Embarrassing. (If boys read please don't laugh at me.)

[life of the party]

Okay, I'll tell you guys the truth, he has a girlfriend and his girlfriend is like 5 million times much more beautiful then me. He will never cheat on his girlfriend, his a nice, sweet, adorable, caring and smart kind of guy. I mean, he asked his girlfriends permission, before giving chocolate to the girls for valentine's day. I have a reputation to keep, I'm a cheerleader. Daniel and his girlfriend is a year older then me, so how could that not be embarrassing? Plus, his girlfriend is a cheerleader too, she is angry at me you know! I'm shy, I don't flirt. I don't talk to boys. And I've been having a crush on Daniel for a year now(after my break-up with my ex-boyfriend). It was Friday last night, it's Saturday today and it's 6 p.m. On Friday, I told Daniel this,

"Daniel, I know you have a girlfriend, I mean she's super pretty! You found out about me having a crush on you and all. I don't know what to say. I mean I'm sorry, I thought you weren't some one else, at Ms.*****. I hope me having a crush on you don't affect anything between us." I said that during the end of school, when his girlfriend wasn't there. Oh God! What is he going to say! His going to think I'm a freak head. What should I do, if he says he wants to be 'only' friends.

I'm sorryy ! i didnt mean to offend you or anything i was just kidding aroundd !

 

[Lizbon]

Okay so now I'm confused, but I'm going to try and post my response to this. If I misunderstood what you were saying, please tell me.

~First you were embarrassed because you touched his hand be accident.
Solution: "Oh I'm sorry Daniel I thought you were <enter friends name>. She must have left the room."

~Then you were embarrassed to go to school.
Solution: Just go to school. Chances are at 13 or 15 (however old he is) he will have forgotten about the whole thing. Girls hold on to things much longer than guys. (This isn't an insult to you; I do it all the time too.)

~Next you were embarrassed about the fact that his girlfriend is 5 million times much more beautiful then me."
Solution: You shouldn't worry about other people that he has been with. I know this seems difficult but just because he dated one person doesn't automatically mean he won't date someone else. Besides, who's to say you're not prettier then her? Beauty is an opinion thing. One person may think you are pretty, the other person may think you aren't. It's all based on opinion.

~Then you mentioned that you can't have a crush on your "senior's" (I don't know what that means, is she a senior in high school?) boyfriend.
Solution: This is COMPLETLY ridiculous. You can like anyone you choose to like. People can not change whether or not you like someone, and you also can't stop like someone when they tell you to. I think it was like 4 or 5 years ago that my friend liked this guy and I liked him to and when she found out she flipped out at me. And I said "look I can like anyone I want it just doesn't stop because someone else likes him."


~Finally, you were embarrassed because he is older than you.
Solution: Don't worry about it!!!!!! He is only a year older than you. Technically (depending on how old you are) you could be in the same grade! That’s like saying 2 seniors can't date. It makes no sense. So what if he is a year older> I don't get what the problem with that is? There are people with much bigger age differences in their relationships.


Just relax about the whole situation. Don't stress. At this point, Daniel is taken.

 

[disneydance]

Okay so now I'm confused, but I'm going to try and post my response to this. If I misunderstood what you were saying, please tell me.

~First you were embarrassed because you touched his hand be accident.
Solution: "Oh I'm sorry Daniel I thought you were <enter friends name>. She must have left the room."

~Then you were embarrassed to go to school.
Solution: Just go to school. Chances are at 13 or 15 (however old he is) he will have forgotten about the whole thing. Girls hold on to things much longer than guys. (This isn't an insult to you; I do it all the time too.)

~Next you were embarrassed about the fact that his girlfriend is 5 million times much more beautiful then me."
Solution: You shouldn't worry about other people that he has been with. I know this seems difficult but just because he dated one person doesn't automatically mean he won't date someone else. Besides, who's to say you're not prettier then her? Beauty is an opinion thing. One person may think you are pretty, the other person may think you aren't. It's all based on opinion.

~Then you mentioned that you can't have a crush on your "senior's" (I don't know what that means, is she a senior in high school?) boyfriend.
Solution: This is COMPLETLY ridiculous. You can like anyone you choose to like. People can not change whether or not you like someone, and you also can't stop like someone when they tell you to. I think it was like 4 or 5 years ago that my friend liked this guy and I liked him to and when she found out she flipped out at me. And I said "look I can like anyone I want it just doesn't stop because someone else likes him."


~Finally, you were embarrassed because he is older than you.
Solution: Don't worry about it!!!!!! He is only a year older than you. Technically (depending on how old you are) you could be in the same grade! That’s like saying 2 seniors can't date. It makes no sense. So what if he is a year older> I don't get what the problem with that is? There are people with much bigger age differences in their relationships.


Just relax about the whole situation. Don't stress. At this point, Daniel is taken.

Thank you just let this thread die and get over it i kinda find this pretty childish in the first place not going to school because you touched some guy you like hand the complaining about he has a girl because shes older than you

 

[BabyPiglet]

Thank you just let this thread die and get over it i kinda find this pretty childish in the first place not going to school because you touched some guy you like hand the complaining about he has a girl because shes older than you

That's pretty disrespectful, Katie. This is her problem, and we should help her with it. No matter how little of a problem we think it is, it doesn't matter. All that matters is she thinks it's a problem, and came to this board for advice and comfort on it.

I'm so tired of posters being disrespectful to other peoples problems. If you think it's annoying, then IGNORE the thread. Simple as that, but there's absolutely no reason to be rude.

 

[PurpleDucky]

That's pretty disrespectful, Katie. This is her problem, and we should help her with it. No matter how little of a problem we think it is, it doesn't matter. All that matters is she thinks it's a problem, and came to this board for advice and comfort on it.

I'm so tired of posters being disrespectful to other peoples problems. If you think it's annoying, then IGNORE the thread. Simple as that, but there's absolutely no reason to be rude.

ITA Jenny

 

[Lovela]

Sweetie, we don't understand because you aren't explaining this to us fully. I just really want to know why dating an older guy is so horrible? Please explain! I'm not trying to be rude, that was posted in a pleading tone.

That's pretty disrespectful, Katie. This is her problem, and we should help her with it. No matter how little of a problem we think it is, it doesn't matter. All that matters is she thinks it's a problem, and came to this board for advice and comfort on it.

I'm so tired of posters being disrespectful to other peoples problems. If you think it's annoying, then IGNORE the thread. Simple as that, but there's absolutely no reason to be rude.

It's embarrassing to date an guy older then you because. People will think your immature and stuff like that to be dating a guy who's completely matured. I mean, at school I'm always stupid because I'm blond. When I get an A. There's gossip that says, I cheated on it. I work really hard and this is what I get? I am so tired of it. That's why I ran when I saw Daniel. Because if someone saw me holding his hand and talking to him, there will be my classmates(talking about it). Since, my old best friend moved, I feel left out..
Ok? Enough? One more question, are blonds really stupid? Because I've seen blonds succeed.

 

[BabyPiglet]

It's embarrassing to date an guy older then you because. People will think your immature and stuff like that to be dating a guy who's completely matured. I mean, at school I'm always stupid because I'm blond. When I get an A. There's gossip that says, I cheated on it. I work really hard and this is what I get? I am so tired of it. That's why I ran when I saw Daniel. Because if someone saw me holding his hand and talking to him, there will be my classmates(talking about it). Since, my old best friend moved, I feel left out..
Ok? Enough? One more question, are blonds really stupid? Because I've seen blonds succeed.

If Daniel's only one year older than you, he's not much more mature. Especially since you guys are only in junior high (high school?).

And sweetie, if you're tired of all the gossip then tell everyone you're tired of it! It will continue until you actually say something.

Confidence sounds like an issue for you. You just need to realize that Daniel and the cheerleaders and all your classmates are NOT better than you. You shouldn't feel embaressed around them, they should feel embaressed for being immature and gossiping. And if they continue, they are not worthy of your presence so just ignore them.

About Daniel, I think it's time to move on. I know it's hard to turn an attraction off, trust me I do, but if just try to think of something else when you see him. There are PLENTY of other wonderful guys who will appreciate you for who you are, and you'll find the perfect guy one day.

Right now, just try to get through school. Because trust me, once you're done with high school, life can get so much better. College and real life are not filled with the same immature things as school is.

Most of all, just be confident and be you. If you believe in yourself, everything will be much better and easier in life.

I also want you to ignore mean posters and know there are some good people on the DIS you can talk to. If you ever need help, feel free to PM me night or day.

 

[Nihilist]

Okay, I'll tell you guys the truth, he has a girlfriend and his girlfriend is like 5 million times much more beautiful then me. He will never cheat on his girlfriend, his a nice, sweet, adorable, caring and smart kind of guy. I mean, he asked his girlfriends permission, before giving chocolate to the girls for valentine's day. I have a reputation to keep, I'm a cheerleader. Daniel and his girlfriend is a year older then me, so how could that not be embarrassing? Plus, his girlfriend is a cheerleader too, she is angry at me you know! I'm shy, I don't flirt. I don't talk to boys. And I've been having a crush on Daniel for a year now(after my break-up with my ex-boyfriend). It was Friday last night, it's Saturday today and it's 6 p.m. On Friday, I told Daniel this,

"Daniel, I know you have a girlfriend, I mean she's super pretty! You found out about me having a crush on you and all. I don't know what to say. I mean I'm sorry, I thought you weren't some one else, at Ms.*****. I hope me having a crush on you don't affect anything between us." I said that during the end of school, when his girlfriend wasn't there. Oh God! What is he going to say! His going to think I'm a freak head. What should I do, if he says he wants to be 'only' friends.

Okay, after sitting down and actually reading this entire thread, I have picked out this statement as the most important point, and what should have been the end to it. I don't quite understand how your pre-teen, sexually clouded, cheerleading mind works, but if you could get one thing through it, it should be this; a boy having a girlfriend means said boy is off-limits.

As you said, you do not talk to boys? Then what is the problem here? If boys are out of the range of your virginal being, then so be it. No problems with angry cheerleading girlfriends, no problems with facing Daniel. As for him thinking you are a "freak head" I doubt anyone born into this millenia would ever think of you as such. Now, him wanting to be "only friends" is a good thing is it not? I think your problem is that you need attention and reassurance on a matter long since settled.

 

[Tink*lover*4ever]

Option 1. The worst thing is he will say he doesnt like you.

 

[Lizbon]

That's pretty disrespectful, Katie. This is her problem, and we should help her with it. No matter how little of a problem we think it is, it doesn't matter. All that matters is she thinks it's a problem, and came to this board for advice and comfort on it.

I'm so tired of posters being disrespectful to other peoples problems. If you think it's annoying, then IGNORE the thread. Simple as that, but there's absolutely no reason to be rude.

I really hope this wasn't directed at me too. Iw asn't trying to be rude I was just trying to get everything together into one post. She kept adding on and people were kind of getting confused and frusterated so I put together everything and them added what I thought. If I came off sounding rude I apologize. I wasn't trying to be rude.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I really hope this wasn't directed at me too. Iw asn't trying to be rude I was just trying to get everything together into one post. She kept adding on and people were kind of getting confused and frusterated so I put together everything and them added what I thought. If I came off sounding rude I apologize. I wasn't trying to be rude.

No, it was directed towards others.

 

[disneydance]

That's pretty disrespectful, Katie. This is her problem, and we should help her with it. No matter how little of a problem we think it is, it doesn't matter. All that matters is she thinks it's a problem, and came to this board for advice and comfort on it.

I'm so tired of posters being disrespectful to other peoples problems. If you think it's annoying, then IGNORE the thread. Simple as that, but there's absolutely no reason to be rude.

Ok I'm sorry that comment was pretty immature of me and I should have never said ok I'm sorry Lovela ok if this is a promblem to you than I will just stay out of it and let others give you advice

 

[Lovela]

I'm not lying to you, or making this up for attention. It's the truth, I followed your advice Jenny. Every single advice. I ignored them, I was sent to the Principals Office because I slapped our head cheerleader. I was really angry. I felt like crying, but I felt good. My older sister came and comforted me. Daniel said this, "Dristina,(People at school address me that) I like you, can we just be friends, now? I'll find you, when *girlfriend's name* and me break-up(saying sarcasticly)." then he laughs and gives a pat on my head. His girlfriend comes and gives me a dirty look. Don't worry, I'll explain it to her some day . Now, I want to sleep, oooh my headache,

But, hey! I got Daniel.

So, tell me, what should I do next? Make a move on him, which is totally grossing me out. What should I say to his girlfriend?



Oh many thanks to: Jenny and Devan and many others who gave me advices, they actually, um, WORK?
P.s: My Mum and Dad named me after the name Kristina, But put D, instead of the K.

 

[Rockstar mentality]

Okay, after sitting down and actually reading this entire thread, I have picked out this statement as the most important point, and what should have been the end to it. I don't quite understand how your pre-teen, sexually clouded, cheerleading mind works, but if you could get one thing through it, it should be this; a boy having a girlfriend means said boy is off-limits.

As you said, you do not talk to boys? Then what is the problem here? If boys are out of the range of your virginal being, then so be it. No problems with angry cheerleading girlfriends, no problems with facing Daniel. As for him thinking you are a "freak head" I doubt anyone born into this millenia would ever think of you as such. Now, him wanting to be "only friends" is a good thing is it not? I think your problem is that you need attention and reassurance on a matter long since settled.

You my friend are my god. U explained jsut about everything i was gonna say except mabe u said it a lil bit harsh but still u put it out there.

 

[Kristyxoxo]

I'm not lying to you, or making this up for attention. It's the truth, I followed your advice Jenny. Every single advice. I ignored them, I was sent to the Principals Office because I slapped our head cheerleader. I was really angry. I felt like crying, but I felt good. My older sister came and comforted me. Daniel said this, "Dristina,(People at school address me that) I like you, can we just be friends, now? I'll find you, when *girlfriend's name* and me break-up(saying sarcasticly)." then he laughs and gives a pat on my head. His girlfriend comes and gives me a dirty look. Don't worry, I'll explain it to her some day . Now, I want to sleep, oooh my headache,

But, hey! I got Daniel.

B]

Huh...am I missing something? How did you come to the conclusion that you "got Daniel" ??? You just said he said some sarcastic stuff & laughed at you & patted you on the head?

 

[BabyPiglet]

I'm not lying to you, or making this up for attention. It's the truth, I followed your advice Jenny. Every single advice. I ignored them, I was sent to the Principals Office because I slapped our head cheerleader. I was really angry. I felt like crying, but I felt good. My older sister came and comforted me. Daniel said this, "Dristina,(People at school address me that) I like you, can we just be friends, now? I'll find you, when *girlfriend's name* and me break-up(saying sarcasticly)." then he laughs and gives a pat on my head. His girlfriend comes and gives me a dirty look. Don't worry, I'll explain it to her some day . Now, I want to sleep, oooh my headache,

But, hey! I got Daniel.

So, tell me, what should I do next? Make a move on him, which is totally grossing me out. What should I say to his girlfriend?



Oh many thanks to: Jenny and Devan and many others who gave me advices, they actually, um, WORK?
P.s: My Mum and Dad named me after the name Kristina, But put D, instead of the K.

Okay...violence might have been a little much, but at least you have confidence now?

Anyways, you still have 'have' Daniel. He's taken, and beating up his girlfriend isn't going to change that. Don't make a move on him, but do move on. Forget about him, just be his friend. You've got your whole life to find the perfect guy.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Okay, after sitting down and actually reading this entire thread, I have picked out this statement as the most important point, and what should have been the end to it. I don't quite understand how your pre-teen, sexually clouded, cheerleading mind works, but if you could get one thing through it, it should be this; a boy having a girlfriend means said boy is off-limits.

As you said, you do not talk to boys? Then what is the problem here? If boys are out of the range of your virginal being, then so be it. No problems with angry cheerleading girlfriends, no problems with facing Daniel. As for him thinking you are a "freak head" I doubt anyone born into this millenia would ever think of you as such. Now, him wanting to be "only friends" is a good thing is it not? I think your problem is that you need attention and reassurance on a matter long since settled.

Don't you realized people are all raised differently? Her parents obviously taught her to be conservative and 'save herself'. Stop judging her for things she's obviously been told her whole life. You can't just change from being a "virginal being" to flirting with guys in one day.

 

[Lovela]

Okay...violence might have been a little much, but at least you have confidence now?

Anyways, you still have 'have' Daniel. He's taken, and beating up his girlfriend isn't going to change that. Don't make a move on him, but do move on. Forget about him, just be his friend. You've got your whole life to find the perfect guy.

Your hilarious, Jenny! I didn't beat his girlfriend up, I slapped our head cheerleader(a different girl) who said I was embarrassing the team and should quit cheerleading, she even threw her pompoms at me. I didn't (make a move on him). What I meant, when I said 'Hey, I got Daniel.' means he doesn't think I'm a weirdo. There is this other guy, I like, but his to good, for me, . Thanks Jenny! .

Thank You everybody who helped me .

 

[Lizbon]

Your hilarious, Jenny! I didn't beat his girlfriend up, I slapped our head cheerleader(a different girl) who said I was embarrassing the team and should quit cheerleading, she even threw her pompoms at me. I didn't (make a move on him). What I meant, when I said 'Hey, I got Daniel.' means he doesn't think I'm a weirdo. There is this other guy, I like, but his to good, for me, . Thanks Jenny! .

Thank You everybody who helped me .

I don't get how you made such a big deal over Daniel but then just moved on. People confuse me sometimes....

Never Ever Say someone is too good for you!!!!!!!!!!! You shouldn't think that way!!!!!!!!!! You have as good of a chance with him as anyone else.

 

[sallskellington]

Say it was an accident! Dont get too freaked though, that makes things worse!!