Ever hear a nasty rumor.....about yourself?

[Kim&Chris]

Someone recently told me that a rumor was being spread about me a few years ago. A pretty awful one. A very untrue one. One that I can't bring myself to type out on this keyboard.

When I heard it, I lost my breath for a moment. You know that feeling you get when your heart skips a beat? That feeling of anger, mixed with absolute grief? Well, that wasn't even the worst of it. The person spreading the rumor was my mom.

 

[TippyThomas]

Yes, I have. I'm truly amazed at how fake some people can be when they don't think you'll see what they've written and/or said.

 

[NYCgrrl]

Someone recently told me that a rumor was being spread about me a few years ago. A pretty awful one. A very untrue one. One that I can't bring myself to type out on this keyboard.

When I heard it, I lost my breath for a moment. You know that feeling you get when your heart skips a beat? That feeling of anger, mixed with absolute grief? Well, that wasn't even the worst of it. The person spreading the rumor was my mom.

Work very hard to ignore denying or discussing it.
Getting upset over this kind of stuff just feeds the ego(s) of the (ones) who started it and makes them feel bigger than their shriveled soul.
I always asked myself if my mother was proud of my actions…if the answer was yes that was good enough.
Always be your best

 

[rajak73]

Don't know if you would classify it as nasty but, when DW and I were due to be married, we were both 19 and according to some, she was pregnant that is why we were getting married. Got married, 7 YEARS later we had our first child, my DW did a excellent job of hiding her pregnancy for 7 years.

 

[Kennywood]

When that happens, rest your chin on the heels of your hands, look them in they eyes and, in a tone of fascination, ask, "Really?? And then what did I do??"

 

[soccerdad72]

Not that I'm aware of - I live kind of a boring life

 

[SC Minnie]

28 years ago my mother overheard at her office that DH had moved out and we were getting divorced. We were preparing our house to put it on the market. We were moving some things out to storage to help with staging. Someone saw him loading up the car and made an assumption. That's small town for you.

Last week was our 32nd anniversary so much for that rumor.

 

[Micca]

Not that I'm aware of - I live kind of a boring life

Me too! That's why I liked the rumors about me, it made me more interesting.

 

[CGB]

Years ago, relatives who lived near my parents told me that my stepmom had told them that my husband physically abused me. It wasn't true at all, and I knew she had done it to strike back at us because I wasn't bowing to their wishes. I had dealt with the narcissistic manipulation for years. I ignored it because I knew she would deny it. Starving that play for attention was better than confrontation. It hurt nonetheless. As they say, betrayal doesn't come from strangers.

 

[tvguy]

Not that I am aware of. I did have someone try to throw me under the bus. I borrowed his camera, and left him a note that I had. TV cameras used to have tubes in them, and if you pointed them at the sun or another very bright light for a long time, the tube would get a burn spot that you could see on the tape you recorded. Person the camera was assigned to said I burned the tube. Fortunately, the guys in the engineering maintenance shop had my back because they determined from the damage that the camera had been pointed at the sun for several hours. I only had possession of the camera for 30 minutes......at 2 am! They went to my boss and told him that, they made the person assigned the camera show them the last tape he shot before I used the camera, and low and behold, the burn was visible on that video. I never discussed it with this guy, but this was 37 years ago and I still think about it.

 

[Kitty 34]

Only what Junior High kids spouted off about their sub!

 

[Turn the Page]

Yes and no. In high school, a rumor was spread by someone, I don't know who, that I don't wear underwear. At the time it was devastating because I was 14 and to young teens these things are devastating. It took years before I realized that that was, in fact, neither devastating nor something I cared about in the least.

This is one of the things I remind myself of when people say "oh I wish I was a teenager again!!" I don't. Teenagers are buttheads, and I wouldn't trade the person I am today for that person for anything. Now, if I could press the pause button on the person I am today........

However, all that said, due to a series of unfortunate circumstances my mother and I are estranged. My oldest, DD18, has borderline personality traits (diagnosed several years ago before she was eligible for the fullblown diagnosis) and bonded with my mother in a very codependent way. It mostly involved half truths and full blown lies to my mother who believed them wholeheartedly who then spread rumors to extended family members about me. It was my experience in high school, I think, that allowed me to be better able to shrug it off and think "well, if you're willing to belive such nonsense, I don't have to waste my time with you."

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Don't know if you would classify it as nasty but, when DW and I were due to be married, we were both 19 and according to some, she was pregnant that is why we were getting married. Got married, 7 YEARS later we had our first child, my DW did a excellent job of hiding her pregnancy for 7 years.

Of course not the track you were going for with your story but some people do actually get married shotgun style even today.

In the case of my husband's old coworkers they met at the wedding of the sister, (who married another of my husband's coworker and we were there at the wedding) moved in together within a week and got pregnant several months later. They were in their 20s at the time but the expediency in which they opted to get married raised suspicions. They decided to get married both because they loved each other by that point falling head over heels but also because of the pregnancy.

Unfortunately for them they lost the child a month before their wedding but still went through with it. They eventually got pregnant again not too too much later and now have 3 kids. They didn't exactly hide that she would have been pregnant at the wedding but prior to announcing it most suspected that was the main reason they were getting married that soon, though to my knowledge none said anything to them.

 

[Mrs.Reese]

Yup. I am apparently a mean, manipulative, ugly B that hates children. I don't care.

 

[DisneyTeacher]

Only what Junior High kids spouted off about their sub!

I was a junior high teacher for 33 years and understand completely.

 

[fly girl]

The person spreading the rumor was my mom.

UGH, that sucks. Family drama is the worst drama. You can't pick family, and it is isn't easy to just break ties. My mom and sister have had turbulence my whole life and my mom loves to wedge me in the middle of it all. It just happened last week. It is a horrible feeling, and I am not even the one taking the direct hit. I am sorry. I may not know exactly what you are going through but I get it. I truly get it. I am sorry.

 

[disykat]

I had a former roommate many years ago who started one. Like I assume is often the case, there was a situation why I moved out that could have made her look bad. I wasn't giving any reasons, but she made up stuff to make me look bad and make herself look good instead. I thought it was so ridiculous. Roommates don't live together forever, no one needed any reasons whatsoever for me deciding it was time to go our separate ways.

 

[Rogue1677x]

Yeah, in 5th grade my family moved from a high crime city to an affluent town. Right from the start people made some assumptions about me based on where I moved from, but the rumor that got police involved was someone said because I moved from this city, I clearly had a gun.

That raised red flags, police came to our house, made sure if there were any firearms that they were locked up and not being brought to school.

 

[luvthatduke]

Starving that play for attention was better than confrontation.
It hurt nonetheless.

Both are true statements.