Fake jewelry-would you be upset

[happily single]

If your partner gave you a knock-off piece of jewelry as a gift would you be upset?

This gift was not asked for and was never discussed.

 

[Marrila]

If your partner gave you a knock-off piece of jewelry as a gift would you be upset?

This gift was not asked for and was never discussed.

What are we talking about here?
Something cute and fun? No problem, I'd enjoy it.
But like an engagement ring with no up front details about the not as it appears metal or stone? Not cool.

 

[lynxstch]

If they tried to pass it off as 'real' probably.
If not, and it was given in love, probably not.

 

[happily single]

What are we talking about here?
Something cute and fun? No problem, I'd enjoy it.
But like and engagement ring with no up front details about the not as it appears metal or stone? Not cool.

A Cartier Love Braclet.

 

[fla4fun]

If they tried to pass it off as 'real' probably.
If not, and it was given in love, probably not.

I lean in this direction also. For example, I have always liked the Cartier Love Bracelet, but it is expensive. There are knock offs that have a similar look, some in gold, some in silver, some in base metals with plating. I would assume my SO would know that I can’t wear plated jewelry (something in my body reacts with the base metal and causes the plating to come off).

That being said, if they gave me a solid silver or gold knock off version, admitting that they knew I liked the real thing but it was beyond their means, I would accept it gladly. If they tried to pass it off in a used Cartier box, my feelings would be hurt and I would be angry.

It depends on the circumstances and the intent, and each time it may be different.

 

[Marrila]

How straightforward was the person about the bracelet?

 

[darnheather]

It would depend on how it was presented. "Darling I know you have always wanted this bracelet, and while I still can't afford the real one this is a reminder that I will one day." is different from "I bought you this expensive bracelet."

 

[fla4fun]

A Cartier Love Braclet.

A genuine bracelet would have the Cartier hallmark stamped in the metal, but there are a lot of good quality knockoffs which I would almost rather wear in public in case something happened. But I have seen some bad knockoffs as well. I still would base my feelings on how it was presented. It is also possible they didn’t know it was a knockoff. People get taken in every day by counterfeit goods.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Wouldn't bother me unless there was something deceptive about it. There are a bunch of things I would much rather DH buy me than expensive jewelry!

 

[_19disnA]

I agree some context of how it was presented (i.e. real vs knock-off) would also matter. Has this person often given you expensive gifts previously and/or is it even something they could typically afford? How did you determine it wasn't the real thing? If you are in some sort of long-term relationship (which the term 'partner' would tend to imply), then likely you are aware of the financial means of each other and already have a sense of what you both would/would not be able to spend on expensive gifts.

 

[Marrila]

I would hope they would say something before they screwed the knock off bracelet on.

 

[nw6675]

Definitely need to provide more details and context. Many variations of right, wrong, and indifferent can be had in this scenario.

 

[fla4fun]

I would hope they would say something before they screwed the knock off bracelet on.

My only scruple about the way the bracelet fastens is that after years of losing screws from my eyeglasses, I would be concerned that it would fall out and the bracelet fall off. I would be sick if that happened with a real Love Bracelet, but some of the knockoffs have different fasteners.

You don’t need a special screwdriver to remove the bracelet, but you might scratch the bracelet using a regular one.

 

[bobbiwoz]

If your partner gave you a knock-off piece of jewelry as a gift would you be upset?

This gift was not asked for and was never discussed.

If this happened, how do you feel?

 

[Micca]

I may be the first guy on this thread, no way I'd misrepresent a knock-off as the real thing. But if I knew DW wanted something that was going to be out of our league and it was a good knock-off, I might buy it for her.

 

[White Cat]

My only scruple about the way the bracelet fastens is that after years of losing screws from my eyeglasses, I would be concerned that it would fall out and the bracelet fall off. I would be sick if that happened with a real Love Bracelet, but some of the knockoffs have different fasteners.

You don’t need a special screwdriver to remove the bracelet, but you might scratch the bracelet using a regular one.

The newer ones aren’t having that issue. Supposedly won’t but time will tell. My wife wears several, the biggest problem is at airport screening, they just pull you off to the side and use a wand.

 

[ronandannette]

Just the opposite for me, actually. Not my DH or anybody who knows me well would ever consider buying me expensive "real" jewelry - it would have zero value to me. I'd be a little upset at having to fake an appropriate amount of appreciation and disappointed that the money couldn't have been spent on something I truly would enjoy.

OP mentions this was a random gift and not something she particularly wanted. I wonder what motivated the giver to choose it?

 

[dvcgirl67]

I'm not into pricey jewelry, but if I was and it was passed off as legit by my partner....knowing that it was a fake...yes, I'd have a problem with that. I mean, it's a lie and a pretty silly one at that. It would bother me.

 

[tvguy]

I think my wife would killed me if I bought a real one or a fake. Too much money.

 

[Christine]

I'd be fine as long as they were upfront about it.