Drinking.

[K-Shong99]

Sooo...
My friends drink alcohol.
A lot.
And it really gets on my nerves.
I personally don't considering it's well... ILLIGAL.
And my parents would KILL me if I got cought.
They are always getting in trouble and coming home drunk and stuff.
It's horrible.
They regret things they do, but when I tell them to not drink they tell me I don't understand.
And maybe I don't.
When I ask my parents and my friends from other schools what they would do if they were in my situation and didn't want to see my friends hurt they always say, "Well, don't hang out with them. Get new friends."
I can't.
I love my girls to death.
But I'm soooo scared that they are really gonna hurt themselves or someone else at one of these parties.
I get so upset with them, but I have been friends with these girls since 2nd grade.
I can't leave them.
But they get totally drunk and do HORRIBLE things.
And I just wish they'd stop.

Sooo...
Do your teen friends drink?
Do you try to help them out?
Got any advice?
I don't wanna lose my friends to drunk driving.

 

[Pirate Me]

None of my friends drink. Do you think you'd be able to confront a parent, teacher, or counselor? I know it would be hard because it isn't directly your problem but teen alcoholism can lead to a serious drinking problem as an adult..well, you know that.
And remember..they're your friends. You care about them. I'd rather have them think I'm a moron for telling someone about their problem than having them hurt in the future.
They'd thank you in the long run.

 

[Rockstar mentality]

To what extent do they get drunk? Is it lik party drunk or so drunk that u cant remeber that night and they did bad regrettible things?

 

[Babyjustrun]

My friends don't drink. I don't drink, and if they asked me to help them get drunk, I'd probably say no. But if they needed a ride (well if I could drive) I'd definitely do it for them. If it meant them getting home safe and stuff.
Drinking is big on the weekends here, most kids I know do drink and drink till their drunk. It's bad that they're drinking so young...

 

[CrazyChik]

I drink at home occasionly, just stuff like bucks fizz, cider, champagne etc. My parents don't mind, my nan gets annoyed but her father was an alcoholic of the worst variety and my uncle is also one so i guess she's paranoid i'll turn out like them.

Most of my friends go out and get drunk every friday and saturday, they come in bragging about how they fainted or threw up and i'm just like eeewww ok now why would you find that attractive? We've seen enough pictures in science and PSHE so i really don't know what else to say to them. I don't find it cool in anyway. I don't know there's much you can do to stop them until they get a real wake up call.

 

[ohdisco]

When I was 15 I'd get sooo drunk I couldn't remember what happened (I woke up once with no shirt on in a bush). It got so scary that I just said screw it and stopped going to parties. Some of my friends, however, still stayed in the party scene. I'd always give them rides home if they needed it, no matter how far the distance. It's just kinda something you have to deal with. You can't MAKE them change, so it's either getting use to your friends making poor choices, or choosing different friends.

 

[tinkerbellblondie19]

I know some people that drink.

I didn't even know about it until recently, and my choice was to just not hang out with them.

While (some) of the group are great, I'd rather not be involved with it.

It is a major issue, and I had never realized how many teens were involved in drinking on weekends until I've been moving into a different crowd lately.

To put it simply, I've shifted out.

Until I'm legal, I'm not drinking, plain and simple. And if they choose to take the risk of getting caught and putting a major damper on their life, that's their decision.

But if you don't like it, stay away from it.

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

My friends drink occassionally.

But not to a dangerous or innappropriate level.
I'm sorry, I don't have any advice as I haven't been in that situation before, but good luck :]

 

[JulielovesDisney]

A few of my friends drink. Not regularlary, but still enough. A lot of people in my grade get drunk every weekend. I don't know how they get the alcohol, unless their parents supply it, and that's messed up. We actually got into a kinda big fight about drinking during our Prom Weekend last year. They wanted to bring some stuff down to make Mud Slides and stuff, but my friends house was right next to a police station. It was a mess.

I drink sometimes at home. I haven't gone to a party and had something to drink. I would, but I won't get drunk. I don't see how getting drunk, throwing up, and waking up the next morning and not being about to move at all is fun.

 

[llama62]

I don't drink alcohol. I have my soda (particularly Mountain Dew) as a substitute.

 

[Grumpy15]

Almost my entire school goes out on the weekends and hang out with each but i dont because i just think whats the point i hate feeling like i dont have control of something. Since i see how it affects a lot...mostly my entire school i really havent thought about it. Im from a small town so i guess since everyone has done it nobody really cares but it seems like so many parents really do even though they all know about their kids. I guess try to talk to your friends and see if they realize what they could be doing to themselves and people around them.

 

[Sparx]

I don't have any advice. I'm sorry,

 

[topaz_onyx]

A lot of people in my year get drunk at the weekend and boast about how much they had and unlike what people above have said, they don't say they threw up, got drunk, etc - instead they like to boast how they had a bottle of vodka and didn't get drunk. I try telling them they would be dead but they insist thats what they drank. Some people are going to have some serious liver damage.

 

[BabyPiglet]

That's sad. All I can say is, I hope they get over it by adulthood, or they're going to have some serious problems.

 

[miniminniemouse]

none of mine do, thankfully!
maybe you should try telling them in a way that they would understand. show them what youre afraid of and what they r doing to themselves in a way that they will listen.

 

[chisnpeke]

That's sad. All I can say is, I hope they get over it by adulthood, or they're going to have some serious problems.

Yes they are

 

[Rockstar mentality]

This thread is very ironic due 2 somthng that just happened in my life

 

[disneydance]

I just found out yesterday that some of my friends drink and I was shocked it started with one of my friends saying something like last night i got invited to a party with acohol and I said no I didnt want to go then one of my other friends yells out I want to go I was like OMG then I said why would you want to go??? She goes because there beer. I was like and i hang out with these people why??? I want to help them since no one should be under the influece and i find it sad my own friends are. I want to help them out and i'm gonna do my best to.

 

[I'm a Divaaaaa]

They're young, don't chastise them for it but do keep an eye on them.

 

[unknownname]

The way I see it.

You either do something about it.

or Just ditch them.

That sounds harsh but in the long wrong it will save you through alot of pain if something happends.


Talk to them tell them how much there changing and how much partying and drinking isn't cool.

But if that doesn't help and they want to do it. You can't change them.

Thats there life and you can't take over it for them.

So even though you want to help you'll end up being an emotion reck because they won't accept the help your offering.

So your better off seeking for new friends. Not ditching them totally. But let them know when they want help you'll be there for them but if they want to destroy themself your not going to get involved into that crap.

I know thats not easy but I went through alot of drama last year and realized even though you could be friends for 8yrs or more. People change and sometime you just need to move on.