DS 1st Comm. & Relatives (vent)long

[buzzlady]

My DS is making his 1st Holy Communion on Sat. 5/1. In March SIL (DH brother's wife) asked when it was. BIL is my DS godfather and my 2 DS are the only kids on my DH side of the family. I told her the date and that I wasn't having anything big, but invited them to the church and told her that we would be going back to the house and having something to eat and cake. She told me that she would let me know if they would be able to make it because my BIL might have to work that day. So I never heard back and I e-mailed them asking if they knew if they could make it or not. I received an e-mail back today that they won't be able to make it. BIL doesn't have to work but they sold their old boat and they have to deliver it to the new owners marina on Sat. 5/1. It makes me so mad. MIL has been saying that she doesn't think that she is going to the church either. She has a hard time walking. DH says that she is going (they have a ramp) even if he has to carry her.

My family goes so far out of their way to go to any events that my kids have. My 93yr old grandmother is so upset because she can't come to DS Communion because she will be in FL at my cousin's (her grandson's)graduation from Commercial Pilot School (not sure what it's called). At least my mom will be there. Sorry for the long vent.

 

[MelessaG]

BuzzLady-
We are a different religion than the rest of our respective families and they have never attended any of our children's special church ceremonies. I have some idea how you are feeling right now because I've been there too. I'm sorry.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Believe me, I can feel your pain. My inlaws attend my kids birthday parties etc. But act like its a chore and they don't want to be there. My DS's birthday party was today and he turned 6. I had a pool party at a local hotel. They didn't even stay in the pool area to watch. They stayed for about 10 minutes, then went to the meeting room(where we ate and had the cake) to sit. They see him and my DD about once a month and they are their only grandchildren and they live only about 40 minutes away. I know it bothers you, but don't let it get you down. Its your sons special day. It is they who are missing out. Take Care! And congrats to your DS!!!

 

[goofy4tink]

And to think that I thought I was the only one with in-laws like this!! One bil actually forgot my dd's baptism. And at the time she was the only grandchild in the family on dh's side. Same thing with b-day parties. My dd, now 10, loves her family parties. It's not about the gifts but that she loves seeing everyone on her special day. My family thinks it terrific. My mil??? She says.."Oh honey. Katie shouldn't be having these parties at her age. Just do her kid party. Don't worry about us." Her first communion? Nope, in laws didn't come to the church. They are catholic, we are episcopalian. I really celebrated this day since my dd hadn't ever recieved communion until she knew all about it. It was incredibly special, but without Grammie and Grampy. But you can be sure they were at the house to be with the one other grandchild after church since we were having Easter dinner also. Sorry to go on. THis is a real sore point with me. Can you tell ??

 

[buzzlady]

I guess I'm not the only one with ILs like this.

roliepolieoliefan ~ Happy Birthday to your DS!!

 

[mamamia]

I know what you are going through.

My BIL (DH's brother and only sibling) is my DD's godfather. He came to her communion, but when she made her confirmation 2 years ago he didn't come. I understood because it was a monday afternoon and he didn't want to take the day off. I gave him 2 months notice on the date. I did expect him to at least pick up the phone and ask her how her special day went, etc. That of course didn't happen. I didn't expect him to get her a gift, but a card or a phone call or some kind of acknowledgment would have been nice. He's not a very good uncle either. He doesn't really talk to the kids - not even small talk about school. I think my MIL was upset when we didn't ask him to be the godfather to our other two children.

Now my DD is graduating from middle school in June, we are just going to have a little barbecue afterwards, but I'm sure he won't be there either.