Expecting Engagement Proposal Blues????

[JessHooper]

Okay, here is my dilemma: I'm still not officially engaged, however he asked my dad and we've already put our deposit on our WDW Wedding, so I know we're getting married in November. My fiance asked my dad while I was gone in the Army and since I wasnt supposed to be home until March, I told him that he couldnt propose to me until then. But I find myself to be very suspicious of everything he does! If he plans a trip for us, I imagine that he did it because he is going to propose. I am driving myself crazy! I don't want to expect when or how he will propose but its all I think about and can't help but wonder. Have any of you ladies felt like this? Did you expect your engagement or think about it as much as I do? Any advice on how to put it out of my mind????

 

[PrincessMo]

hi there. i thought about my fiance (husband now) proposing alot. My family all goes to WDW every year in early December and i knew he would propose there because it is our favorite place. Anyways, I am like you i guess, an overthinker. But I didn't have a clue as to how he would do it. Well, last December when we went down we were going to Mickey's Very Merry Christmas Party our first night and spent the night with my younger brother (who was the dude of honor at the Wedding). Well with all the excitement of going to Disney World and being down there with the Christmas decorations, shows, rides, etc. I forgot all about it. So, he proposed after the wishes fireworks and said (with tears in his eyes) "will you make all my wishes come true, will your marry me?" I was in total shock. My brother was kind of milling around aimlessly and i had a wicked sinus headache but that all disappeared at that moment.

So, you are not alone. And honestly, no matter how much you think about it, it will still come as a surprise. Mine was, and I am never surprised, so i was thrilled. You will be too. Good luck to you. Keep us all in the loop on your exciting plans.

 

[princesslisa]

I actually have had the complete opposite experience. I didn't think my fiance would propose to me for at least another year; we even talked about it. It came as such a shock that . . .it sounds crazy . . .but I didn't want to call my family or friends and tell them. I felt like they wouldn't believe me. It happened on a friday night and I didn't call them until late Sat. morning. My poor DF on that Friday was like "aren't you going to call everyone??" It was strange and I didnt know why I was like that because everyone was soooo happy for us.
So, my advice is don't stress yourself out, one day you will be looking back at that day and wishing you could relive it . . .just think, you are waiting for that moment to happen not looking back on it!!

Remember to enjoy the Holidays!!

 

[ahutton]

DH and I had gone out for my 25th birthday. We shopped, had lunch, shopped, drove around a bunch. I kept thinking "he'll do it here" but it never happened. Then we went to Circle K (like 7-11) and he finally got the nerve up to ask me in their parking lot. I had started thinking he was never going to ask - but he did!

 

[WDWbride2007]

I know exactly how you feel. My DF and I have been together for 8 years and living together for 2. In the time we have been dating, we have seen couples meet, get engaged, get married, and start having kids. It was really depressing each time someone new got engaged and they would ask the dreaded question: "So when are you FINALLY going to get engaged?" I would always laugh it off, but it was driving me crazy. Anyways, he bought the ring in November after talking about it for months. I knew he had it, and all I could think about was the proposal. The most important thing for me was his speech, so I was obsessing about how, when, where... Well, I was expecting to get the ring over the holidays. He was way too excited, though, and proposed the day after he picked up the ring. He tricked me into going to the Empire State building to take photos for a "school project." I believed him, so I was totally surprised when he popped the question and whisked me away to a romantic dinner. It was the most amazing night of my life and I totally didn't expect it (even though it was all I was thinking about for weeks). It is funny how they can just spring it on you when you least expect it. Just enjoy the holidays and focus on the present. When it finally happens, it will just be a whirlwind of emotion. Make sure to stop, take a deep breath, and savor it.

 

[JessHooper]

Thanks everyone. I'm just worried that I will expect it when it happens and I don't want to. I don't want to ruin it by expecting it but I can't help it.

 

[Laurafoster]

Just try and forget about it, he's probably hoping to catch you in an moment that your least expecting! sure it will be perfect no matter what!

 

[Chrissie-riel]

I had a similar situation in that we talked about getting married, picked out a date - just 6 months away - booked the church, reception site and began dress shopping. (Try putting on a gown without wearing a diamond on your left hand - the sales girls look at you pretty weird!) He wanted to wait until he could save up $$ and get the bigger stone. I was begging him - please just do it and get the ring later! Anyway, he told me that we were going out to dinner with one of his clients (so that I would dress nicely) but that we needed to stop by the church to speak with the priest about something first. He proposed up at the altar! So surprised!! And the priest was so cute, he had gone in early and turned on all the mood lighting for us. Then we had that nice dinner but without the clients. Keep planning and enjoy the ride......