Does your SO/DH...

[MickeysMommy]

Buy you things for Hanukkah/Christmas that you would never in a million years buy for yourself?

I love my SO. He truly is a wonderful man. However, he never, ever, buys me anything that I put on the list he has me write up and if he goes out and buys me something off the list - it's so totally not me that I just thank him and give him a smooch anyway.

I'm not ungrateful just puzzled.

Anyone else have this problem? He has me write up a "list" of maybe some perfume that I would like or a certain piece of jewelry that I found and he NEVER, ever, buys anything on the list. So what exactly is the point of the list?!?

 

[ziggystardust]

I have to say that my DBF is a great gift giver - always very thoughtful and generous but one year was rather strange. He asked me for the first time to make a list, he insisted. Now I hate giving lists, so I was kind of annoyed for having to write one , but I did and put a lot on it so I wouldn't know exactly what I would get. Xmas comes around, what did I get - not one thing on the list. And the one thing that was close to something I wrote - was a completely different style and color. I don't know if he was trying to throw me off or what, but I will tell you I was surprised.

 

[froglady]

I also have to chuckle about the lists.

My stocking was almost empty this year, and would have been completely empty if I hadn't put in a few things myself. I made a thorough list of ideas, such as "magnetic tape- at the check-out at the Publix at ___" I guess I wasn't specific enough?

I'm very careful to try to choose items that he can find easily, and even give the locations. They are never at the mall, but always close by. I have to purposely designate stocking stuffers, as he (in the past) has purchased "stocking stuffers" that won't fit in the stocking.

Now, before everyone gets judgemental, I wouldn't care if the stocking was empty, or I had nothing under the tree, if it didn't bother HIM so much. After the first few years of hearing "I'm so sorry that I couldn't find anything for you, I feel awful" I realized that he just wasn't a good shopper for other people, and if I wanted to have a happy holiday with no one feeling guilty I would have to make sure I purchased a few things for myself.

 

[Hercules10]

So what exactly is the point of the list?!?

To know what not to buy you. He wants to see the suprise the one time he finds that perfect gift that you love but were never expecting. The only problem is that usually a person has to wade through a bunch of crappy gifts to finally hit the nail on the head.

 

[SC Minnie]

Dh is usually not a good gift giver to me. I open things and look at them and think to myself 'does this man even know me???'. Anyway, this year he did pretty good. I had been asking for diamond studs for a couple of years and after Christmas was always told they were too expensive. I think I made him feel so bad that this year I got them! He also got me a diamond and sapphire circle necklace. The only thing - the earring are white gold and the necklace is on yellow gold.

 

[NMAmy]

Hmmm...maybe you should talk to him about it, MM. He obviously loves to surprise you (I'm thinking of that cake at WDW again!)--maybe there was a reason he chose what he did.

DH is not a great gift giver. I also give him a list--with things from $1 up to a couple $100. He is certainly allowed to go off the list but he usually takes dd with him and he checks with her and she steers him toward stuff she knows I'd like. (I've trained her well.)

Okay, now I'm curious. What DID he get you?

 

[Maleficent13]

More Oprah DVDs, MM?

 

[maslex]

You know, I just went through this, this Christmas. I usually write down what I'd like to recieve (his wants a list from me) We are usually on a tight budget, so I make sure they're not extravagant things. This year I only put TWO things on my list. 1--the Firm exercise system 2--Black & Decker PowerMop (hey, I'm easy to please)

He got me some hand lotion & body wash (scents were something out of grandmas attic) but he knows I can't use scented lotion and stuff due to a skin condition. And got me floor mats for my SUV. WTH????
He drove my truck one day and got irritated by my floor mat under the drivers seat, so he threw it out the window and thought I would just LOVE a new set for Christmas. What a sweetie

He did SORT OF redeemed himself with a gift card to my favorite store though. But what were you thinking with the other stuff?

After everything was all unwrapped he asked if I got everything I wanted. I was like HUH I said to him "I only asked for two things and didn't get either one" He says, "what did you ask for" I told him the two things I asked for and he says back to me "well, I don't buy exercise stuff and you asked for the other thing way too late" I told him about the Powermop about 4 days before Christmas (and this is something that is easily found at Walmart.

 

[azgal81]

My boyfriend is pretty good about getting me things that I need/want. I do drop hints to him though or he remembers when I offhandly mention that something would be cool months ago. Then all the sudden it's sitting under the tree when I forgot I even said anything!

 

[MickeysMommy]

More Oprah DVDs, MM?

No, pal, that one took the cake!

 

[RUDisney]

DH went to Benetton for my gifts. His cousin owns the store, so I guess he went there to show off. He bought me a "gym bag" that was large enough to hold a brush and deoderant. He bought me a scarf and gloves even though I don't like fuzzy gloves and I don't wear scarves. He bought me a shirt that was actually very pretty with a scarf. Again, I don't wear scarves and I couldn't put the shirt on over my elbow on one arm. I took everything back yesterday with the shirt and pants he bought for DS who doesn't fit into kids' clothes anymore and the scarf and gloves his mother bought me. I picked up 3 items for DD that were on the 60% off rack and I still have a $300 credit for when the spring items come into the store. I'll use that to buy DD more stuff. So much for me for Christmas. BTW, his cousin told me that she tried to steer him away from stuff for me and our DS, but he wouldn't listen to her.

I asked him if he was afraid to go into Talbot's since it's across the street from Benetton. He said, "oh, do you like their stuff?" Um, yes... that's where most of my clothes are purchased.

I DID like the cordless phones he bought me for the kitchen. I have 3 of them strategically placed so that I'll hopefully not be without one in the kitchen again and I liked and was surprised by the pannini maker.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I got 2 cast iron skillets & a toliet seat.... Ok I did want the cast iron skillets and the toliet seat is one of those "quiet ones" that shut....DD and DH are tired of me slamming the seat.

That was a good match to his "Box of Rags" at Loews.

He also got me a jewelry armoire, which I have been wanting for years...

I bought myself some stocking stuffers, like CD's & movies I wanted.

 

[sweetspicy]

My SO buys stuff off the list, but will also ocassionally buy other stuff too. And he gives the rest of the list to his family. But this year I went off the list for him. He wanted a lot of books and junk from amazon.com, and I got him a gift card to amazon, but I got him some other stuff he needed besides that.

 

[Philagoofy]

My DH is way too generous. Not only does he buy me everything on my list but other things besides. I've told him no more jewerly, I have plenty (yes, I know, you can never have enough but I really do). I got jewerly. I gave him a list of rubber stamps & said you don't have to buy all, he bought every single one. I do appreciate it but I'd rather cut down & save for vacations. And yes, I've told him this but he just likes to buy stuff.

One thing he did get me this year that made me scratch my head is a roboreptile. It's actually kind of neat & not as weird looking as the chimp head. But it doesn't walk on most of our carpet. We either have to bring him into the kitchen or the bedroom where the carpet is lower. I just think it's something that you play with for a little bit than it'll soon be collecting dust.

But he's a sweet & thoughtful guy.

 

[Missy Mouse]

Buy you things for Hanukkah/Christmas that you would never in a million years buy for yourself?

Yes, but not in the way you're describing. I would never buy myself expensive things. I don't need them and I can't afford them. I'm a college student working three jobs to make the rent and the bills! I do my best through the year and my boyfriend understands if I can't always give him the full half of the rent money, and he never says anything. This year we set a $100 limit because finances are really tight for me. Christmas day I opened his gifts and he gave me a gorgeous Coach purse that I seriously would've picked myself, a $100 Visa gift card to buy new clothes with, and the most beautiful card that brought tears to my eyes. I love him so much.

 

[ericamanda01]

Yes and it's always something electronic. God love him he tries. One year he bought me a radio for the bedroom and a stero for my car. This year it was a memory card for my phone. Now these are all great gifts, but I already had them. He just upgrades them for me. The memory card for my phone is a 1gig card, I guess I only had half a gig. I just don't have the heart to tell him that I don't use the card I have.

 

[Liberty Belle]

We don't do lists. We usually don't buy gifts for eachother, but this year we did. Dh got me the Memoirs of a Geisha dvd and a portable photo printer. I love both gifts. They're exactly what I wanted and I did not have to ask for them, though I did mention over the year I wanted them. Wtg dh!