"Email" vent..

[AshleyW]

BUT-she was GOOD friends with their/her PARENTS,

So I do believe that's why C.Ann deleted all the threads on the DIS about last summer-and now the husband(Parent of the girl she hated last summer) is getting his revenge!

I thought she was good friend's with Nellie's DAD. I thought C. Ann said that the gentleman's wife had passed away.

I could be remembering wrong, though, but I don't think it's the same people from the lake.

 

[Magic Mom]

I thought she was good friend's with Nellie's DAD. I thought C. Ann said that the gentleman's wife had passed away.

I could be remembering wrong, though, but I don't think it's the same people from the lake.

If this is the lake story you are talking about, she was venting about a woman at the lake who's uncle was married to CAnn's good friend. It sounds like the same family.

Originally Posted by C.Ann
I tried this last summer and it was awful.. The friendship was nearly destroyed.. You see, "G" is the niece of my dear friends DH - and he is exactly like she is (minus the "alluded" to part): arrogant; condescending; pompous; loud-mouthed; etc.. He refuses to believe she is anything short of "an angel sent from Heaven" and in "ruling the roost", pretty much controls what my friend is allowed to think or believe..=

Either way, she shouldn't put her friend in the middle. If she wants to take it up with the guy, then fine, but she shouldn't expect her friend to choose sides in this fight.

 

[AshleyW]

If this is the lake story you are talking about, she was venting about a woman at the lake who's uncle was married to CAnn's good friend. It sounds like the same family.

Either way, she shouldn't put her friend in the middle. If she wants to take it up with the guy, then fine, but she shouldn't expect her friend to choose sides in this fight.

Oh okay. Nevermind me, then. I get confused pretty easily - I think I'm mixing up stories or something.

Well, at this point, I think enough has been done. She made her friend aware of the situation, and decided to talk via phone from now on. I think that's probably all that needs to be done - talking to the husband about it probably wouldn't do any good.

 

[happygirl]

I hope Cann returns to this post. So she can follow up

 

[Iott Family]

He sounds like a complete horse's patoutie!

 

[Magic Mom]

I hope Cann returns to this post. So she can follow up

Me too.

 

[snapppyd]

....boy, have I got the thread for YOU....

http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2363645




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You guys had otters and cockels without me???

 

[C.Ann]

I'm back - with the missing piece of the puzzle.. Something I really wasn't expecting - although maybe I should have..

I talked to "Mary" twice today.. Once this morning - and again a short time ago.. As of her last call, she was packing to fly out to her DD's for awhile as a direct result of "Joe's" recent activities.. No physical abuse involved, but the ongoing emotional/verbal abuse seems to have reached an all-time high and she needs some time to clear her head and decide what she's going to do about it..

Turns out that the phoney email to me wasn't "all" he's been up to.. It seems that ALL of her contacts have received emails meant to create problems - not just me - and he went into her Facebook account as well and once again, posed as her and wrote all sorts of things that were not truthful.. She now has a major mess to clean up and needless to say, is furious with him..

I made a point of not saying anything negative about him at all - just asked her why she thought he was acting like this - and it's more of the "same old, same old" - his enormous ego.. The short version is that they just recently returned from a Mediterranean cruise and while on that cruise, she made the deadly mistake of correcting him in front of others while discussing a place they had visited while in Paris last spring.. Under NO circumstances do you ever attempt to correct "Joe" - or indicate that there's something he isn't actually an expert on.. He will go into major "grudge" mode and one way or another, you will suffer his wrath.. Evidently he "sat" on it during the holidays because their son was there from out of state (no doubt seething the entire time) and as soon as the son left, he devised this whacked out scheme to "get even" with her for embarrassing him..

This isn't "new" behavior for him - as far as treating her and everyone else like they're idiots - and becoming extremely irate if anyone dares to even "hint" that he's wrong about something, but this email/Facebook thing is something he's never done before - which to me sounds like he's beginning to spiral out of control and could probably benefit from some counseling and/or anger management classes.. I don't "think" he would ever become physically abusive with her, but we all know that emotional abuse can be every bit as damaging..

So I guess the bottom line is that the email I received was sent simply because I was in her list of contacts - and not necessarily because I was being targeted by him..

For the time being, "Mary" and I have agreed it's best that we only talk on the phone - at least until she figures out what she's going to do about all of this.. I feel bad for her - because I have watched him treat her like this for years and years - but the only thing I can do at this point is be supportive and give her a shoulder to cry on.. When and if she makes a decision in regards to what she's going to do it needs to be her decision - and hers alone..

To all of you posters who are not on my "ignore list" (I really do love that thing now - LOL ) I truly appreciate your replies and your concerns for "Mary" - even though this thread was more of a "vent" than anything else..

Our friendship is still solid and regardless of what happens, I don't expect that to change..Simply ignoring "Joe" is definitely the way to go..

Thanks..

 

[kimmar067]

...I think it's time Mary kicked Joe to de CURB....

 

[snapppyd]

Sounds like she will need a good friend in the days to come. She is lucky to have you!

 

[trip]

Mary should set up a yahoo or hotmail account and not tell her husband. She shouldn't be punished by not using email just because of his foolishness.

 

[JessicaR]

With a spouse like that who needs enemies. Kick him to the curb indeed! I can't get over being married to someone like that, so spiteful, mean, and vindictive. With any luck Mary will stay at DD's.

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

...I think it's time Mary kicked Joe to de CURB....

Seconded.

 

[Silent1CB]

Sounds like she will need a good friend in the days to come. She is lucky to have you!

Yes, but if my friend ever posted all about problems I was having with my husband all over the internet, I don't know if I would need a friend like that on top of the problems I was already having to clean up because of my husband.

Post about yourself. Not about other peoples lives. Its like you shouldn't post other peoples photos without their permission, don't post all the details of their marriage without their permission.

Sorry, just how I feel.

 

[darlak]

Gald you and your friend sorted it out C.Ann. Has she tried just changing the passwork on her email account?

 

[dollarmite]

I've just read this entire thread in one go, including the update. I actually wsan't surpisied to hear that Joe had done this to more than one person; it was actually the first thing that popped into my head when I read the OP.

Joe sounds like he is suffering from very low self esteem. OP, would you say that a lot of his self worth and over inflated ego came from his job? Now that he no longer has that role to fill he's trying to assert himself in other ways?

Really though, his reasons are irrelevant. What he's doing, and has been doing in the past, is emotional abuse. He's obviously not as intelligent as he thinks he is though seeing as he abused his wife in such a public way this time.

 

[snapppyd]

Yes, but if my friend ever posted all about problems I was having with my husband all over the internet, I don't know if I would need a friend like that on top of the problems I was already having to clean up because of my husband.

Post about yourself. Not about other peoples lives. Its like you shouldn't post other peoples photos without their permission, don't post all the details of their marriage without their permission.

Sorry, just how I feel.

But to us it's just an anonymous story. Unless you "KNOW" C.Ann in real life you have no clue who she or her friend are.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

...I think it's time Mary kicked Joe to de CURB....

Sounds like she will need a good friend in the days to come. She is lucky to have you!

But to us it's just an anonymous story. Unless you "KNOW" C.Ann in real life you have no clue who she or her friend are.

What she said! And if we didn't want to hear about other people's dramas we wouldn't be on the CB. There's plenty of trip planning stuff on the other forums.

 

[BelleWDW]

only to receive a follow-up email from Mary last night explaining that she was totally unaware of yesterdays happenings and wasn't even home when "Joe" decided to try to pull off this scam..

(And yes - I'm sure she was not home..

Yesterday was her set weekly day to volunteer at their local Hospice Center from 7 a.m. until 5 p.m. -

so there's not a question in my mind that she was totally in the dark..)

I just find it fascinating that you know so much of the daily schedules of other people!
I have no clue what day my friends do what time on what day!

Also wanted to add- I can use my email at work & at lunch-so if someone is at work-that doesn;t mean they can't send emails???
I also think it is very far-fetched that any person would plot for months to send emails on their wife's email "to get bavk at them". My DH has no clue how to even access my email

 

[happygirl]

I don't want to put words in CAnn mouth, I guess it safe to assume it was the "lake people" since she never said differently