DS and DD sharing a bed

[deedeetoo]

We have two kids: dd8 and ds5. So far they have been perfectly content to share a bed when we have gone on vacation - in fact they've never questioned it.

My sister has expressed surprise at this. We were discussing DVC and the first question she had was who gets the big bed - you or dh? Huh? I told her Dh and I share the big bed. Turns out that when they go on vacation her Dh shares a bed with her ds and she shares a bed with her dd. Her kids have never slept together and she thinks its weird that mine do. My mom agrees with her.

I expect that we may have issues with this as the kids gets bigger and hit the teenage years. At that point we may have to bring along a blow up mattress or get a two bedroom (gasp, haven't even dared mention this possiblity to DH, I'll wait til it comes up and let him suggest it).

But now I'm curious about what others do. Are we weird?

 

[dwelty]

Sounds like your Mom and Sister are neurotic. Until one of them reaches puberty, I think it is fine. They are brother and sister for God's sake, and they are little kids!

 

[tinkfan]

I have a 14 yr old(almost 15) daughter and a 13 yr old son. Up until about 2 years ago they would often share a bed. Now when we travel to non disney hotels we either bring the areo mattress or each of us sleep with a child depending on the size of the room. When we go to a dvc resort we try to get a 2 bdrm. We love having all that room and each child gets his/her own bed. In a 1 bdrm we would bring the air mattress and they would alternate sleeping on the sofa bed. We do like some of the Deluxe resorts also that have the daybed like the Poly and the Contemp. Also the bunk beds at the AKL are great for this reason!
My kids are really close and still now even at home they often sleep in each others rooms. My son has bunkbeds and my daughter a trundle. They love to stay up late on the weekends and watch TV together.
I think your daughter will let you know when she is uncomfortable with the situation!

 

[disney junky]

Our kids are 21 months apart and did this until they were 12 and 10. Son was 12. We stopped it about then. Don't mind what others say. It's not abnormal at all....

 

[Chuck S]

Surely in a year or so you'll want to split them up, but for now it is fine. When they become teens, I would seriously consider the two bedroom so you have a second bathroom...teens require more "prep time."

 

[pouncingpluto]

I agree with everyone else... I don't think it's unusual at all, until they're a bit older.

Do you think it's possibly the reason your sister and her family divide up the beds that way is that she is uncomfortable sleeping in a bed with her husband in front of the kids? Like she think it's an inappropriate peek into their bedroom or something?

 

[icydog]

You're talking about babies for crying out loud. Some folks will make something so unconsequential so nasty. Don't worry about it until one of the kids complains. In your case you have a good three or four years.

 

[tomandrobin]

Absolutely nothing wrong with them sharing a bed for now. I think in a couple more years it will become an issue. At that point you either upgrade to a larger room or take the inflatable mattress.

Our kids are teenagers now, DS13 and DD20. The oldest is 21 and really doesn't rtavel with us anymore. We prefer to get a two bedroom for the extra space. We all need that little bit of extra room a prvacy now.

 

[MinnieGirl33]

Sounds like your Mom and Sister are neurotic. Until one of them reaches puberty, I think it is fine. They are brother and sister for God's sake, and they are little kids!

That pretty much sums up what I was going to say.

The only thing I would add is if one of the kids is uncomfortable about it for some reason then I would respect their feelings.

 

[MickeyBabe]

Our children are 2 1/2 years apart, our annual vacation has always been a condo in the OuterBanks of NC, which enabled each to have thier own bed.

On thier first trip to Disney they were 2 1/2 and 5. They shared a bed, our only problem then was propping chairs to DS side of the bed so he wouldn't fall out.

Thier second trip they were 9 1/2 & 12 and the third trip, 11 1/2 & 14. Both of those trips I shared with DD and DH with DS.

Then.....


Eureka! DVC... "Honey, we need DVC so that we can have our own room and the kids can each have thier own bed."

I'm sneaky,huh?

 

[DisDaydreamer]

Let me just add to the tipped scales here. You certainly have a couple more years at least before having to consider options. The kids are going to let you know when the time has come.

 

[dianeschlicht]

I totally agree with everyone else. It is NOT a problem at all. My guess is that by the time your DD reaches 12, she's not going to tolerate it anymore, and you will have to get a 2 bedroom. We too have friends who always put Mom with DD and Dad with DS. I don't know what is supposed to be any better about that??? I don't get it I guess.

 

[jakenjess]

I have a 14 yr old(almost 15) daughter and a 13 yr old son. Up until about 2 years ago they would often share a bed. Now when we travel to non disney hotels we either bring the areo mattress or each of us sleep with a child depending on the size of the room. When we go to a dvc resort we try to get a 2 bdrm. We love having all that room and each child gets his/her own bed. In a 1 bdrm we would bring the air mattress and they would alternate sleeping on the sofa bed. We do like some of the Deluxe resorts also that have the daybed like the Poly and the Contemp. Also the bunk beds at the AKL are great for this reason!
My kids are really close and still now even at home they often sleep in each others rooms. My son has bunkbeds and my daughter a trundle. They love to stay up late on the weekends and watch TV together.
I think your daughter will let you know when she is uncomfortable with the situation!

That sounds exactly like our kids, only they are 9 and 11 and DS is older. They'll probably be sharing the pullout on our upcoming trip, although I know soon we'll probably be bringing along the air mattress. My parents have made a few comments about it, but I don't see any problems. Go and enjoy that big bed with your DH!

 

[TwingleMum]

I agree I would not worry. I would contiue until one of the kids expresses discomfort or puberty whatever comes first.

 

[chris1gill]

Hmm, this is odd I say... My kids are 8 & 11 & they, on occasion give us a bit of trouble when sharing the pullout... one kicks the other, the other takes the blankets, so on & so forth.... on those occasions, one of them sleeps on the couch cushions! It's more an issue of sibling rivalry...

However, I will say, when we have to share a room with two doubles, I sleep with one of the children & DH sleeps with one of the children, because God knows DH & I don't want to sleep on a double bed together ROFLMBO...

 

[ACDSNY]

By the time our DD & DS were old enough they started wanting to bring friends or relative so it became a non issue. I think once or twice our DS either used a air mattress or the couch cushions. These things usually work themselves out unless someone makes a big deal about it.

 

[mamacatnv]

Maybe it is the age difference but my DS 16 shared a bed with his sister 7 last year and does whenever we travel. We brought an air mattress as son is 6'4" but they were perfectly comfortable and we never took the air mattress out of the box.

A couple of years ago, my brother and I traveled to Portland, Or. to deal with our mother. We were planning to share a 2 queen room, due to a convention and a screw up they only had a king bed room available. So at 39 & 40 years of age we were still sharing a bed

 

[eliza61]

Mine shared a bed until they reached about 12. they never complained at all.

 

[snowbunny]

Until one of them reaches puberty, I think it is fine. They are brother and sister for God's sake, and they are little kids!

I totally agree. Even now with my DD 12 and DS 9, they could share a double or queen bed if absolutely necessary, although both would complain that the other one was kicking them.

 

[rocketriter]

Good grief, the world has enough problems already without inventing new ones. Our kids shared a pullout on vacations until the older one turned 12. It was not weird and it was not a problem.