Facebook causes Troubles- let's share!!

[Rora]

Facebook was a real problem for my DFiance and I when we were in college. I had a FB, he didn't. Of course, I was friends with guys, girls, posted pictures of me with both guys and girls, etc.

Well, DFiance was concerned (aka jealous) of all the guys that I was "friends with" (although almost all of them were simply classmates) and we actually had a fight about facebook. Ridiculous.

I got rid of my facebook for about 2 years and just started again but this time he has one too.

In all honesty, I think Facebook is a big waste of time (yet I still have one..*sigh*).

 

[missypie]

I think one person is mad at me because I ignored her friend request. But I ignored her friend request because I didn't like her, so no big loss.

I have also ignored all friend requests from my H's side of the family. I'm not on facebook very often, so if they ever ask I'll just tell them I haven't really figured it out yet.

 

[Arielle22]

My niece's boyfriend broke up with her via facebook 2 weeks ago. I don't have an account but DH does to keep an eye on DDs and our nieces and nephew.

Apparently you can change your relationship status and then link to your SO. When one of you changes your relationship status it changes on the others.

DN and her boyfriend had been having problems but there was no indication he was going to do that. She was more upset with the way he did it than that he did it.

I am a HR Mgr and I can't believe it when applicants invite me to be a friend on FB. I don't know why someone would invite me when most times I receive their resume and never call for an interview.

 

[minniecarousel]

I'm enjoying staying in touch with a cousin who lives clear across the country from me. My nieces post pix of their kids & I can show them to my Mom. BUT....sometimes I worry when one of my DDILs moan about something that's bothering her at the moment. Never anything against either of my sons, just a dissatisfaction with some little thing. Why I worry, I don't know!!

 

[everylastbreath]

BUT....sometimes I worry when one of my DDILs moan about something that's bothering her at the moment. Never anything against either of my sons, just a dissatisfaction with some little thing. Why I worry, I don't know!!

Deactivate your FB account immediately... this is a ticking timebomb ...just a matter of time before you see something that's gonna start a problem.. sooner or later one of your DDIL's are going to make an innocent comment that your going to misinterpreted - and boom..

 

[lucky978]

I am a HR Mgr and I can't believe it when applicants invite me to be a friend on FB. I don't know why someone would invite me when most times I receive their resume and never call for an interview.

Sounds like something that should be done through linkedin instead of facebook. I feel professional relationships should be managed through that site instead.

Greetings from another Bostonian (or "North of Bostonian")!

 

[MusiqChic99]

No problems here. I only add friends/family. It's a way to stay in touch. And I dont post status quotes everyday about everything I do. Something really do take that stuff pretty seriously. My cousin and I joke that if we want to know what someone is up to we just look them up on FB. I guess it depends on how you take it.

My bf doesnt have a FB but I do. He doesn't care. I would give him my password if he wanted it. I have nothing to hide nor do I do anything that would be disrespectful towards him. Same goes for MySpace.

 

[MoniqueU]

I actually don't even have a facebook or myspace. Just not my kind of thing. My kids showed me my DH's which I was actually surprised he had. His pic is of him and my oldest DD. I don't know how to read comments there or anything so I have no idea who is saying what to him but there are more women then men listed as his friend and I have NO CLUE who these women are. I am guessing coworkers and ,moms from my sons football teams? I got invited by 3 people to join their facebook. I have a VERY unusual last name and there are people I am not interested in talking to from years gone by.

 

[browneyes106]

I have never had any troubles. Last year one of my friends from high school joined Facebook and connected with his ex girlfriend and her boyfriend sent me a message saying not to be in contact with her.

 

[ms.yt]

There is a person who keeps friending me who I have no idea who she is. We've got like 40 friends in common, and I've asked 3 of those people who she is & they all say, "I don't know, but she was friends with a bunch of other people so I accepted her." I've ignored her request 3 times now, and she keeps requesting again. I don't recognize her picture or name, so I don't know what the deal is.

 

[dzee]

I think people are move "brave" in stating their opinions then if they were face to face with people. Also, since you can't hear the tone of voice on how something is intended, people can take just the written word the wrong way.

I SO AGREE with this statement!!! FB has become the new texting!! It's easier to say things to and about someone with the written word than it is to say it to and work things out face to face!! What's said CAN be taken the wrong way,good or bad, and it certainly can destroy family bonds and friendships!! For people who hate confrontations it makes it a lot easier for them to say what they want hiding behind their keyboards!!!

 

[Wish_I_Was_At_WDW]

There is a person who keeps friending me who I have no idea who she is. We've got like 40 friends in common, and I've asked 3 of those people who she is & they all say, "I don't know, but she was friends with a bunch of other people so I accepted her." I've ignored her request 3 times now, and she keeps requesting again. I don't recognize her picture or name, so I don't know what the deal is.

I have a couple of people like this too. One is family actually who I don't want to be friends with. The best way I've found to deal with this is to not click "ignore". The friend request just stays there (which is mildly annoying) but they can't do anything about it and can't keep requesting you as a friend. If they check it just still says "friend request pending" or something like that.

 

[lovetoscrap]

I was really not into the Facebook thing but all my DIS friends were and convinced me to join so we could keep up easier. I had no idea that all my old classmates were on there also! I went to small school in a close knit community and it has been great connecting with old friends that I haven't seen in years. I have also found some of my past close friends that I had lost touch with after many moves.

One ex-boyfriend has found me but I talked to DH before accepting him and DH is on my account. He has no problem with it--we had been friends for a long time after the relationship ended.

I have also rejected many friend requests. Many from DH's side of the family and also some local friends and aquaintences. I have the account to keep up with those that aren't involved in my daily life, and occasionally vent about the ones that are! I also don't accept DISers other than the group of friends that I have-- I do like to keep my account to friends and family only.

BUT, FACEBOOK IS TROUBLE! Since my friends convinced me I needed to play this stupid Farmtown game with them. . . .

 

[SC Minnie]

I don't post anything that I don't want my DD to read. I originally joined to monitor what she was posting so she is my friend. My nieces and nephews are also my friends. I think at least one of the nephews has forgotten that he friended me because some of the things he posts .

I mainly get on for the games but have reconnected with some old friends that I had lost touch with and that has been really good. The only bad experience I have had was an old boyfriend sent me a friend request. It has been 20 years so no biggie. I saw he had a little boy in his profile picture and sent him a message basically saying I hoped he was doing well and asking if that was his little boy. Told him my little girl was a teenager now. He responded back that I should just forget about him and he would be leaving FB soon. For me to have a good life because someone needed to. This went on and on. Later he posted some very disturbing things on his wall- suicidal comments. Some of our mutual friends tried to contact him to make sure he was OK. I haven't heard back from anyone so far so don't know if he did anything- intentionally or accidentally.

Dh doesn't have a FB page and doesn't really care to have one. I wouldn't mind in the least if he did or wanted to see mine.

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

Just this week, I got into a fight with one of DH's friends thru FB email. He was giving me a hard time about being an Obama supported. I LOL'd and mentioned something not bad at all about him being a Bush supporter. It escalated from there. I can take some ribbing about Obama, I'm a good sport but it turned nasty really quickly. About 9 emails were exchanged between us. He called me names, I mean, he really took it into personal attack mode. I was so upset I unfriended him. And I have known this guy for more than 15 years. I don't care who supports who, but when he turned it into a personal attack , thats when I unfriended him. He emailed me first, and as I said, it started out kinda light, but went downhill fast.

 

[Kycha]

I have a couple of people like this too. One is family actually who I don't want to be friends with. The best way I've found to deal with this is to not click "ignore". The friend request just stays there (which is mildly annoying) but they can't do anything about it and can't keep requesting you as a friend. If they check it just still says "friend request pending" or something like that.

You can just block them. Go to your Privacy Settings and just enter their name. It's pretty effective.

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Mainly I use FB to keep in touch with family across the country. Although, recently I was invited to a group for the parochial school I attended from 2nd to 8th grade. I have reconnected with people I haven't seen in almost 30 years. It has been great. We have been doing a lot of reminiscing, catching up and posting old pictures. There is even talk of having a reunion sometime in the coming year.

 

[JerseyMamaBear]

my sons step mom was caught talking very inappropriately about me and my mothering skills along with her plans to take me back to court and I called her out on it. She tried to deny it but once I started reading it line by line she tried to tell me that it was not what she meant. What caught me off guard was when I spoke with my sons father about it he agreed how out of line she was and was very sorry, saying he would handle it. I have a fb account but dont post on it at all. I have 1 friend and its my husband. I refuse to fall into the trap of saying things about others that is rude or out of line. Its not my bussiness.

 

[olena]

My friend was dumped by her husband and I bought her office furniture, since she is downsizing and moving. Before the divorce was final, she started dating someone she knew in high school and he was visiting her when we picked up the desks. He helped us load them into the truck and I wrote on her FB wall to thank him for helping us. Her mother saw the post and asked who the guy was and that led to a very uncomfortable situation. Her Mom blasted her for dating before the divorce was final. I didn't know it was a hush-hush thing and my post was innocuous.

 

[wdwgirl03]

This is going to sound so stupid but my cousin and I went to two colleges that are kind of rivals. Well, let's just say this year my school beat her school in basketball and so my status said something about that. Apparently she took that a little too personally and removed me from her friends as well as my sisters.

 

[2BigKIdz]

I'm mainly on Facebook for the games...sad but true lol

same here