I am not menopausal (mid 20s), but I'm a contact wearer with HORRIBLE dry eyes. Here's what I do:
- I wear "Night and Day" brand contact lenses. They are designed to be slept in and worn for a few days at a time without taking them out, which means they have the largest amount of oxygen flowing into your eyes. I don't sleep in them, though.
- I clean them with an enzyme cleaner (Clear Care) - this seems to clean them extra-well which helps with dryness.
- When my contacts are out, I use eye drops (I think they are called Soothe, from Bausch & Lomb) - they are a milky consistency, not clear, they make your vision kind of blurry, but they work better because they have an oily/lipid base.
I have heard good things about Restasis, but I tried it and it made my eyes burn a LOT!
Good luck... it is really no fun!