Ever deactivate your facebook

[dakcp2001]

I am not sure I can go cold turkey. But I feel like I am spending waaaayy to much time on facebook. What really pushed me over the edge was my ex's friend just friend requested me. He was a friend, but well let's be honest, I dont like the connection with the ex. I dont like hurting peoples feelings, i usually just leave the friend request pending forever instead of accepting or denying.

I feel like I need to either do a house cleaning of the quasi friends and risk hurting peoples feelings, or just deactivate completely for awhile. Maybe not forever.

Anyone done this? Did you reactivate? How long did you stay off?

 

[Halloweenqueen]

I feel your pain. I never really spend too much time on Facebook, it's more an issue of privacy for me.

I just posted a statement that I was reducing my friends list to family only for safety issues. I didn't go further than that. Then I deleted many, many people. I even put a few on my block list so they couldn't find my page at all.

I picked up quite a few old school friends while they were trying to organize a high school reunion. They were the first to go.

 

[zalansky]

I have never deactivated my account but I see people do it and they're back in no time. The worst is when they announce it. I wouldn't worry about hurting people's feelings if you want to remove them. Either hide them, or remove them, and step away from the computer.

 

[bicker]

The great thing about FB is that you can just walk away for a day, week or month and then come back and pick-up where you left off. I see very little utility in going through the trouble of deactivating and then reactivating.

If security is the concern, then review your privacy settings and lock things down tighter.

 

[cglaura]

I have. At first I kept going to check then, hey wait, no. Then one day you realize you haven't even thought about it.

And then you'll realize how lovely and drama free it is & how much other stuff you've been doing.

(If you ever had any fb drama...)

If you really like it to keep in touch with some people, then just clean house and don't worry about it. If someone is going to get that bent out of shape b/c of facebook and friend removals, well, that's kind of just nuts. Just do what is best for you. I wouldn't announce it or anything, just delete who you want and go about your life

 

[bigbabyblues]

I haven't had any drama on FB, but I don't have many friends there, either. The only people I accept requests from are people I would want to stop and talk to if I ran into them, if that makes sense. I have two from high school that I don't live close to, but we've stayed friends through email and such before we had FB. I have repeatedly ignored requests from one of my aunt's husband and her children because I don't like being around them in person.

I spend more time on there than I thought I would, though.

 

[hulagirl87]

I deactivated and that was over a year ago. Definitely don't miss it

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

You do know that as long as that friend request is pending that the person can see everything that you post??? If you aren't going to accept them then IGNORE the request so they don't have access to your feed anymore!

 

[dakcp2001]

you do know that as long as that friend request is pending that the person can see everything that you post??? If you aren't going to accept them then ignore the request so they don't have access to your feed anymore!

oh nooooo

 

[hellokitty86]

You do know that as long as that friend request is pending that the person can see everything that you post??? If you aren't going to accept them then IGNORE the request so they don't have access to your feed anymore!

Yep, that's true. Ignore the request if you don't want to be friends with them.

 

[mlynn]

Ignore their request and then block them so it looks like you aren't on there anymore. You just go into privacy and click on block setttings and type in their name.They will not even see any post on mutual friends walls.It looks like you left face book. You can also do this before the friend you.If you see somebody on a wall or suggestion side you don't want block right away.

 

[agnes!]

You do know that as long as that friend request is pending that the person can see everything that you post??? If you aren't going to accept them then IGNORE the request so they don't have access to your feed anymore!

I think it depends on your Privacy settings, but maybe I'm wrong.

agnes!

 

[Disnydad]

We wife deactivated her account about 4 months ago. I hardly check mine.

 

[Rora]

I deactivated mine in October of 2010 and it was one of the best things I've ever done!

Do it!!

 

[prncess674]

You do know that as long as that friend request is pending that the person can see everything that you post??? If you aren't going to accept them then IGNORE the request so they don't have access to your feed anymore!

As long as your privacy settings are set to "friends only" then there is no way that they can read your feed. I am amazed at how poorly some people manage their privacy settings. If it is really someone you never have any interest in corresponding with then just go to their profile and click "block" then you just disappear from FB on their screen.

 

[FireDancer]

I spend less than 5 minutes a day except for around the holidays when I'm looking at pictures friends have posted. I have no idea how people spend hours a day on there unless they are playing those stupid data mines ...I mean games... like Farmville.

I have friends all over the country and world and Facebook is the easiest way to keep in touch with them.

 

[w0rM]

I never deactivated mine but I rarely post any more. It started to creep me out that people I only knew through work were seeing things about my personal life and I didn't want to start deleting people I do business with.

 

[FireDancer]

I never deactivated mine but I rarely post any more. It started to creep me out that people I only knew through work were seeing things about my personal life and I didn't want to start deleting people I do business with.

This is what groups are for. Any coworkers I have on Facebook are in their own group with much more restrictive settings.

I also treat Facebook like a billboard meaning I don't put anything on there I wouldn't want a coworker, boss, or future boss to see. Just because things on there are private now doesn't mean they will be forever. That info and those pictures are sitting on a server (actually many) and once they are out there they are out there forever. A simple mistake on the part of Facebook or their CDN host could make everything out there public without anyone knowing for a little while.

 

[prncess674]

This is what groups are for. Any coworkers I have on Facebook are in their own group with much more restrictive settings.

I also treat Facebook like a billboard meaning I don't put anything on there I wouldn't want a coworker, boss, or future boss to see. Just because things on there are private now doesn't mean they will be forever. That info and those pictures are sitting on a server (actually many) and once they are out there they are out there forever. A simple mistake on the part of Facebook or their CDN host could make everything out there public without anyone knowing for a little while.

Just remember that there is a difference between the "groups" that are easily reached by clicking on "create group" under your photo. This is a group that the member knows that they are a part of so don't call it "people I don't like." If you want to restrict acess to certain people then go to your friends list on your profile and click "create list" at the top of the page. I have a group called "People who don't need to know anything about me." They see that I accepted there friend request but then in my privacy setting everything is set to "only friends; except "People who don't need to know anything about me." The great thing about doing it this way is I get accept the friend request, I can read all about them, but the only thing they can see about me is the little of information that is listed on the "info" tab on my profile. They can't see photos, wall posts, status updates, etc. It is the best of both worlds, I get to come off as the nice guy accepting their friend request, but I get to keep my "other" stuff away from their eyes.

 

[Momvic5]

I spend less than 5 minutes a day except for around the holidays when I'm looking at pictures friends have posted. I have no idea how people spend hours a day on there unless they are playing those stupid data mines ...I mean games... like Farmville.

I have friends all over the country and world and Facebook is the easiest way to keep in touch with them.

This!! I just log in, read new posts, view any new pictures, leave a few comments if I feel lead to do so, and log out. Takes maybe 5 to 10 minutes. I have no problem ignoring friendship requests or blocking people.

My dh just did a huge friend purge. He had like two hundred thirty something friends due to high school and college reunions and such. He dropped most of them and is now down to 41 friends that consists of more personal friends and family. He enjoys it a lot more now.