Facebook Harassment. WWYD?

[AKL_Megs]

I'm sort of being harassed by an old "family member". This person is my god mother, and she used to be my mom's friend, my "aunt", until many years back when I was in high school and they cut off all ties after a fight I really don't know much about.

Some of you on Facebook may know that last week was "retro week", so people were using old photos as their profile pictures. I used a baby photo of myself. I had no idea she was "stalking" me or looking for me, but since I've gotten married and changed my name, she might not have been able to find me not knowing my new name. Needless to say, my baby picture gave me away. (These are the times I HATE Facebook.)

She's been sending me messages like, "If you are Meaghan ____ daugter of ____ and ______ ____ please write me back, as I know that is cute face belongs to my wonderful god child. I miss you . Much love _______."

But today I got this message... "HI Meaghan. I will not stop until you write me back i miss you and I know this is you I can't ever forget this cute little face. Much love Aunt _______."



I know she doesn't "miss" me, she knows my parents address, she is just being nosy.

I haven't told my mom that she contacted me yet, because I know it will upset her, and my mom is under a lot of stress at this time and doesn't need the additional stress my aunt would cause. (FWIW, my "aunt" will try to contact us every time she catches wind of something new happening in our lives through mutual friends, and in the past, my mom HAS started up communications with her again, but in the end, it always turns into her starting a fight with my mom.)

Really, she needs to take this up with my mom and not me, and I don't need to be harassed. At the same time, I don't want her bugging my mom instead, as stated above.

Would you just ignore the messages? They are really starting to fill up my inbox!

 

[kerstfan1]

just go to privacy settings and block this person she wont be able to contact u that way

 

[OK!]

I'm SUPER-nonconfrontational, so my advice might not be the best, but I think I'd probably ignore/delete them for a little while and see if she loses interest. If she doesn't or starts getting more obsessive-ish about things, then you might have to tell her to back the heck off (or however you choose to word it. )

 

[mtemm]

block is a beautiful thing! I've blocked 2 people on facebook and each was like a weight off of my shoulders.

 

[AKL_Megs]

I did NOT know you could block people, but I am so glad I asked! Thanks everyone!

 

[mtemm]

it will be like they never existed! (if only real life was the same)

 

[luvmy3]

Personally, it sounds like she just really wants to catch up with you, not about you through your parents. I assume you are an adult since you mentioned many years ago you were in HS so I'm not sure why she needs to take things up with your mom, you are the one on FB. I'm sorry OP, I don't mean to sound harsh, its just that when you sign up for FB you are exposing yourself to all those who know and knew you and making it easy for them to (try) to get in touch with you, in fact thats pretty much the whole point. I would just ignore her or block her.

 

[agnes!]

The phrase that bothers me is "I will not stop....". Yeah, I think blocking would be a good thing and I would NOT write back to this person. Also, you can set your profile so that ONLY people you invite can see your Facebook news

agnes!

 

[AKL_Megs]

The phrase that bothers me is "I will not stop....". Yeah, I think blocking would be a good thing and I would NOT write back to this person. Also, you can set your profile so that ONLY people you invite can see your Facebook news

agnes!

Yep, that is the one that got me, and that confirms that she is being nosy!

 

[SundaeAfternoon]

The phrase that bothers me is "I will not stop....".

Me too. Super creepy!

 

[luvmy3]

Me too. Super creepy!

See, I would see that as an attempt at being funny so I wouldn't be creeped out about it at all. There is no way of knowing when its read and not heard.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

it will be like they never existed! (if only real life was the same)

If only!

The phrase that bothers me is "I will not stop....". Yeah, I think blocking would be a good thing and I would NOT write back to this person. Also, you can set your profile so that ONLY people you invite can see your Facebook news

Ditto.

She sounds like someone I have...or HAD ...in my life, and I'd react the same way as you. Good luck.

 

[LoraJ]

What is the harm in seeing what she wants?

 

[dislaney]

If you don't want contact with this person, I would block her and hopefully she will leave you and your family alone.

 

[bumbershoot]

Since you don't know what the fight was about, why don't you want her in your life?

You say "nosey", but I would tend to go with "missing you"...

I love all my mom's old friends; they are connections to her that are vital to me. I love knowing they are out there, ready to chat if I need them. She had a falling out with her own sister, several in fact, but I still have my aunt in my life. Their problems weren't mine (and I do know what they were about, and can see both sides).


I guess it's different since your mom is still around...for me I can't imagine ignoring someone who knew me when I was little, though.

 

[sbell111]

What is the harm in seeing what she wants?

 

[Robinrs]

What is the harm in seeing what she wants?

Just say hello, this is me and that's it. People can't bother you unless you let them.

Blocking or ignoring her will just make her try harder. Put a period to it if it bothers you. It's the adult thing to do.

 

[Magic Mom]

What is the harm in seeing what she wants?

She doesn't seem creepy or harrassing to me, She sounds like a person trying to reconnect with someone she was once close too. If you did message her back to confirm your identity, what's the worse that could happen? She could possibly drill you about your mom, talk bad about your mom and dad, try to use you for your future millions? If that happens, then you block her. On the other hand, you might be surprised and she just wants to catch uo with you. It would be the chance to make another person's day a little brighter.