Ending a friendship

[MsDisney23]

Have you ever had to end a long term friendship? It looks like I am going to have to.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

Why are you having to end a friendship. Most things can be worked out.

 

[N&B'smom]

Yep, I have had to end a friendship. While it's hard to do, after you feel like a weight has been lifted.

 

[Miss Peach]

I feel your pain!!

My oldest friend was turning into someone that I would not have chosen as a friend had I met her now---Does that make sense??

Although she had grown up with alchoholic parents, and had really hated it, she started drinking, and then drinking heavily. If I mentioned anything about it-I was the enemy. It was a mess. Her marriage was really getting ugly--she and her husband only communicated through email (!!!).

I was trying to figure out whether to try an intervention, end the friendship, or what...

Then, she called me on the phone, demanded I go with her husband to his psycologist because the husband was claiming I was making odd faces at him (!!!). When I declined, she dropped me!

I was shocked, but then I realized that I had been given a free pass on having to deal with any more crazy.

So, I don't have any advice about how to drop a friend, but I sure know that a friendship can get to that point.

Good luck,

Cathy

 

[kwelch10377]

I just had to do it this past week, neither of us wanted it to end, but we felt we didn't have a choice. We were't best friends or anything, but we were a part of each others lives and to put it bluntly it really stinks, especially since my birthday is tomorrow and I know I won't hear from him.

I'm not sure what your reasons are for ending it are and if it is something you want to do or if it is something you just feel like you have to do. Either way you just need to make the decision and stick with it.

 

[Mimi1965]

WE didnt say "ok Friendship is over"-we just gradually did less with them.
We used to spend the weekend with them in their larger city, just stopped doing that.

 

[cm8]

Have you ever had to end a long term friendship? It looks like I am going to have to.

sure have, and it was the best thing for me to do!

 

[shortbun]

I've put a friendship on the back burner. I've changed the way a friendship worked for me. I've given a friend the reason I needed a break from her and followed through but still kept remote contact until she got her stuff together. I have never completely written off a friend. I always leave the door open a bit. I hope I never have to walk away forever.

 

[C.Ann]

Yes - three times - and it was the best thing I ever could have done.. There are some people that you're just better off not having involved in your life..

Is it the type of friendship where you can just ease off slowly - or does it have to be over and that's it? It will probably make a difference in how you go about it..

Good luck..