Duggar Baby comes home

[LiLIrishChick63]

Meh. I don't respect anyone that has a child and passes it off to others to feed, bathe, potty train, get up with at night, etc. I certainly don't respect anyone who does this "in the name of the Lord" and then drags their family on The Today Show to announce their preganncy to mortified children (aka caregivers).

Just my opinion, of course.

i have to agree with this. those kids are supposed to be teenagers, not mothers right now. let them have some fun and freedom. they're not even allowed to go out with friends one-on-one it's always some sort of "group" Thing. i'd go insane being around my family 24/7

plus i know i heard them say that the boys can go to college, and the girls can if they want to "become nurses....or something like that"....really?? so not to become a NASA engineer or anything, but to be a nurse? oh ok...

 

[Silent1CB]

Michelle is going to be her primary care giver. No handing this one off to another child. Hoping she and JimBob think long and hard about having any more children in the very near future. I know birth control isn't their thing, but maybe it needs to be right now so they can focus on Josie.

 

[freckles and boo]

Also I personally talked to their oldest Josh (live near them) and he said he wouldn't trade being in his family for the world and he said he absolutely LOVES being in the big family he is in.

He had the benefit of having time with his parents. They hadn't yet developed their "system" when he was little. He also has the obvious advantage of being a male in a family that believes men are in charge. Besides, even if he was completely miserable (which I doubt) there is no way he would break rank or confess dissatisfaction to a stranger. The happy family image is everything.

If they truly believe that God has a hand in their baby making, perhaps they should read the pre-eclampsia and premature birth as a sign that he thinks they should stop. She or the baby could have easily died. I am glad they both survived and are doing well for the sake of the other children.

 

[Cat0727]

no they actually waited that long. could you imagine?? what if your "husband" wasn't a good kisser?? tbh, the "girlfriend/fiance" looked less than impressed after the first "kiss" anyway.

it was so awkward too when he proposed, they did this little "side-hug" thing, they didn't even give hugs.

Ah, I remember that. After the proposal it was sooo awkward! Josh kept saying "ohhh!" and side-hugging Anna. And their first kiss, man, did he ATTACK her face lol. poor girl.

 

[ead79]

I don't agree with the Duggar's beliefs about birth control, but I respect their right to choose what they believe the Lord wants for them. I watch their show, and I think the kids all seem well loved, well behaved (of course they can be wild and rowdy like any kid, but generally they are kind and respectful), and happy. I'm glad to hear that little Josie is home and doing so well!

 

[EllenFrasier]

I thought the reason they did not practice birth control was because Michelle became pregnant and did not know it and was on birth control and they lost the baby? If they are going by biblical directions, their quiver is full enough, LOL!
I am kind of jealous of them though. Hopefully their perfectness is just in front of the camera. Hopefully they have days when they don't know what to have for dinner, when someone cannot find their shoes, when their kids backtalk them, etc.
Glad the baby is doing well enough to come home too.

 

[Kimberle]

isn't 4lbs still kind of tiny for a baby to be going home, tho??

aside from that, i don't really have the same beliefs as they do, but i'm glad that the baby and the mother came out of everything good. i couldn't imagine having that happen to me.

My dd was born @ 1#15oz, came home @ 3#14 oz. It's not their weight, it's their "maturity". They must be able to breath, eat, maintain body temp, etc before coming home.

 

[HelenePA]

isn't 4lbs still kind of tiny for a baby to be going home, tho??

aside from that, i don't really have the same beliefs as they do, but i'm glad that the baby and the mother came out of everything good. i couldn't imagine having that happen to me.

As someone else said weight has nothing to do with it. She is doing all the things a "normal" baby does. I'm sure for a while she's just been a feeder and grower in the NICU. No point of keeping her there while she is just gaining weight any longer. She'll do much better at home anyway (yes believe it or not) My dd had major feeding problems in the NICU and did FINE at home. I'm so happy to hear she's home where she belongs

 

[Disney Ella]

He had the benefit of having time with his parents. They hadn't yet developed their "system" when he was little. He also has the obvious advantage of being a male in a family that believes men are in charge. Besides, even if he was completely miserable (which I doubt) there is no way he would break rank or confess dissatisfaction to a stranger. The happy family image is everything.

If they truly believe that God has a hand in their baby making, perhaps they should read the pre-eclampsia and premature birth as a sign that he thinks they should stop. She or the baby could have easily died. I am glad they both survived and are doing well for the sake of the other children.

The happy family image is definitely important. Keeping a joyful countenance at all times is important in these families who follow Bill Gotherd's principles, as the Duggars do. In the Razing Ruth blog, Ruth explains that acting unhappy or not keeping a smile on your face is seen as insult to God and means you don't appreciate your life. Ruth is a young woman who escaped from one of the Gotherd fundamentalist families, although it sounds like her father was even more hardcore than the Duggars. Couple the joyful countenance thing with the "staying sweet" thing expected of women and you have women who are Stepford wife servants to their husbands.

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

Looks like she went back to the hospital last week. Not sure where/how she is now:
http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20360188,00.html

 

[Aisling]

Ah, I remember that. After the proposal it was sooo awkward! Josh kept saying "ohhh!" and side-hugging Anna. And their first kiss, man, did he ATTACK her face lol. poor girl.

I watched that and thought uh oh, what if all that build-up to the kiss sends him over the edge!

 

[C.Ann]

They DO let the kids watch tv. I don;t know where some of you get your info but they do, it is just limited is all. As far as having all those kids, I don't understand why a lot feel they have to trash talk them, I mean they are by no means the first couple to have that many kids. I know a family that had 24 kids and they all helped out and it never bothered them to do so.

Also I personally talked to their oldest Josh (live near them) and he said he wouldn't trade being in his family for the world and he said he absolutely LOVES being in the big family he is in. I mean this IS a family and they love being in their family. I don't know how else to describe this but all families have things that they may have to do and don't like but do them b/c they are part of the family!

Heck my kids HATE to do their chores but they still do them!!

They're an awesome, close-knit, loving family - with a very strong faith that guides them through any and all difficulties.. When you see how helpful, loving, and respectful their children are, you almost have to wonder if all of those who criticize them are jealous of what a great job they have done with their children..

I wish Josie and the Duggar family nothing but the best..

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

so not to become a NASA engineer or anything, but to be a nurse? oh ok...

At this time, nursing would be a much more viable career option than NASA.

In 10 years or so--NASA "may" be fine. But right now--not a shot in the universe as a viable career move.

 

[Luv'sTink]

They limit INTERNET, not TV. They do not have a TV in their home, they went to Jim Bob's sisters house to watch the premiere of the show...it was on the show.

 

[Ember]

They're an awesome, close-knit, loving family - with a very strong faith that guides them through any and all difficulties.. When you see how helpful, loving, and respectful their children are, you almost have to wonder if all of those who criticize them are jealous of what a great job they have done with their children..

I wish Josie and the Duggar family nothing but the best..

I get the point of this post, I really do. You don't think people should be expressing judgment on the Duggar's. But as a non religious person who has chosen to be childfree, I can guarantee you beyond a shadow of a doubt that I am not jealous of these people. Their lifestyle is my idea of torture! (Or, you know, that place that's the opposite of Heaven that I also don't believe in! LOL)

I just don't like them and if they didn't want to face the judgment of others then they should have chosen not to live their life in the public. You approve of this family, so it's easy for you to support them and their choices. What about Jon and Kate? Do you think they should be free of judgment, too? I think the two of them are horrible parents and I feel terrible for their kids...

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

Ah, I remember that. After the proposal it was sooo awkward! Josh kept saying "ohhh!" and side-hugging Anna. And their first kiss, man, did he ATTACK her face lol. poor girl.

yeah it was all really awkward to watch.....i felt uncomfortable. and then the dad busts out some tape thing about "the joys of marriage" and i'm like "omg is he for real??"

My dd was born @ 1#15oz, came home @ 3#14 oz. It's not their weight, it's their "maturity". They must be able to breath, eat, maintain body temp, etc before coming home.

As someone else said weight has nothing to do with it. She is doing all the things a "normal" baby does. I'm sure for a while she's just been a feeder and grower in the NICU. No point of keeping her there while she is just gaining weight any longer. She'll do much better at home anyway (yes believe it or not) My dd had major feeding problems in the NICU and did FINE at home. I'm so happy to hear she's home where she belongs

i didn't really know how they decided to let premies leave, so thanks for the info. that's just so teeny, i'd be so afraid all the time!

I watched that and thought uh oh, what if all that build-up to the kiss sends him over the edge!

At this time, nursing would be a much more viable career option than NASA.

In 10 years or so--NASA "may" be fine. But right now--not a shot in the universe as a viable career move.

i'm sure you knew i was just putting a random profession out there aside from nursing.

 

[C.Ann]

I get the point of this post, I really do. You don't think people should be expressing judgment on the Duggar's. But as a non religious person who has chosen to be childfree, I can guarantee you beyond a shadow of a doubt that I am not jealous of these people. Their lifestyle is my idea of torture! (Or, you know, that place that's the opposite of Heaven that I also don't believe in! LOL)

I don't think I said that people shouldn't express their judgment on the Duggar's - either for or against - just what my personal feelings were..

My late DH was from an extremely large family - my dad was from an extremely large family - I know quite a few people who are from extremely large families - so it doesn't seem odd to me at all.. However, I do have to say that the Duggar's have done the best job of raising their children out of all the large families I know..

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

They're an awesome, close-knit, loving family - with a very strong faith that guides them through any and all difficulties.. When you see how helpful, loving, and respectful their children are, you almost have to wonder if all of those who criticize them are jealous of what a great job they have done with their children..

I wish Josie and the Duggar family nothing but the best..

I get the point of this post, I really do. You don't think people should be expressing judgment on the Duggar's. But as a non religious person who has chosen to be childfree, I can guarantee you beyond a shadow of a doubt that I am not jealous of these people. Their lifestyle is my idea of torture! (Or, you know, that place that's the opposite of Heaven that I also don't believe in! LOL)

I just don't like them and if they didn't want to face the judgment of others then they should have chosen not to live their life in the public. You approve of this family, so it's easy for you to support them and their choices. What about Jon and Kate? Do you think they should be free of judgment, too? I think the two of them are horrible parents and I feel terrible for their kids...

i agree with Ember on this. the way they live is a form of torture, in MY opinion. i would never be able to be that isolated from people. i mean, i'm not the BIGGEST people person in the world, but only seeing my parents and siblings every single day of my life would drive me insane.

plus anytime you want to go out you have to have an adult or one of the older children with you??? are you serious?? no thanks.

and also, their kids aren't "perfect" either. i see a lot of eye rolling and kids being loud and irritating just like any other kid.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

They limit INTERNET, not TV. They do not have a TV in their home, they went to Jim Bob's sisters house to watch the premiere of the show...it was on the show.

Actually--they do have a "tv". What the do not have is satellite or cable.

The kids watch videos as their parents determine.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

i'm sure you knew i was just putting a random profession out there aside from nursing.

Of course I did--it was just humourous given the state of affairs on the space coast at the moment.