Fairy Godmailer vent...UPDATE 1st page

[TinkNH]

I'm sorry flame me if you must but I just don't get the whole sorry, I couldn't thank you because I deleted your PM.

Someone took time out of their trip to send your child a postcard to make your childs trip more magical.

Sorry, I think its rude. Mistakes happen I agree, but its still rude. I sent them out my last trip but won't this time. I even walked around to 3 different stores to find a Buzz postcard for the 1 person.

A thank you would have been nice!

I wont flame, not my style...but I hardly think I was rude. I sent a pm asking someone to send cards, and in the process of learning my way around here...deleted all of my pm's..including the one from the person who sent my DD a card..the one who sent one to my friends dd never responded, so I didn't know she would get a card at all untill it arrived in the mail! And for the life of me I cannot remember who I clicked on in which thread to ask!! (I have a bad case of C.R.A.F.T.) I am very glad I had the forethought to write down the names and addresses of the 3 ppl I am sending cards to, because their pms were deleted too. And I will not think it rude if they do not thank me after. Thank yous are nice, they SHOULD be a 'given' however I don't expect one. I am sending the postcards to bring a smile to the face of a child...but I really don't expect a thank you. I guess in some way I kinda thought it was the way everyone thought about it, that the thank you was to pay it fwd..and do the same for another child. When I saw the OP upset that no one thanked her, I realised my assumption was wrong, and hence my quick post that if it was me I was truly sorry and indeed thankful.
Please dont judge people as rude unless you know the whole story

 

[powellrj]

Before our trip to WDW 8/22-8/29 there was a very nice Dis'er that sent my girls a postcard..so in return i offered to send some out as well. Well i sent out my cards like i said i would, while we were there..and you know what..not one of them ever said Thank You. Am i wrong to feel a bit upset by this? As soon as we recieved ours i pm'd our fairy godmailer and thanked them right away, i thought this was the right thing to do.
Oh well maybe i am over reacting..just felt the need to vent.

I have sent many post cards to fellow Disers over the years and never expected nor recieved a thank-you. I did it because I wanted to, not because I expected to recieve a thank-you.

 

[I Love Pluto]

It's not hard to say thank you to someone.

I don't have any young ones, and I didn't ask for a Fairy Godmother - but - on behalf of many of us who think you did a great thing for some children by brightening up their world - THANK YOU!

 

[Hef4545]

It is also nice to get the thank you because you know then that the post card made it. But like other posters here said, sometimes things happen, people get busy or clean out their pms and it gets away from you.

 

[Becky2005]

I guess they could have deleted the PM. But then again, they could have written the info down right away like I did! My kids knew nothing about it either. Lets hope the Enchanted Call comes through!

I know the Enchanted Calls work.

I had the worst possible scenerio happen. 3 of my kids got postcards but my 4th one did not. To make matters *worse* it was the oldest. At least if it had been one of the younger ones it wouldn't have been so bad.

I'm assuming the postcard got mailed and got lost somewhere in the postal system, to this day it never has shown up (and that was quite a long time ago). So, if you haven't gotten a thank you, maybe it's possible the person never received the postcard?

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

I wont flame, not my style...but I hardly think I was rude. I sent a pm asking someone to send cards, and in the process of learning my way around here...deleted all of my pm's..including the one from the person who sent my DD a card..the one who sent one to my friends dd never responded, so I didn't know she would get a card at all untill it arrived in the mail! And for the life of me I cannot remember who I clicked on in which thread to ask!! (I have a bad case of C.R.A.F.T.) I am very glad I had the forethought to write down the names and addresses of the 3 ppl I am sending cards to, because their pms were deleted too. And I will not think it rude if they do not thank me after. Thank yous are nice, they SHOULD be a 'given' however I don't expect one. I am sending the postcards to bring a smile to the face of a child...but I really don't expect a thank you. I guess in some way I kinda thought it was the way everyone thought about it, that the thank you was to pay it fwd..and do the same for another child. When I saw the OP upset that no one thanked her, I realised my assumption was wrong, and hence my quick post that if it was me I was truly sorry and indeed thankful.
Please dont judge people as rude unless you know the whole story

I'm sorry you disagree, but I still stick with what I originally said.

If you truely put a generic message out there, with your address and someone just sent you one so be it. Then yea you wouldn't have saved the PM.

The people I sent to: contacted me, told me their childs favorite characters and ways to personalize it for their children, and addresses.

Someone sent one to my children, so I did to it to make another child happy. But I don't think a simple Thank You is too much to give to someone, who took time out of their vacation for your child. And as one poster mentioned it also tells you the child actually got the card you sent. Its not like a 3 page essay is in order. Most people are on here all the time or at least once a week. How hard would it be to click on a PM and say Thanks? Its just plain good manners.

 

[shelly3girls]

Is it worse to not say thank you, or to not send a postcard when you said you would. I had someone volunteer to send my kids a postcard, and it never happened!

Us too, fortunately they were not expecting them.

 

[mask_w03]

I have to say my DD got one for the 1st birthday and i never thanked the person who sent it b/c I lost my pm and can't remember who sent them. I felt bad, but thanks to whoever sent one to us.

I personally don't expect a thank you from anyone I mail post cards to since I offered to send them out.

But I do think thank yous are good and so thanks to who ever sent one to us.

 

[Feralpeg]

While a thank you is always nice, I would never do something for someone expecting or wanting one. When I decide to do something nice for someone, I do it because the act makes me feel good. IMHO, that is enough, but that is just me.

 

[TDS373X]

To whomever was my dd fairygodmailer last year thank you...and to the 5 I sent out no thanks are necessary I did it because I wanted to an act of kindness to brighten someones day and to share my love of Disney.

 

[TinkNH]

I'm sorry you disagree, but I still stick with what I originally said.

If you truely put a generic message out there, with your address and someone just sent you one so be it. Then yea you wouldn't have saved the PM.

The people I sent to: contacted me, told me their childs favorite characters and ways to personalize it for their children, and addresses.

Someone sent one to my children, so I did to it to make another child happy. But I don't think a simple Thank You is too much to give to someone, who took time out of their vacation for your child. And as one poster mentioned it also tells you the child actually got the card you sent. Its not like a 3 page essay is in order. Most people are on here all the time or at least once a week. How hard would it be to click on a PM and say Thanks? Its just plain good manners.

Its not that I dissagree, I just dont think I was rude. I sent two pm's. One for my child, I got a response saying they would send it..which I accidentially erased. And a second for my friends daughter, which I never got a reply to at all. I am the type of person who sends thankyous for every gift occasion I even wrote wedding ones on the plane home from our honeymoon. And notes after my DDs birthday party are in the mail before the cake is gone. I just feel a little offended that someone would think I was rude, cause to me rudeness in this case implys intent. I cannot speak for anyone else here on the Dis, but for me I'd hate to think ANYONE out there would think I was the type of person who has no manners, because it is simply not true. As I said, part of me assumed that the 'thanks' was to send a postcard (or in my case 5) on your trip, so perhaps that is why I did not panic when I deleted the one pm with the persons screen name. I would think that I am not the only one to think this..so perhaps some of us have been unaware, or guilty of not having the facts..but certainly not rude.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

It just amazes me how many people did not thank the person who sent their children the fairy Godmother postcard.

And as I said before, I don't expect anything in return. Someone sent my children a postcard before our trip, I sent some in return. I just don't think a thank you after the postcard is received is too much to ask, its just plain good manners, IMOP!

 

[checkwriter]

We sent out about a dozen, to four or five families. I think we got two "thank you" emails back. (And yes, I did send a "thank you" to the wonderful woman who wrote them to our kids.) I guess that's the way it goes these days. I was happy to hear from those who did take the time to write, and feel that was thanks enough. Plus, I was "paying it forward" and can only hope some of them did so as well.

 

[belle&beast]

I was disappointed when someone offered to send a letter to my kids and then never did. They had no idea, so they weren't hurt by it, but I was disappointed that it never came. Oh well, that's life...

 

[camlace]

While a thank you is always nice, I would never do something for someone expecting or wanting one. When I decide to do something nice for someone, I do it because the act makes me feel good. IMHO, that is enough, but that is just me.

ITA - I consider being a Fairy Godmailer to be along the lines of a "Random Act of Kindness". You don't do it for the praise/thanks, you do it because you are being nice to someone.

Having said that a Thank you is always appreciated, but in this case I wouldn't expect one.

 

[My2Cinderellas]

I was disappointed when someone offered to send a letter to my kids and then never did. They had no idea, so they weren't hurt by it, but I was disappointed that it never came. Oh well, that's life...

yep - this was my experience as well. Since the girls didn't know it was supposed to be coming, no big deal. And I had already agreed to send out 2 cards, ended up mailing out to 3 families. I heard back from just 1, which was out of the US, very quickly too. I never knew you could mail an international postcard in less than 3 weeks. we always seem to receive them after the senders arrive back from the trip.

 

[Mommy2Lots]

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[Tiffer]

Before our trip to WDW 8/22-8/29 there was a very nice Dis'er that sent my girls a postcard..so in return i offered to send some out as well. Well i sent out my cards like i said i would, while we were there..and you know what..not one of them ever said Thank You. Am i wrong to feel a bit upset by this? As soon as we recieved ours i pm'd our fairy godmailer and thanked them right away, i thought this was the right thing to do.
Oh well maybe i am over reacting..just felt the need to vent.

*I got my Thank you from one and feel a litle better!

Disagree. I think the idea is to pay it forward. Doing it for someone else is the thanks. I have been on both ends of this and always thanks the person sending it when they agree to send it and I provide the name address ino.

On the other hand, I don't expect a thank you, other than at the point in time just mentioned. I do hope that they too pay it forward.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I sent out 5 post cards last April and I only received one thank you. A thank you would have been nice from the rest, but I just assumed that people get busy.

I find it interesting that they are too busy to sent a thank you but not too busy to send the information to send the postcard to.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I'm sorry flame me if you must but I just don't get the whole sorry, I couldn't thank you because I deleted your PM.

Someone took time out of their trip to send your child a postcard to make your childs trip more magical.

Sorry, I think its rude. Mistakes happen I agree, but its still rude. I sent them out my last trip but won't this time. I even walked around to 3 different stores to find a Buzz postcard for the 1 person.

A thank you would have been nice!

I agree. The person took time out of their vacation, paid for a postcard and stamp, wrote the card and then mailed it and a little thank you PM was too much?