Whoa - so much time, so little to say. Wait. Strike that. Reverse it.
First, not to pick on Cinderelli, but she happened to say what crystalized this for me. She said "...those once in a lifetime experiences"; well, it's hard to offer a "once in a lifetime experience" in a program that's geard to guests making dozens (and dozens) of trips over 40-50 years. I realize that the amenities she mentioned could be offered - albeit at a high cost - but I'm not sure that they would have the long-term appeal to enough people to support it.
I do understand what she and the OP are talking about. In October of 2003, DW and I had our first empty-nester trip to WDW, and I was out to make it a romantical trip to remember. We stayed at the Polynesian, Lagoon-View Consierge - yep, we saw the Castle from our bed & balcony. The 'hakuna matata' attitude was great, we loved 'Ohana, the tiki torches & paths & music were tres romantique at night. And we really enjoyed the view, and being pampered by the Concierge staff and perks. It was truly memorable, and DW and I will think back fondly to it for the rest of our lives. That being said, I know darned well that if we did the same exact trip again, it wouldn't be the same. Some of the "special-ness" would be lost to 'been there done that', some would be lost to the 'is it really worth it
again' bug, and some things pale once the novelty wears off (by the end of the week, the Castle view was old).
As I type, I realized that what the OP wants is a
DVC version of a dinner at Victoria and Albert's. That restaurant is high priced, has very limited space, children are absent or well-behaved - yet I'm told that it is the "Ultimate Disney Meal" by those who appreciate such things. I'm just not sure if a time-share with a goal of "Welcome Home" can hope to achieve such an experience on a regular and reasonable-cost basis.
I knew what I was getting - and what I was giving up - when I decided that most of my WDW trips would be at DVC resorts. No, SSR ain't themed like the Polynesian, it ain't on the monorail and it doesn't have Concierge. But the Polynesian doesn't have a king-sized bed w/Jacuzzi (at least not until you're paying real $$$ for a suite), it doesn't have right.at.the.door parking and it doesn't have a full kitchen and W/D. I appreciate the fact that the OP brought up the topic - you folks are always good for a rousing and intelligent discussion. But IMHO, I think that DVC should try to be the best at what is is - a Disney time-share - and leave the once-in-a-lifetime experiences to the other Resorts.
IMHO - YMMV.