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[SlightlyGoofy]

Hi everyone

I had a bittersweet weekend. Please pardon me for venting but I feel safter here than in the 'real' world.

One of my sisters and her DH came in Saturday afternoon to spend the night and go to church with us Sunday to see DD be baptized. I fixed dinner and our daughter and family joined us Saturday evening and we have a very nice time. DD told me that her DB had called and said that 'they' were coming on Sunday. I was so hopeful and excited at seeing my grands whom I have not seen in almost 11 months. When we arrived we sat in front of my son and dil. I smiled and said hello but got no response. I looked around and spotted my two oldest grandkids (got them the easy way as they came with Ddil). I tried to make eye contact but they avoided looking. I managed to ask one if he remembered me and he said yes but they looked so sad an scared. My sister had my youngest granddaughter on her lap and when I came in she was nice enough to hand her to me so I was able to spend those moments of the service with her. Never in my life I have ever prayed for a long sermon before! LOL I did not get to see my oldest granddaughter at all as she was in a Sunday School class. As soon as the service was over my Ddil pushed the couple at the end of the pew out of the way and was heard to say"Let's get the h*** out of here". I was able to pat my son on the shoulder (reaching high up to his height) and say "Happy Birthday". I am trying hard to concentrate on the fact that they showed up at all and that I got to see 2 and hold 1 of my grandchildren but this is just so foreign to my nature that I just don't know how to cope. I tried hard not to be a stereotypical MIL and even kept my mouth shut at times when I probably shouldn't but it did not work. I called the other grandma to tell her about the service as she is shut out of their lives also and she was grateful for the report. She had been worried because the younger boy had been beaten up when he was visiting his father up in Northen Indiana and there were reports that his nose had been broken and Ddil had said that she was not going to take him to the doctor. One of Ddil's sisters is the only person in contact with her and so the other grandma hears more than I do. I did not see any obvious injuries but everyone had long sleeves on and it would be hard to see. I, unfortunately, know a lot about child abuse having been in that situation as a child myself. Our father kept us secluded and we were constantly warned about telling family stuff outside the home so I am hoping that I am reading more into all this than is really happening. I had not seen evidence of physical abuse before I lost contact but much extreme emotional abuse. The only thing that I think I can do is pray because I have no control over the matter and I would surely appreciate any PD you guys can send to my Fab Four.

Life is too short to spend it hating and fighting IMHO. Just because someone is not exactly what you might want or do everything the way you personally do is no reason to write people off. You miss far too much when you do that IMHO. In the end what you own is not important at all but who you love and who love you is all.

I think I am sore need of this place today. I am counting the days until we leave and cannot wait until I pull into the resort and can get away from everyday life for a bit. I have 16 days to go!!!

I am so glad to have your upbeat post to read Rider. What a wonderful idea to repllicate your engagement visit for your honeymoon. I think I was one of the ones to reply to your 'thigh rub' thread. I suggested bike shorts. It must be great having an inside view of DW. I have an address of the maid that we had last time. I just found it. She was such a sweet person but far too trusting. She came into our room and sat down and we had a great visit. She was expecting when we were there and I am bringing something for the baby on this trip.

I have to go fix lunch. I am so looking forward to no cooking for a couple of weeks!!! I got my DH to play with the computer the other night. I put on the DW menu site and let him search where he wants to eat. He did not find one single restaurant he did NOT want to eat at! LOL

Slightly Goofy

 

[helenabear]

Hi everyone! I am at home today. I didn't get enough sleep and well a bunch of things later here I am at home. I have issues with water retention during certain times of the month and on top of it I have issues with falling leaves and the mold they produce so I woke up with a sore throat as well so I am trying my best to relax, decongest and sort of enjoy my day off... but it gets hard when your head is all mushy inside

I too can relate with that thigh rub thing. People have even asked me if I was wearing courderoys because they heard my pants rubbing because of my thighs I hate the rub I can get with some shorts and the rash is just awful. It hurts and there is nothing you can do to help it (or at least I couldn't find it). Oh how I envy those who don't have that happen to them.

SG, don't you worry about how you look. My sister and I looked at one of our videos from WDW and we saw some really huge people wearing skimpy clothing, which isn't an issue to me but when your body hangs outside of your clothing in ways it shouldn't, then I find that wrong. So we both agree that if some people like that can have less fabric on their body than I do on mine then anyone else no matter how big or small can wear whatever they want (as long as they wear the right size clothing). I hope I said that in a good way as my sinus meds makes me leave out words here and there... but my whole point is that I am sure you will not offend a soul in your shorts or even in a swimsuit! Which leads me to a silly story about swimsuits that just popped in my head. There was this woman I saw at the pool, just to set it even better, she was middle aged with what I consider a normal middle aged body, well I couldn't help but stare at her because I swore that she had no swimsuit on! Not that seing a teenage girl like this would be any better but maybe less shocking... I don't know, well anyway I must have looked at her for about 5 minutes when I decided to go sit down with my friends near her and when I got up close enough, I saw her swimsuit was almost the exact same color!!! I swear from far away she looked naked, but not! It was so shocking to see that, but as soon as I saw the lines on her from the swimsuit I was much better. I don't know why I am rambling like this... I will chalk it up to the drugs now.

SG, I am so sorry about your experience this weekend. That is just awful! That was rude on so many accounts with out even bringing in the fact that you are family. To say something like that at a baptism and to act like that! I feel so badly for you and your family. I wonder what some people do sometimes to their children and why. I will keep them in my thoughts and prayers (still) and I will keep hoping for the best with them.

Well my brain is fuzzy now so I should go. This med can either keep me up (as it did last night) or zonk me out like it is trying to do now. I hope everyone has a coherant day

 

[bashful64]

Hi everyone. Life is hectic as usual so please let me say in advanxce that I haven't had timeto go back and read what I have missed. {{{{HUGSS}}}} for those who need them and congrats and smiles to those who have passed milestones and shared happy experiences.

SG - I did read your last post as it is the one that was at the end of the thread. First of all let me send great big {{{{HUGS}}}} your way.

I am very worried about your grandchildren. I know you do not want to cause problems in your family but if you believe that your grands have been abused or are being abused in any way please please please report it to the proper authorities (even if you have to do it anonomously). Those children need someone who is willing to protect them and advocate for them if they are too frightened to speak up for themselves.

As for your DIL I am sorry to hear that she is still being so difficult. My best advice would be to talk to your sone privately. Tell him how much you miss the family and your grandchildren and try to come to an understanding with him. If he is evasive ask him what the problem is. Ask him how you can help the situation. Do not be agressive or attack his spouse in any way (not saying that you would but I know that when my DH's family didn't like me so much anytime they made a comment about me it was bound to be taken the wrong way...if you know what I mean). If your DIL just plain doesn't like you and refuses to let you have anything to do with the children then your only recourse is to try and work something out with your son. If that doesn't work then perhaps see if a mutual family member can intercede on your behalf (do you get along with DIL's mother? could you speak to her about it? is there any other family member that your DIL will talk with...your youngest gd wason someones lap...would your DIL speak witht hat person?). Your last resort may be to cause a few waves and confront your DIL person to person. Maybe she is walking all over you because you allow it. This last option is obviously the one with the most risk involved becasue it may cause an even bigger rift between you(although I'm not sure that it can really get much bigger).

Lastly more {{{HUGS}}} for you my friend.

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Helenabear, I know where you are coming from about very large people who dress inappropriately. I guess it is the opposite of anorexia (where you think you are fatter than you are). However, I do know how hard it is for large people to find nice clothing that flatters them. I also see older people who dress like teenagers and they would look so good if they dressed nearer their age. I have told my daughter to institutiionalize me when I start dying my hair jet black and wear bright red lipstick. LOL I envy and admire large women who do wear swimsuits and go for it to enjoy swimming and such. I just ain't one of them. I believe that whatever anyone wants to do is fine as long as it does not harm anyone else. Not tooooo sure about the large lady with the invisible swimsuit though. That sounds painful. LOL I hope you get to feeling better. Have you tried Sinulair? It works pretty good for me.

Bashful, you gave me so much good advice and I really appreciate it. The authorities have been called (by neighbors) and my DS and Ddil were required to attend parenting classes which they did not. I truly believe that in all but the most extreme cases children are better off left in the home, imperfect or not. If they are taken into child protective custody they would be split up from one another and there is always that feeling of abandonment. Children can withstand a lot of bad treatment. I know as I was an abused child myself. That makes me fret about my grands AND know that you can come out the other side stronger. I will try to write another letter to my Ddil tomorrow when my heart is less muddled and my mind stronger. You are right that she walks over me cause I allow it but then her grandmother who raised her 'tells it like it is' and she treats her badly also. My son has lost all control of his gonads and I have a lack of respect for someone who would stand back and allow his children to be mistreated. Sorry to be so blunt but it is so true. He did the same thing with his first wife but thank God there were no children involved.

My oldest grandson is due any second now and we have to do our schoolwork and get ready for our party. I have the battery recharging on the camcorder so I can tape it as parents are NOT invited and my DD is hearbroken. LOL

Thank you for all your kind words and {{{{hugs}}}}

Slightly Goofy

 

[helenabear]

Wow, it's really funny to read what you write when you are drugged up At least I sort of made sense...

SG, I am with Bashful, if you can alert the authorities annonymously hopefully that can help, but you are right though, it can lead to bad things. If the kids are lucky, family can take over custody of the children temporarily but that can be hard as well. I always wonder about things like that and if I had a lawyer I could talk to to find out about it, I would. I am just worried that they will be reported again by someone else. How many times do they have to be suspect before they are required to do more than take classes? (I don't know but that would be interesting to find out). It is a tough situation and I wish I could help more but I will give you a big old {{{HUG}}} and hope that helps. I meant to say that yesterday but I guess I missed typing it It is just awful that they have to live with that and you as well. You always speak of your Fab Four and it breaks my heart to think of having to live like that! I just wish your DS had more say in how the kids are raised or do you think he is just a guilty as she is (not to say anything bad about him, but sometimes family we love do stupid things...). I constantly think about the kids and I feel so bad for them. I hope there is someway somehow sometime to get the kids the help they need.

I just had to laugh at the thought of you with black hair & red lips, SG! I tried to picture it but I really couldn't, sorry. Now I can see myself doing this, but my hair not sunbleached is dark brown and I look good in red lips but I just had to laugh picturing you with this... and I put the long black hair on you as well. Just promise me you won't wear bathing suits the exact color of your skin I think the world of designers really need a wake up call. Not all women are 5'7"-5'10" and wear a size 2-6 with small chests & little hips & rears. I had a friend who was the "perfect" size (5'7" and a size 4-6) naturally but the funny thing was she tried to gain weight with the help of her doctor. She was the only person I knew who could look right in clothing. Otherwise the true average woman (a 5'5" woman size 14 wearing a 36 C bra) can't find clothes that fit! I actually admire many women who can wear a bathing suit and be CONFIDENT while doing it! Even smaller women are concentious of their bodies in the suit and it shows. I know I am and I am slightly smaller than the average woman (but bigger in the chest area). The really funny thing about petite clothing is that the legs are a tad to short for me. I have longer legs than the normal 5' woman but not long enough for regular lenghts. I have a 29" inseam and fortunately they now make the Short, Regular & Tall lengths on some pants so I do well with them. Otherwise I will have to invest in a decent sewing machine so I can hem my own pants.

Sinulair, is that a prescription med? I don't have much luck with them and most make me feel on edge. I currently am using Aleve cold & sinus and that decongests me quite well but I can't use it at night as it speeds up my heart rate (and thus I can't sleep). My problem is one day one thing will mess up my sinus and another day the same thing won't bother me. It all has to do with the climate and all so I stay away from the prescription meds that prevent it because I hate taking meds for something that may or may not be needed. It is a pain to work my way, but I do try some prescription meds that work after the fact and actually one lead me to Aleve cold & sinus (my doc said it is similar to one prescription med I used to take but actually cheaper on the whole for me & much more convenient to get since I don't use it daily or even all year long).

Well I have rambled long enough. I hope everyone is doing well today and sounding much better than I am (yes I am feeling fine but my voice surely doesn't sound so fine).

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Helenabear, you always make sense and besides if it were a requirement of this forum that you have to make sense I would not be allowed to post. LOL

I have been over the situation in my head dozens of times and unless I would see actual physcial abuse I will not contact the authorities because I really believe that kids are usually better off in a less than perfect family than in a foster home and they are usually seperated from one another. In this case since it is a blended family it would be a sure seperation. I have it from the other grandma that the authorities were called several times when Ddil was married before and I know of 2 occasions since she has been married to my son. I appreciate your politely asking about my DS. I understand that he is to blame also. Maybe more since he should know better. I remember being more upset at my mother than dad cause she saw what he was doing and did nothing. Now that I am older, I understand she was in a bad position though.

I wish the children were in school and such where I would know that others would be able to keep track of them. Where they live is a small community and there is a good chance that someone will call and I know that the other grandma is thinking of calling. I want to do everything I can so that if something happens I will be eligible to take the girls. I would take all 4 if I could but I know that would not be allowed. I have made friends with the other grandma and plan on trying to make friends with the boy's father also, if I can so I could keep in touch. The father is no better than the Ddil from all reports. Thank you for sending PD to my Fab Four. I really believe that every little bit helps.

You have me looking like Elvira or my Dsd now. Long black hair indeed!!! (grin) I just think that fake black hair does not look good on older people and it makes some faces look older as it brings out all the wrinkles. I do not have nary a one. One of the few blessings about being fat!!! I do not wear makeup as I just don't have the time or patience for it. One the upside I never look any better but I also never look worse. LOL

You are right, nicer clothing needs to be designed for full figures. Ever notice the larger sized clothing that has buttons, pockets or other details across the widest part of the hips? Just what I need, something to call attention to that area. I go for the slightly lower cut tops and hope that people might notice that I am large up there rather than so much down there. (raised eyebrows and a great big old grin) Since I am married and my DH likes what he has it really does not bother me at all if others are not interested. (big laugh) Since there are large parts of my anatomy that have not seen sunlight since the dawn of time I don't believe I could find a bathing suit in that shade anyway so you are all safe.



I think maybe, even though you are short, that you may not need petite pants. I am 5'7 or so and do need petite length pants. It is not just a matter of the length of the pants but the inseam fitting properly. I have thought of buying another sewing machine (gave mine to Ddil) because the kind of clothes that I like to wear are simple designs and would be pretty easy to sew and then I would get a better fabric also.

Singulair is a prescription medicine but if you do not need help all the time and what you are using works I would not worry about it. I am lucky that we have a good prescription medical plan as I need many kinds of medicine a month and would be hard pressed to pay the full cost of them.

Went and got the car all checked out for vacation. Getting haircuts tomorrow and then in a few days I will bringing out the luggage. I am already taking my predisone and medrol so things are starting to feel real. 15 days to go!!

Slightly Goofy

 

[IASW Rider]

Hi Everyone,

Sorry that I wasn't able to post sooner, SG - I also feel terrible about the situation with your DGC's. I think that you're doing the absolute right thing by befriending the children's other grandmother and even their father, if you can - so that if and when the time is right, you may be able to have at least a few of your DGC's come and live with you. I understand your not wanting to alert the authorities at this time (though that would have been my first inclination as well, as Bashful and Helenabear stated), especially since they have been alerted so many times already - even before your DS was married to your DiL. You are extremely patient and strong to stick to your convictions and try to step back from the situation, for the sake of your DGC's being able to stay together in one home, with their parents. I wish you all lots of PD, prayers, good luck, and good wishes. And lots of {{{HUGS}}}, too!

Great to hear from you, Bashful! Hope that all has been well with you and your family!

How are you feeling, Helenabear? The mold and falling leaves are getting my throat and sinuses, too. UGH - it's just that time of year. I stick to good old Sudafed and Benadryl......but usually hold out as long as I can before taking anything, as well!

Speaking of medications, doesn't predisone have something to do with sinuses as well, SG? I believe that my uncle was recently taking it. Oh boy - you must be REALLY excited about your trip, now! I always love pulling out the luggage and starting to pack or put things aside! Just a little over two weeks till you're in - what I refer to as - "the promised land"! (hee hee!)

To add to our real-size fashion conversation, I actually think that designers are starting to make more and more stylish and comfortable clothing in larger sizes. I never would have thought of wearing leather pants - even when I was thinner than I am, now - but I bought a great pair, last winter, and I'm really glad that I did! (I'm 5'2" and also wear petite sizes to avoid pants that are too long!) I think that the industry is really starting to change. I have been able to find many outfits that are similar to what my thinner friends are wearing, that are comfortable and look good. I also found some bathing suits which are comfortable, "hold me in", in the right places, and look decent (about as good as I can hope to look in a bathing suit, at this point - hee hee!). I just figure "whatever", when I'm at the pool - there are always people of all sizes there, and I think "well, if people don't like looking at me in a bathing suit, then they don't have to look at me!" I believe that I bored you all with my charming bridesmaid dress story of last year - where my friend (the bride) was told that a particular designer boutique carried dresses in a variety of sizes, but when we got there nothing fit me and the very "hip" (and RUDE) salesman humiliated me in front of my friend and her sister, later calling my friend (even though he had MY number, as I would be the one PAYING FOR THE DUMB DRESS) to tell HER that they had nothing in their stock that would fit ME. Needless to say, I wrote several letters - to the local manager and the marketing / advertising manager of the store, as well as to the designer herself, telling them how I was mistreated, how I never have trouble finding things that fit me in other stores, and that they should wise up and start carrying a larger variety of sizes, since 90% of the population can't fit into their clothes, anyway. They wrote me back immediately, and even sent me a cute umbrella (which I refuse to use) - I guess they thought that that would be appropriate for someone who can't fit into their clothes! They did the right thing by apologizing, but I will NEVER buy anything - clothes or otherwise - by that designer, EVER. I SHOULD be discreet and not mention the name of the designer.....but I won't, because it still pi**es me off to think about how that salesman looked at and spoke to me, especially in public. So......DO NOT BUY ANYTHING BY NICOLE MILLER!!!!!!! P.S. - we wound up going to a "real" bridal store, and I had absolutely no problem fitting into any of their dresses - go figure, right!

OK - I'm off my soapbox, now!

Well, Frank and I have pretty much settled into a routine, now. We're still getting used to the schedule, and to living together, and to creating a new "schedule" for the cats, but we're a lot more settled than we were, last week!

Hope that you all are having a good night! {{{{{HUGS}}}} to everyone!

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Now ladies, you guys may be a just a touch fluffy but I am majorly fluffy. I have been on every diet known to man, had my stomach stapled and while I know that I eat more than I should I do not eat vast amounts of food and when I eat out with others I notice that they eat quite a bit more than I do. I think I am just made to be this size and have learned to do the best I can with it by working hard so I am in the best 'shape' I can be in. Everyone in my family is about my size. I work from the time I get up until I fall in bed at night doing all sorts of manual labor around here. I cannot abide mindless exercise and want something to show for my efforts. I used to go into shops looking for things for my DD who was thin and blonde (opposite of me LOL) I used to be very ashamed of myself before almost dying from the stomach stapling but afterward I was a woman on a mission. There were times when I would go into a trendy store looking for special things for my special girl. Most of the time it was fine but there were times when the size 0 shop girls would look horrified at my walking thru their stores. I developed a 'pay back' for those people. I would pick up a couple of outfits and head to the dressing room. LOL Naturally, I would never actually try anything on. I am bad, not evil!!!

Rider, I have a wide circle of friends and have ways of keeping up with what might be going on with my grandkids so it helps a bit. My Ddil does not know that I know these people and they are concerned and that helps some. It is the hardest decision that I have ever made NOT to call someone but since they have been there a few times already and have not really done anything I would be afraid of it happening again and I know how that goes. When they leave the kids are left to face recriminations. I think about the grandma in Texas who has to live with the fact that her Ddil killed her 5 children and the fact that she has to live with it daily that she might have been able to do something. I think the husband should be arrested for contributing to the crime IMHO.

Predisone is used for a variety of things. I use it for my asthma. It is a dangerous medicine to use full time but I use it off and on to enable me to do things as it helps my breathing. I will eventually have to go on oxygen and am putting it off as long as possible. I love prednisone, it works so well and is so very cheap. Less than a bag of cough drops!!!

Rider, I do not remember the wedding dress story. You were right to be ticked and I am glad that your friend was not one of those shallow people who would have picked a dress over a friend. The advice columns are full of people who disinvite friends cause they do not fit the dress they want in their wedding. Seems to me a great way of finding out if you are a friend or a decoration! LOL

Doctor visits today, haircuts and a bit of Halloween shopping and back in time for my Dgs's tutoring. DH goes bowling tomorow so maybe I can make up some work then. I am bringing the suitcases down to the pool table this weekend and it is starting to feel real. 14 days and counting!!!!

Slightly Goofy

 

[helenabear]

Hi all, just popping in to say hi. My allergies are now in full force and I cough, sneeze & have itchy eyes but I am doing the wonderful decongestants and that seems to help a lot.

You know I was thinking about all the problems people (especially women) have buying clothing that fits and the looks people from those who aren't their size. People are made to be a certain way no matter what they do. I will never be tiny and that is fine. I am only not quite so happy with my size because I know I am not being healthy and that is more important to me then saying I am 5'1" and I weigh ___ (like I'm going to tell you that ) I know that one should do their best by being healthy but if you do that then you are fine. My dad is a fairly healthy man who is just a big man. He can never be small and he could never be anywhere near 200 pound if he tried. That is fine because that is who he is and will always be. I know there is no way in h*** I could fit my hips into some of the smaller sizes because I know I'd have to cut through bone in order to do that So once I know I am healthier in how I live, I will be happy with my size. I don't eat a whole lot but I know I don't eat what is best for me, so that is what I have to change about myself to be happy. I am proud of my curves and I want to keep them because I know this is what my DH finds sexy to him. He loves me how I am and only pushes me to change because I want to. Now if I didn't he woudln't say a word to me. Diets are evil and magazines are evil as is those terrible fashion shows. Honestly how can a girl be close to 6 feet tall and only weigh 120 or so and that is who the designers design for and those designs are supposed to work on all body types and on top of that I am supposed to want to wear a big feather in my chopped up icky hair Seriously one thing that people have found that I hope all clothe manufacturers realize is the proportions for a size 2 really shouldn't be the same for a size 20. Adding inches only to certain parts just doesn't work and what fool thinks that the arms and calves of a larger woman are the same size as a small one. Same goes for neck holes. I swear for a lot of T-shirts they don't know how to make bigger neck holes from S to M to L to XXXXL. I could go on and on but the only way to get something that fits perfectly is to have it tailor made for you. My wedding dress was and you know even the sleeves were two different sizes in diameter. One of my arms is bigger than the other due to driving a manual transmission. So we had to let out one arm about 1/2 inch or so to make up for that. My shoulders are not even so we had to adjust the neckline as well. My cousin who is wonderful at making clothing has said many times that no one is symetrical on both sides at all. One is bigger than the other or slightly off or something that makes buying clothing in stores hard for everyone. I wish I had the talent and time to make more of my own clothing. It is just hard to do it for yourself sometimes. Okay I am done, I just really hate shopping for clothing. It gets really frustrating not being able to find things that fit without altering them.

Our managers made brunch for us today so that was nice. They did a very good job too and I am impressed by the quality of the food. Someone made really good pancakes and I want to find out who made them and what they put in them to be that good!

SG, I am glad that you are able to keep tabs on key people in your Fab Four's lives. It really must be a tough situation... you don't want them to get split up from the family yet at the same time you want them to be safe. I agree, sometimes it is better to keep them in a slightly off situation than to put them in foster care where they can be bounced from home to home. Everything about that situation is hard and I just hope for the best for them! But to make yourself joyful, think that you will be on your way to sunny WARM Florida soon What a wonderful time of year to go there!

Rider, what an awful story about the dress! That is horrible that you would be treated like that. I always think about the movie "Pretty Woman" and would love to go do what she did to those saleswomen in that one store that snubbed her. There are many times where people don't offer the help they could and you'd just love to go back there and say "Look what you missed out on" especially at places that go off of comission. I'd love to do that to some car sales people who treated me like a dumb woman. But then again I probably couldn't rub much in their faces as the deal I got was really good and they didn't make much off of me. What I find funny about my bridesmades is that they all wore the same size give or take one size. I was only mad at one of them because she got a size 12 and she really needed a size 14. She stuffed herself in that dress and it didn't look so good on her but hey that's what she wanted and that made her feel good to get a size 12 I guess. I think if you are their friend, then you should take into consideration what they like and don't like and what would be comfortable for them. Now I found a dress I loved and it got nixed because of the buttons down the back. Granted they were there for show only and not even real but my sister hated them and refused to wear a dress with them... I almost killed her for that and almost kicked her out because she was being what I thought too petty, but it is nowhere near as bad as a group I know who had some of the bridesmaids say they couldn't be in the wedding because the bride INSISTED on having them wear a red strapless gown. A few of the bridesmaids were either really big or really small chested for their size and did not feel comfortable wearing that. So they left the bridal party (a roommate in college was one of the gals who left) and the bride said she was happy to be able to replace them with a better body anyway. Some people have NO tact.

Well I have rambled much too long. I hope everyone has a wonderful day!

 

[IASW Rider]

Sorry - I'm at work and can't write very much, right now, but I just have to ask you one question, SG:

IS THERE ANY ROOM FOR ME, IN ONE OF YOUR SUITCASES????!!!

Hope that you're all having a nice day!

 

[helenabear]

You know Rider, I was thinking the same thing... maybe she has one REALLY BIG suitcase for us I am sure we all could use the nice warmth the Florida sun would give us!

 

[IASW Rider]

Wow - Helenabear - how did I miss your post?? At first I thought that we posted at exactly the same time, so I didn't see it after reading SG's post....but you posted before I did! Oh well - still can't write very much right now, but just wanted to say "hi" and hope that you're feeling better!

 

[IASW Rider]

Oh my God - you just did it again, Helenabear! How did you do that? You must be on line, too! (Guess I should check my buddy list, right? Hee hee!)

 

[helenabear]

I have Yahoo messenger and it alerts me when I have an e-mail and I can subjects of e-mails so since I get notifications on this thread, I can pop in and see what's been said.

 

[IASW Rider]

That is so neat, Helenabear! I used to have Yahoo Instant Messenger, too. Well, I would have sent you a "PM" yesterday when we were both on the boards, but work was just too hectic. I'm trying to sneak in a post, now, before I "dive in" to my big pile of work, this morning.

How are you all doing, today? How are you feeling, Helenabear? And how are you doing, Slightly Goofy?

Yeah, that was a pretty annoying experience at Nicole Miller. I'll never forget the condescending way that that salesman looked me up and down, as if I was a piece of garbage. And how he took my measurements and announced them at the top of his lungs so that the whole city of NY could probably hear him. The most humiliating part was the fact that the salesman called my friend to tell HER that they don't carry (or can't order) a dress in my size.....so that SHE had to call ME and tell me. That must have been really hard for her to do, plus it was really embarrassing for me to be caught off guard like that. To be honest, I was so humiliated after the initial experience when we were IN the store that I just didn't feel like dealing with it any more and told my friend that I would back out of the bridal party since it was obviously inconvenient to find me a dress, blah, blah, blah. I just didn't want to think about it, any more. Fortunately, my friend refused to accept my "resignation" and went and found another dress. Ah, the things we do for friends! I never told my friend how angry I was at the store and how I was treated, and I never told her that I wrote that complaint letter - I didn't want her to feel badly or like it was her fault. Anyway, at least I will be prepared, now, if I am ever faced with a situation like that, again!

Moving right along.....!

Yes, my uncle was definitely taking predisone, SG. He was taking it because he has a polyp in his nose (which the doctor doesn't want to remove, 'cause my uncle has heart problems and shouldn't bleed, so he can't have surgery) and was having trouble breathing. Unfortunately, the predisone made him dizzy and disoriented, so he wound up feeling worse than before! But I think that he has finished this most recent course of medication.

I love the story about how you used to shop for your DD and take things into the dressing room, just to annoy the salespeople, SG! And I can't believe the story about the wedding your friend was in, where the bride insisted on a specific dress style and was happy to replace bridesmaids with others who had "better bodies"! That is unbelievable. If I was in that wedding, and the bride said something like that to me, I would tell her where she could stick her bridesmaid dress, her wedding, AND her friendship!

That's great that you stay in touch with people who can keep you abreast of the situation with your DGC's , SG. I'm sure that you are on top of everything. And I'm sure that they will be all right. Just concentrate on the fun that you're going to have with everyone on Halloween and getting ready for your trip!

I don't know if I mentioned that my WDW 100 YOM Vacation Planning Video arrived in the mail, a few days ago. In fact, it arrived on the day that we went to the travel agent to make our honeymoon reservations (good timing!)! I'd never ordered one of those tapes before, 'cause I figured that after 11 WDW vacations, I didn't need any travel planning help. But that was really silly of me, 'cause I was missing out on some great tapes! This one is really nice - they show snippets of each of the new parades, too. I can't wait to hear what you think of them, SG! I also ordered the WDW wedding planning video and other information, just for the heck of it, and just out of curiosity, but I haven't received them yet. Anyway, I'm already ready to go! I wish that the time was closer, so that I could start making Priority Seatings, etc.! But I still have 4 1/2 months to go before I can even do that! Oh well - I can plan in my head and live vicariously through you, SG!

Well, I'd probably better get some work done, here. Hope that you're both having a nice day! Talk to you soon!

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

I cannot think of a better bunch of people to share DW with than you guys. Climb into the backseat, you don't have to cram into the suitcases although they are pretty big. I am taking enough clothes for 2 weeks cause I don't like spending MY vacation doing laundry and too darn cheap to spend $2 a load. LOL Well, if we decide to extend our stay I would be willing to do so tho. (grin)

A funny fact. The daycare that my youngest Dgs goes to is run by the neatest couple. They cannot have children and so the daycare is great for them, not to mention all the lucky children that pass through their doors. They have been in the business for so long that they are on their second generation of kids in some cases. The older kids watch out for the younger ones and it is almost like another family. At any rate, one of the other couples who has 2 children in the daycare are going to be at DW at the same time we are. They just happen to be our DD and Dsil's best friends. The daycare couple are going to be in FL at the same time and are going out of their way to go over and watch the kids while the parents attend a convention meeting or two. What service is that? Anywey we are all going to get together and go out to eat or something. I love my DH but he is not much fun and I love people so this will be wonderful for me. I love to laugh and cut up and my DH is older and not the kind to do such things.

Rider, are you sure it was prednisone that your uncle takes cause that is for respirtory problems as a rule?

We could go on all day about clothes not fitting. There is just one thing to do. We MUST all win big lotteries in our states and hire someone to custom make our clothes. When I find something that fits well I buy several in different colors. I really don't care a lot about clothes as long as they are clean and fit it is fine with me. I don't like shopping much either although I have and still do it for a living. I am a Secret Shopper now and used to be a coupon queen.

I have felt so badly when I have come back to the computer and found an ICQ from Helenabear and I missed it. We will have to make an appointment one night for a group chat. Hint, hint.

I collect those vacation planning videos. My grands were raised on watching them along with the park videos that I got years ago. When my 4 year old went a couple of years ago he already knew so much about the place it was not funny. He was talking today about going when he was in his mommy's tummy. 4 and he has sort of been there 2 times. Lucky kid.

I am having lunch with some friends tomorrow. I really don't have time for it but it is not something I can do that often so I am not going to miss it. I need to go to the hardware store as I am making some acrylic panels for our basement windows to protect them from being broken and keep some of the cold air out of the house. This, along with doing the cooking and cleaning is starting to get me down. I need DW and I need it NOW!!! 13 days and counting!!!!!!

Slightly Goofy

 

[jstmee]

SG, you must be so excited only 12 more days---well in about 40 minutes that is until WDW for you. I am finally getting over my post vacation blues. I cleaned more today than I have in the past couple of weeks.

I am freezing typing this up. The temperature is in the 30's right now. I'm am so worried about my cat "Mittens". She loves going outside. But I don't want her to freeze, she's very thin. Sometimes she stays out all night, but in the winter she stays in. She doesn't like the snow. Now, I'm worried that she doesn't realize how cold it will get with no snow on the ground. We also have a lot of fox up here so when she stays out I don't get a lot of sleep.

Rider and Helenabear, I get such a chuckle on the clothing department talks. Ha, my first marriage I wore a size 10 and thought I was fat the second time around I was married I wore a size 18 (oops did I fail to mention I was pregnant) and my maid of honor and bridesmaid were both size 8's. They are really beautiful girls too. I thought it quite amusing that the bride was not the "most" beautiful.---Of course, I'm joking, because on that day no one could have told me that anyone was more beautiful than I.

I am one of those gals that swims and does everything, regardless of my weight. I do keep in shape though. I am very large but all Doc's blood tests and my strength etc. are in order. I would like to lose weight some day, but my DH said the nicest thing the other day. I said the only thing wrong with me was my weight and I'll lose that someday. He said no you won't and there's nothing wrong with that. For the past 10 years we've been married i've told him I would lose weight and look like some gorgeous bombshell. heee heee, like that will ever happen. I guess after ten years of marriage I can be comfortable with who I am and realize I too will never be tiny. My family has "large" bones. I can eliminate some of the -blubber- lol though. but if I don't, I certainly won't stop living. By the way, my bathing suit is really cute. The top portion is floral print, purples and pinks and greens, with black, and the bottom portion is black, and it has a black skirting around it that is a thin see throughish material. I sewed up the front a little so I wouldn't hang out and my rear stayed put in the bathing suit. So,,,,I felt comfortable in it. I also used to be a lifeguard and swimming is a passion of mine, so I will never give that up. I did think I was going to have a heart attack a couple of times climbing to the top of the mountains at Blizzard Beach, 7 times in one day aaarrrgh.

I'm now a size 22-24, and I do more places to buy clothing that looks good. Thankfully though, I'm not working now so jeans are my staple item. Have any of you tried the "stretch" jean that they have at I think Walmart or Kmart. They are great. I highly recommend them.

I didn't feel self conscious about my weight in the slightlest on vacation. It's only around my family who I only see about once every other year. Okay, I'm rambling now.

I'll have to reinstall ICQ again. I'm going to check the back door for the 10th time to call my cat. and DH has only been home 2 days since we got back from vacation. It's a tough year for us.

bye

 

[jstmee]

Where is everybody? In the jacuzzi? I was up way too late last night and I even got quotes for a 7 day WDW cruise for next September. I think I am only dreaming, but hey why not dream. I think this would be great because the food is included in the price and my children love food. Especially my 5 foot 7 inch 13 year old 150 lbs. boys.

I am going to sniffle a little tears here. My DH as you know travels for a living. In the past 4 months I think I've seen him just a handle full of times. (Not counting vacation-which he is now paying dearly for by not being able to come home at all). It's very lonely having a home and 4 children in your husband's hometown were the majority of people speak French. I was at the PTA meeting last night and they all broke out into their home dialect of French. Yes, I think it's neat at times, but without DH to joke with about it...I'm downright teary eyed.

Well, I think I need a good jacuzzi and a nice movie, any suggestions? Who wants to join me. Promise I won't belly ache.

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Good evening Jstmee, it is so nice to see you here relaxing a bit. Being in charge of 4 youngsters on your own is very wearing and missing your DH is to be expected. It is not belly aching, it is sharing so we can understand where you are coming from and what we can offer you in the way of friendship. Such an interesting life. Please pardon my ignorance but do you live near Quebec? I am not much good at geography and such. What a wonderful way to wile a few hours - daydreaming about a summer cruise. How in the world did you handle DW on your own with 4 kids? Even with teenagers it would be a daunting feat for me. I can barely control my DH let alone several people at once. Did you have much trouble with people wanting to go in seperate directions and such? I hope things calm down and your DH can get off the road and back with you giggling at the townspeople. (whom I am sure you are very fond of)

I sure hope that Mittens made it home safely. It is so difficult to see our loved ones go out into the world even though we know we need to give them freedom to do so. LOL

I was a size 12 in my first marriage and was told I was too fat all the time. He was much older than I was and used to run around and blame it on my weight or the fact that the corners of the kitchen floor were not clean enough and my all time favorite _ because I was too young to go to bars with him. Boy, would I like to go back in time for just an hour or so to do some serious damage to that delightful fellow. Gotta admit I learned a lot from that relationship though. That which does not kill us makes us strong and boy am I strong. LOL

I think I will join you in the jacuzzi Jstmee. Would not do that unless I was very comfortable with you and I am. Just advert your eyes and let me settle down in privacy. "Don, a tall cool one over here please?" Temperature is just right, the stars are shining bright and I think I see the EWP coming around the turn. What more could we want?

Slightly Goofy/Linda

 

[jstmee]

Aaaaah, the feel of the warm jacuzzi and yes, I see the EWP coming also. I am so excited to see it from here. I am relaxed and comfortable. Mittens made it home safely and she slept all day long. I am not letting her out this evening however. I live across from Edmundston,New Brunswick. I am also only 20 minutes from the province of Quebec. Quebec is huge. From where I live to 7 hours away in Montreal. We are 3 hours from Quebec City.

We also are only 45 minutes from whale watching in the St. Lawrence Seaway. I went with my daughters' class last year we saw at least 4-5 whales and many seal. It was amazing that I live so close to that beauty.

My DH went on the vacation with us. He arrived home 3 hours before we left for the airport and left 9 hours after we got back. So, we did have 12 glorious days with him. I told him he couldn't call work and that he couldn't take his laptop, which he didn't and he said he was glad he didn't bring it. We have a web cam on our puter here at home and he just bought one for his laptop, so we are able to talk and see each other on the internet. We did that for the first time tonight. The tears just welled up in my eyes to see him. It was nice.

Thats it for now. Don, i'd like a nice frozen drink please.