Drama, Drama, Drama...

[PUZZLDY5]

Ok. I now know why god has graced me with all these boys.
My son is leaving for basic training and AIT on Monday. His girlfriend has been staying with us this past week. (With the blessing of her parents.) She is as sweet as she can be and we love her lots but good god. Is EVERYTHING in a teenage girls life that dramatic.
I swear I don't remember being like this when I was her age.

 

[swanmom]

Ok. Is EVERYTHING in a teenage girls life that dramatic.

Wow! A Dis question I can actually answer. Yes.

(From the mom of a 16-year-old theater major)

 

[golfgal]

No, but for parents that allow that behavior, yes. We don't have any drama with our DD because we don't allow that behavior. Now OP, you have zero control over this I know.

 

[Yankeemouse]

hi Swanmom,

I can relate, as I have a soon to be 17 yr. old who loves theater, and will be a senior in Sept. Love her incredibly, but oh boy, does she ever get dramatic!! She's touring Europe right now with American Music Abroad concert Choir, and I have to say, its been VERY quiet around here!!

 

[LuvOrlando]

I think it's perfectly normal. Maybe it's not quiet but it's certainly not odd. Boys solve things with a fight and then it's over, winner takes all. Most girls don't hit so sorting through issues is always a long process full of ups and downs, crying with girlfriends, hugs and endless negotiations. Many sons means you may end up with many daughter-in-laws, tap into your inner teen and you'll be fine When in doubt just smile warmly and nod understandably.

 

[Magic Mom]

If Ds's ex girlfriend is like the rest, then YES. That girl could find drama eating an apple.

 

[PUZZLDY5]

If Ds's ex girlfriend is like the rest, then YES. That girl could find drama eating an apple.

 

[cabanafrau]

No, but for parents that allow that behavior, yes. We don't have any drama with our DD because we don't allow that behavior. Now OP, you have zero control over this I know.

Sometimes it has a little more to do w/ the nature of the kids themselves. We have one who has a reputation amongst her friends for living in a no drama zone. We have another who occasionally thinks the drama zone looks kind of exciting.

Same old boring, no-fun, no-nonsense parents for both kids -- ready to step down hard at any sign of the match being lit. Two kids w/ different sensibilities.

We're just grateful neither one finds drama irresistible!

 

[Darsa]

That girl could find drama eating an apple

This describes me DD14's best friend PERFECTLY!! Even my DD mentions the "drama-filled world of Amanda", like it's a soap opera. LOL!

 

[JessicaR]

If Ds's ex girlfriend is like the rest, then YES. That girl could find drama eating an apple.

I can relate! I have boys - but I was one of three girls - I can relate.

 

[Missy1961]

Sometimes it has a little more to do w/ the nature of the kids themselves. We have one who has a reputation amongst her friends for living in a no drama zone. We have another who occasionally thinks the drama zone looks kind of exciting.

Same old boring, no-fun, no-nonsense parents for both kids -- ready to step down hard at any sign of the match being lit. Two kids w/ different sensibilities.

We're just grateful neither one finds drama irresistible!

I know what you mean--my sister has 2 girls. One is a drama queen, one is not. They are being raised exactly the same.

 

[swanmom]

Sometimes it has a little more to do w/ the nature of the kids themselves. We have one who has a reputation amongst her friends for living in a no drama zone. We have another who occasionally thinks the drama zone looks kind of exciting.

Same old boring, no-fun, no-nonsense parents for both kids -- ready to step down hard at any sign of the match being lit. Two kids w/ different sensibilities.

We're just grateful neither one finds drama irresistible!

Thanks for the support, Cabanafrau! As far as DD is concerned, saying "we don't allow that behavior" would be like saying "we don't permit her to have blue eyes." All in all, she is a wonderful teen - very accomplished in theater, very passionate about her art and her academices and just got 5's on three AP courses (as a junior!). Truth be told, the personality characteristics that make her a 'pain in the..." sometimes also makes her the amazing kid she is. She cares strongly about everything she does and I think I'd rather have that than the alternative!

 

[Darsa]

As far as DD is concerned, saying "we don't allow that behavior" would be like saying "we don't permit her to have blue eyes." All in all, she is a wonderful teen - very accomplished in theater, very passionate about her art and her academices and just got 5's on three AP courses (as a junior!). Truth be told, the personality characteristics that make her a 'pain in the..." sometimes also makes her the amazing kid she is. She cares strongly about everything she does and I think I'd rather have that than the alternative!

Absolutely! You sound like an awesome mom!

 

[wdwmom0f3]

I know what you mean--my sister has 2 girls. One is a drama queen, one is not. They are being raised exactly the same.

This sounds like my girls. I have a 17 year old drama queen, and it DRIVES ME CRAZY!! Everything is so over the top. She wines about everything, she way over thinks things and everything is about her. It's way worse when she is dating someone too. Then I have a 12 year old who is a lot better about everything. No friend problems to speak of, she stays active and helps around the house. Every once in a while she gets a little crazy, but NOTHING like her sister. I will tell you one thing though, I am so thankful my last child was a boy!

Also, to the OP. My dd's boyfriend has just moved out of the state & with the move there has been a lot of stress for them, which has added drama. The change that your son and his girl friend are going through sounds a little like mine. Let's just pray for each other!!

 

[Disney Doll]

I am not, by nature, a real dramatic person which is probably a good thing because I do not have parents who have a high tolerance for drama.

Had I been a dramatic teenage girl, I would have had some difficult teen years, I would imagine.

 

[Lanshark]

I saw a couple at WDW a few year ago and the dad had a tshirt that said
SAVE THE DRAMA FOR THE MAMA

Mom had a tshirt that said
I DON'T DO DRAMA

They had three teenage girls in tow

 

[AndreaDM]

Is EVERYTHING in a teenage girls life that dramatic.

A big fat YES!

Signed, the mother of 3 daughters, 21, 18 and 7.

The worst by far is the middle one, she even had to make a dramatic entrance when she was born and it's never stopped! The older one is much more laid back, the only real drama was when she broke up with her boyfriend. And I've told the 7 year old she is not allowed to become a teenager so we're good there.

 

[bored]

It's not just teenage girls, it's also the 40-something women I have to work with. I'm qualified to teach preschool after having to work with them for a few years.

 

[ols386]

I think teenage girsl have all those hormones to deal with also. Not that boys don't have all their own hormones, but I think the girls have a tougher time of it. JMO.

 

[krcit]

I was just having this conversation with my SIL last night. She has a 12 year old dd and I have a 15 yo and a 11(12 next month)yo. None of our girls are overly dramatic but I think it's just the nature of the beast that sometimes their hormones get the best of them and they can't help themselves. I remember being a teen and oh man! Everything was a crisis...bad haircut? I would cry for days, boy I liked asked out another girl? I would be a wreck for a week. I'm preparing myself for my younger one...she tends to be a bit more dramatic than her older sister.