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Madi100

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I know we're supposed to be happy here. But, please forgive me. I'm going to "vent" here so that I don't comment on Facebook. This week on Facebook you are supposed to post a picture of you and your significant other. Then you are supposed to say how long you've been together. My step-mother posted a picture with my father and put that they have been together for 25 years and married for 24 in December. Now that is a true statement, but 25 years ago my father was still married to my mother. I'm trying my very hardest not to reply. So, I'm doing it here instead.
 
I know we're supposed to be happy here. But, please forgive me. I'm going to "vent" here so that I don't comment on Facebook. This week on Facebook you are supposed to post a picture of you and your significant other. Then you are supposed to say how long you've been together. My step-mother posted a picture with my father and put that they have been together for 25 years and married for 24 in December. Now that is a true statement, but 25 years ago my father was still married to my mother. I'm trying my very hardest not to reply. So, I'm doing it here instead.

Yikes , that's really insensitive of your step-mother :sad2:
 
Ouch!! That stinks... I am waiting for my Step Mom to do the same thing... However I will post that he was still married to my mom... ;) I can't bite my tongue...
 
Ouch!! That stinks... I am waiting for my Step Mom to do the same thing... However I will post that he was still married to my mom... ;) I can't bite my tongue...

Yes, but my step-mother wouldn't talk to me for the next several months if I did that.
 

Yes, but my step-mother wouldn't talk to me for the next several months if I did that.

Is that a bad thing?? :confused3

I hardly see mine so it really wouldn't matter if she never talked to me again... :lovestruc yea it's all love there... :hug:
 
It wasn't good enough to just put that have been married for 24 years? :rolleyes:

Does your stepmom know that posting that would bother you and did it anyway? If so, I'd post, whether she stopped talking to me or not. If she's just clueless, then this is probably the best place to vent.
 
I know we're supposed to be happy here. But, please forgive me. I'm going to "vent" here so that I don't comment on Facebook. This week on Facebook you are supposed to post a picture of you and your significant other. Then you are supposed to say how long you've been together. My step-mother posted a picture with my father and put that they have been together for 25 years and married for 24 in December. Now that is a true statement, but 25 years ago my father was still married to my mother. I'm trying my very hardest not to reply. So, I'm doing it here instead.

Sorry you have such an insensitive monster for a step mother. If my "dads wife" was on facebook we wouldn't be friends at all.

Yes, but my step-mother wouldn't talk to me for the next several months if I did that.

and?? Sounds like a win/win
 
I would put your step mother on your block list.....:sad2:
 
Yes, but my step-mother wouldn't talk to me for the next several months if I did that.
Thats even more of a reason to.
If she is as bad as she sounds thats a good thing.
 
Wow, Nicole. You're a better woman than I am. I'm not sure what I'd do. This is a great place to "vent" though, so I hope it helps. We're always here for ya!
 
Sorry you have such an insensitive monster for a step mother. If my "dads wife" was on facebook we wouldn't be friends at all.



and?? Sounds like a win/win

Yes, except she has been a part of my life for quite a few years. According to her status it's been 25 years. Of course, I think she's missing a few, but who's counting. For the most part she can be caring. But, then there is the part of her that thinks things always need to go her way, and as long as she gets what she wants we should all be happy. I'd have a lot more respect for her if she could just realize that her actions caused a lot of problems in my life.
 
Madi,

I just feel so driven to reply to you. I feel your pain in the greatest of ways and I commend you for taking the high road. My father left my mother after 25 years of marriage after several marital affairs. He was seeing my step-monster before the divorce. I was 18 when they divorced and 19 when he married the step-mom.

I did say my piece in tears to my dad. After that - I learned to keep the peace for everyone's sake. My dad passed away 2 years ago next month. It still feels like yesterday and it is very painful. I no longer have a relationship with her, but while they were together, I really tried for his sake to accept her as the woman he chose, even though it hurt our family. And yes, I know that many would say - screw it - it was his fault. But I love my dad and wanted to keep our relationship.

So I do know where you are coming from and how you feel and I do know that sometimes you need to vent. So any time you need to lean, feel free to PM me. Good for you for taking the high road.

~Angie
 
Madi,

I just feel so driven to reply to you. I feel your pain in the greatest of ways and I commend you for taking the high road. My father left my mother after 25 years of marriage after several marital affairs. He was seeing my step-monster before the divorce. I was 18 when they divorced and 19 when he married the step-mom.

I did say my piece in tears to my dad. After that - I learned to keep the peace for everyone's sake. My dad passed away 2 years ago next month. It still feels like yesterday and it is very painful. I no longer have a relationship with her, but while they were together, I really tried for his sake to accept her as the woman he chose, even though it hurt our family. And yes, I know that many would say - screw it - it was his fault. But I love my dad and wanted to keep our relationship.

So I do know where you are coming from and how you feel and I do know that sometimes you need to vent. So any time you need to lean, feel free to PM me. Good for you for taking the high road.

~Angie

Thanks. I kind of took the high road. What I really wanted to do was post on her status that 25 years ago my dad was still living with my mother. I refrained from that. However, a friend of mine that is also friends with my step-mom that questioned the timing. She encouraged me to say something.

So, I said something to her. She told me she didn't want to discuss it, didn't want to discuss it on the phone and why would I possibly be pointing something like that out to her. Guarantee she won't be talking to me for several weeks.
 
Ack! What a situation!!!
I guess in her mind, she and her husband have been together for 25 years. She probably easily forgets that her husband had a wife early in her relationship! It suits her memory.

If your your father and your step-mother are an active part of your life, try to keep open communication and try to get past it. At some point, perhaps you can tell her and she will understand why you saw her FB post as so insensitve.
 
Ok - now I am just mad. She wonder why you felt the need to say something?!!??!?!?!?!? :mad: Now that you have said something anyway- I really think you need to go ahead and say to her that you felt the need to point that out because she needs to take responsibility for bringing you so much pain. Again, will this cause turmoil between you and your father? If so, maybe you shouldn't - but if he understands that you need to tell her that she is being insensitive - then she needs to hear it!!!!!! Forgive me for projecting my own situation onto yours- which I am sure I am doing. . . :sad2:
 
I'm sorry your step-mom is being a poo-poo head. I will share mine with you. She is lovely and more caring, nurturing and thoughtful than my real mom. And since I have three sisters born before you, she is old enough too. (My dad is old enough to be my grandpa.) :goodvibes
 
Something similar happened with my husbands stepmom and that is how we figured out how long his dad had been cheating. Sometimes they just dont think about how much it hurts the children involved. ((HUGS))
 
Oh Nicole :hug:

Families can be so difficult at times. Hang in there.
 
ouch, so sorry Nicole- how insensitive. some people are just selfish and don't think beyond their own little world. and unfortunately usually there is no changing those people or opening their eyes up to how their actions affect others. good for you for taking the high road and glad you could come here to vent. it is definitely worthy of a GOOD venting!!!! ;)
 


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