Does this seem "tacky"?

[PartofDisney'sWorld]

We are registered on the Disney Honeymoon Registry, and on our website there is a link for people to go to. DF wants to add on the Registry page a small blurb about why we chose the honeymoon registry as opposed to a traditional registry, so that people aren't confused about why we didn't register for blenders and pots and pans (the reason being is we have been living together for over 2 years and we have everything we need). So we would put something like "we chose this registry because we have already been living together for over 2 years and have everything we need, and have decided that a traditional registry was not the best option"...or something like that. My thing is, I hate anything that has to do with asking for money/gifts, so if it were up to me we would have NO registry period. But my parents were like, if you don't want random gifts, you'd better make a registry. So my question is, is putting a blurb on the website where the registry is "tacky", or should I just not say anything and leave the registry page with just the link?

 

[donald&daisy]

I'd probably just leave it up to your guests. I think they will understand when there is only one registry option. You can always make sure your parents, bridal party, etc know the reasons for your choice and they can answer any questions from guests.

 

[chris31997]

I would leave the page with the link. If anyone asks than you, Df or family can explain that you already have everything that you need. I think most people are up to date on this and no explination is needed. Who you might need to explain would be grandparents or greatgrandparents but than again

 

[leonix8238]

I don't think so at all - it saves you answering the question several times over.

You could say something like: We have been living together for two years now and have everything a home could need, however, if you feel you would like to purchase something we would greatly appreciate a donation to our Disney honeymoon registry at: .......

I hope that makes sense it's a little late on my head and I'm starting to get bleary eyed -

EDIT: I also found this poem that you may like to take apart and adapt:

If you’re thinking of a gift for us
we ask if you would consider
contributing to our honeymoon
to make it all the sweeter.
Our house is full of all the things
a couple could require
and so a holiday away
is what we most desire.
Then while we're relaxing on the beach
or by the pool so blue
we'll sit back and know
that it is truly thanks to you !!

 

[transfergirl]

Leave it.

 

[lpereira]

The less said about a registry the better. When someone asks either sets of parents our friends they can relay information about where you are registered and if needed why. They could even add that you guys wanted to spare folks from the registry dash to get the gift that fits their budget. This way everyone can "purchase" a gift for the amount they are comfortable spending.
I would add that while you are on a disneymoon keep a detailed journal that will allow you you write detailed thank you notes when you return. Something along the lines of dear aunt may. Thank you so much for your wonderful present. We went on a romantic carriage ride on our third evening. It was so romantic.
You get the idea.
Congrats on the wedding.

 

[sambycat]

i felt weird about the whole registry thing as well. i would just have the link and leave it at that. truthfully, more people than i thought asked us about being registered, but very very few people got us anything that we registered for exactly!

 

[DisneyBride1207]

I am in the same boat - have lived with fiancee for 5 years, so no pots and pans needed - we are hoping for the registry as well!

Did anyone that has used the honeymoon registry find that people used it as much as you hoped....? etc?

Helpful feedback for me, thank you all!

 

[PrincessShea]

I would not add the blurb.

 

[DisneyBride1207]

(didn't mean to hijack the thread!) sorry

 

[sambycat]

also, sidenote (and i know i am like the debbie downer person of the entire dis-boards!), but the honeymoon registration site is EXTREMELY buggy! we had some folks try and use it and couldn't and for about a month before the wedding it didn't recognize us as bride and groom. like we weren't in the system. most of disney's websites seem to be super hinky like this and many people have done fine with theirs but how do you really know if its working?

i think its a good thing to register on something focused so just registering the honeymoon registry is i think a good idea, but people will get you what they think you want, what they are dying to get you, what they think you need, what they can afford....

you know how it goes! good luck with whatever you decide!

 

[LittleMissMagic]

I like the poem...

 

[DisneyObsession]

When I was married..27 years ago...the thing to do was just list the colors of rooms and let the guests get something to fit into your color scheme. To be honest, I liked that better since I know brides check the registry to see what was bought already...there is no surprise to the gifts. Who says you need a registry at all?

Just my 2 cents.

 

[SamSam]

When I was married..27 years ago...the thing to do was just list the colors of rooms and let the guests get something to fit into your color scheme. To be honest, I liked that better since I know brides check the registry to see what was bought already...there is no surprise to the gifts. Who says you need a registry at all?

Just my 2 cents.

I understand what you're saying (married 39 years ago), but things change and I understand the new dilemma's. If you've been together for awhile then you probably don't need household items (although you will in 10 years), but help with the honeymoon would sure be nice.

A dear friends daughter who is getting married soon, although they haven't been living together, each have been on thier own for many year, really just wanted help towards her honeymoon. Thankfully, I talked to her mom and she told me that as embarrassing as it was to say, they really would prefer help with the honeymoon. No problem for me, I want to give something that helps this wonderful young woman the most.

 

[Mindyjoy]

I think in this day and age it's perfectly okay to lay out what you really want. While gifts are not supposed to be expected, everyone still brings one, so you may as well get stuff you want/need.

Our registry page says something like, "We appreciate our friends and family traveling for our wedding and your presence is the greatest gift we could receive. But for those who plan on bringing gifts, the one thing we really want is to buy a house someday and cash gifts are greatly appreciated."

I know some people think this is, like, OMGTHEWORST, but we are realists and we know people will be bringing gifts and we don't want to end up with 20 toasters. We are in our 30s and both of us have been living on our own since 18 and we literally don't need ANYTHING for our apartment.

 

[kmaria]

Hi!

I think it's perfectly reasonable to state that due to the circumstances of your arrangements you already have everything you need housewise and would prefer the $$/disney in lieu of appliances, etc.

Most people bring cash to weddings anyway. I know my friend is struggling with the same thing over her shower registry right now but she has decided to do a "money tree". I'm sure you can find it on google if you are interested, but basically they will tell the guests in the invite to "save a shopping trip" beacuse they really only need big ticket items right now since they've been living together for a couple years and would appreciate a monetary gift. Then at the shower the bridesmaids start it off by hanging or clipping money to the "tree". And that way it's anonymous too if they want it to be.

Of course, I don't know if you're having a shower..but that's an idea if you are! but I really don't think it's unreasonable to put that blurb on the registry page. If I were a guest, I would much rather know that than spend money on an item you don't want or really need when you would rather have something else!

Good luck!

 

[DaniBeems]

I don't think that is tacky! I totally understand where you are coming from, basically telling people to get you certain things with a registry, but trust me it makes it so much easier. They will be getting you something either way, so it might as well be what you want. You can make it short and sweet, with a little explanation. Might even end up making you feel better about having a registry!

 

[Diegosmom]

Sorry but I have always been a believe that asking for money was "tacky" having a greenback shower etc I personally think is wrong. And and registry for a honeymoon is really just asking for money. Hubby and I had been living together for years and I had been living on my own for a long time so we did have everything we needed. But we still registered and upgraded a few things. We registered for a nicer blender a kitchenaid blender, a new comforter and new sheets, a sewing machine a gas grill. Hubby registered for tools at Sears. So you really can think outside of the box. Also we really wanted new furniture, so if anyone talked to my parents about gifts they would mention this so we did end up with quite a bit of money and got our furniture. Also with the bigger items (gas grill sewing machine etc) family member went in on it.

Personally I hate being told by someone that I have to give money...

No offense to anyone this is just my opnion

 

[PartofDisney'sWorld]

Sorry but I have always been a believe that asking for money was "tacky" having a greenback shower etc I personally think is wrong. And and registry for a honeymoon is really just asking for money. Hubby and I had been living together for years and I had been living on my own for a long time so we did have everything we needed. But we still registered and upgraded a few things. We registered for a nicer blender a kitchenaid blender, a new comforter and new sheets, a sewing machine a gas grill. Hubby registered for tools at Sears. So you really can think outside of the box. Also we really wanted new furniture, so if anyone talked to my parents about gifts they would mention this so we did end up with quite a bit of money and got our furniture. Also with the bigger items (gas grill sewing machine etc) family member went in on it.

Personally I hate being told by someone that I have to give money...

No offense to anyone this is just my opnion

Well, in the case of a registry, isn't asking for gifts asking for money, EITHER WAY? That's the way I see it. Whether you have a traditional registry or a honeymoon registry, it's STILL asking for money, in the terms of a gift. So, it's tacky either way, if you really want to go there. And, we are not asking for money outright, we are asking for a GIFT in the form of something like a couple's massage or a dinner at a fine restaurant. Again, the same thing as asking for a GIFT on a traditional registry.

Anyway, I also wasn't asking if the registry itself was tacky, I was asking if putting up an explanation of why we chose this registry was tacky. But I appreciate the input.

 

[PartofDisney'sWorld]

Thanks for all the advice and tips everyone! I love my disbrides and dis-ers!!

I think I'm just going to leave it blank with just the link, at this point I don't even feel like dealing with it and if people have questions, they can just ask.

Oh well, guess I'll just have to tell DF that I'm right and he's wrong!