQ. Or getting a point transfer later to use for you and your DH's trip in 2012.

 

[bobbiwoz]

I would back track with her and tell her what sort of vacation I'm now offering her and her friend. You asked her if she wanted to go with you, and yes she does, but are you assuming she is expecting the same sort of vacation she was getting with her "one and only?" She may not be, but at any rate, that's not what you're offering.

I just think you two have to talk about it, and please, I hope you can stop feeling guilty.

Bobbi

 

[Sandisw]

I also think a point transfer my solve the problem. It probably would be comparable to the mod and allow you to still offer your DD the same type of trip without affecting your points in the future.

 

[Chellymouse]

While this isn't the same, it's similar and hopefully you can learn from our sort of "mistake" DH and I had invited his sister, her family and DH's mom. We knew we were going to have to do an add-on so after a whole lot of debate, DH and I spent a small fortune and did a 120 point add on, got our THV for the dates that we finally ironed out. Make a long story short, DH's family cancelled several months after we had everything booked so DH and I were stuck with 236 points that we HAD to use before Sept of this year, hence our upcoming May trip. Moral of the story....do what you think is right and don't put yourselves out. Your DD changed the deal, which is a bummer, but that doesn't mean you should put yourselves in a bad position. We have decided that if DH's sister and her family want to go at a later time, we will have specific rules in place and if we don't have the points, or if we have to move points around to take away from our vacations, then we won't do it. It's hard when it's close family (I'm sure especially with your DD), but WE are the ones who are paying for it in the end. There are many deals going on and it's possible you may be able to take advantage of one of them and still be able to go.

 

[treehugnmama]

what about switching to OKW to saVE some points?

 

[maburke]

Maybe now that it's not a boyfriend, you could get cozier accommodations, like a 1 BR all together. If you went with BLT or AKV-Kidani, they wouldn't have to share a bed, and they'd have their own bathroom. You also wouldn't be inconvenienced if the friend cancelled. And she might want more time with you, now that she's ended it with him.

Let us know what you decide.

 

[dianeschlicht]

Maybe now that it's not a boyfriend, you could get cozier accommodations, like a 1 BR all together. If you went with BLT or AKV-Kidani, they wouldn't have to share a bed, and they'd have their own bathroom. You also wouldn't be inconvenienced if the friend cancelled. And she might want more time with you, now that she's ended it with him.

Let us know what you decide.

That was going to be similar to my suggestion, only I was going to suggest a 2 bedroom at OKW and give the girls the second bedroom. It will still be like their own unit. You could even book it as a lock off and they could keep their inside door closed if they chose to. That way you both still get the vacation you were looking for.

 

[sweetdana]

You could look into a transfer from the rental board as well. Points are about 10$ a point, so transfer say 60 points would be about 600$. It would be about the same cost as say POR or FQ.

The other option is a small add on say 25 points. This would get you 50 points with borrowing (75 depending on UY.) More than enough to help her out and this will help you with your shortage too. This would be under 3K, and you would have them to use after.

Heck you could buy her a 25 point contract and start her early with the same scenerio as above.
She could then go every 3 yrs for about 5 - 6 days.

 

[DisDaydreamer]

Remember you can do a one time buy of 24 points for a stay if that helps. Also, have you compared DVC cash for room vs renting points. Or would a two bedroom work? Good luck.

Just to be clear that is "one time" per year. And actually, I think you can make multiple purchases... just a max of 24 pts/yr.

A good alternative... IF SHE were the one... I understand that feeling/logic.

 

[cvrapclark]

My son and his girlfriend resort hopped. I found someone with holding points that were expiring soon and booked what was available. They started out 2 nights at SS, then 2 nights at OKW, then 1 night at AKL. They packed lightly and actually enjoyed seeing the different resorts.

 

[Sammie]

What would you do?

Work it out with the daughter.

 

[DisDaydreamer]

Work it out with the daughter.

Sometimes your long winded, beat around the bush, highly opinionated, and off the topic responses...

just leave me speechless.

 

[SamSam]

Sometimes your long winded, beat around the bush, highly opinionated, and off the topic responses...

just leave me speechless.

 

[ems_mom]

When I have it figured out, I'll post it here. I appreciate everyone's advice.