Dumped at 35

[Superjoint_Ritual]

My heart goes out to you. Right now Im going through a divorce and custody battle.

 

[fakereadhed]

More hugs!

Better to hear it now than two years from now, 10 years from now, etc.

So many of my divorced friends are hanging on to guys that aren't really into them(based on their behavior)and I hate to see them wasting their time when they could be finding real love. Like Kevin said, it's worth waiting for.

 

[Stacy's a freak]

More hugs!

Better to hear it now than two years from now, 10 years from now, etc.

So many of my divorced friends are hanging on to guys that aren't really into them(based on their behavior)and I hate to see them wasting their time when they could be finding real love. Like Kevin said, it's worth waiting for.

This really is a good point. As much as it hurts, I really do appreciate his honesty. It really hurt to hear him say it but I also don't want to be in a relatioship that is "less than." But I wish I could just call him a d-bag and be done with it.

 

[alebisi]

I'm so sorry Stacey I know how hard relationships can be, hang on there and always vent here on the DIS we are here to support you!!

 

[DVCJones]

Stacy,
The fact that you used a Royal Tennenbaums quote proves to me that you are a cool gal and in need of someone with a quick wit and a great sense of humor.

Hang in there-- this can be a great opportunity to get to know yourself and find out what YOU want in a relationship.

I agree...You obviously have a great sense of humor. Hang in there!!!

I met my DH shortly after a VERY painful break-up with my then fiance. We dated for 7 years and it was very hard to do, but when it isn't right...it just isn't right. Keep your sense of humor. It will help you get through this.

 

[fakereadhed]

This really is a good point. As much as it hurts, I really do appreciate his honesty. It really hurt to hear him say it but I also don't want to be in a relatioship that is "less than." But I wish I could just call him a d-bag and be done with it.

I hear you on that one.

 

[DWFan4Life]

I'm sorry to hear that Stacy. The group will always here. Just keep going.

 

[dpic]

But I wish I could just call him a d-bag and be done with it.

Hey, we're supposed to make you laugh, not the other way around. Good luck, and please don't lower your standards. You sound like a wonderful person who deserves a great guy. PD to you

 

[WLfan]

I'm so sorry for you. I know it seems like you'll never feel "normal" or happy again, but you will. You'll move on to better things. I hope the DIS can provide you with some much needed support. We are a family!

 

[Stacy's a freak]

So he wants to be friends ...

So I agreed to go to his place not 72 hours later to watch a movie that he, his son, and I had planned on seeing together ... as friends. Damn that was hard. But I was strong I was able to see his son and give him a hug (the son). And I left there at 9:00 p.m. tonight. I cried a bit on the drive home but all in all, I think I'm hanging in there.

This still sucks but it really helps to know that there are people out there who DO care about me ... even "strangers" on the DIS. So thank you again everyone! For the past few days when I have had blue moments, I would logon and read the kind comments you all have written and it really does help I have even gotten some very nice PMs from DISfriends which is so kind.

So once again (and probably not for the last time), I just want to say thank you for all of your well wishes. In the grand scheme of things, I know that this is just a speed bump ... but the fact that everyone was so very supportive to me is a great comfort. Pixie Dust to all of you for being so kind and caring! I really do appreciate it

 

[jcb]

Stacy,

Don't be "friends" - he wants what he isn't willing to give you. I've been there, heard the same thing you were told, and survived the "friend" stage, just barely.

I know it is small comfort but there is a life after this. I was the same age you are but am now married to a wonderful person - someone who makes what I went through worth it.

I wish you all the best.