Does this bother anyone else

[happygirl]

When A OP ask for there thread to be closed? I guess I just don't understand why the took the time to post and then other people took the time to post. Then just to have it closed seem like a waste of time for all involved

 

[CF'er]

It sort-of depends on why they want it closed.

If they can't take an opposing opinion then yes it does.

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

Not really. A lot of times, some threads where people ask for help/opinions spiral out of control. This board is tough, I have been on them for a while. A lot of judging tends to happen, and most of the time, I feel badly for the OP. Now there are some threads where I feel the OP is just stirring the pot and when they request the thread be closed, it's kinda chicken. But the one from yesterday, about the tween meltdown, I felt really bad for the OP. I didn't blame her for asking it to be closed. I really think she felt attacked. I just remember being a tween/teen myself and I know it was hell on my dad.

 

[swald91]

I think some people really do appreciate opinions from other disers here & like the PP just stated sometimes they feel as if they are getting attacked-now some put stuff up I think to just wait for the arguments to begin! I guess you have to be open minded-not too sensitive & definitely be willing to hear many opinions about tons of subjects!

 

[Carly_Roach]

It doesn't really bother me. Someone asks for opinions. I give mine. I move on.

I think when people get emotionally invested in a thread and the OP asks for it to be closed, that's when it bothers the people who were expounding their opinions and the reasons for their opinions over and over again. They'd invested a certain amount of emotion into the thread and wanted validation for those emotions from other posters.

On the flip side, if the OP felt they were being judged or were being told all the time that they were wrong and everyone else was right (even though everyone else isn't living the OP's life), I could see the OP wanting out of the thread. There's nothing to stop the OP from leaving and ignoring that thread forever.

But if the thread continued with a bunch of the same people championing the "let's all dump on the OP" cause and it just keep it going on and on on the first page, I can easily see why the OP would want it closed.

So no....it doesn't bother me when people want to close their threads.

 

[KristaTX]

Nope.

 

[Stacerita]

I get irked by it. Kinda like, I'm taking my toys and going home type of deal. If they don't like the way it is going, or feel like they are getting beat up, then leave the thread and unsubscribe to it.

 

[luvmy3]

It doesn't bother me but I don't see the point in having one closed. The OP doesn't need to involve themselves in the thread anymore if it has gone a way they don't like, but there are still other posters who want to continue to discuss the topic.
The only time I could see the point is if the OP is not just being disagreed with but really attacked in a very disrespectful way.

 

[Scurvy]

I get irked by it. Kinda like, I'm taking my toys and going home type of deal. If they don't like the way it is going, or feel like they are getting beat up, then leave the thread and unsubscribe to it.

I agree with this. I can understand why people do it sometimes, but usually they just do it because the majority of people on the thread aren't agreeing with them. Often the thread has evolved into a broader discussion than just people commenting on the OP's initial post and when they have it closed they cut off the entire conversation, which I find a bit rude. I think it's far better for them to just leave the thread than to demand that the whole thing be closed. I definitely don't have any desire to respond to posters in the future if I know they are the type to have a thread closed if they don't agree with it, even if my post would be one that would agree with them.

 

[MichelleVW]

I get irked by it. Kinda like, I'm taking my toys and going home type of deal. If they don't like the way it is going, or feel like they are getting beat up, then leave the thread and unsubscribe to it.

Yep....that's how I feel about it too. If you can't take the heat, stay off the message board.

There is someone like that on another board that I am on....she will post things all the time and when she doesn't get the pity party she expected and gets bashed instead she will get the thread closed. Drives me bonkers...

I didn't think this board closed things at the request of the OP.....

 

[Dan Murphy]

Not really, no.

I have either asked a couple times, maybe two or three, over the past ten years, (or took care of it myself when I was a moderator here ). In each case, if I recall correctly, it was due to a clod, who is no longer here as far as I know, taking threads so far off topic, trying to make it hurtful to many. But that was his style here, be hurtful to others. They were not a question posed by me, just nice threads of sorts. That poster did not affect me by his statements in the tread, but tried to make it a farce. So either I asked or closure, or I closed myself.

 

[Stacerita]

Yep....that's how I feel about it too. If you can't take the heat, stay off the message board.

There is someone like that on another board that I am on....she will post things all the time and when she doesn't get the pity party she expected and gets bashed instead she will get the thread closed. Drives me bonkers...

I didn't think this board closed things at the request of the OP.....

There was one thread yesterday that was closed and the mod stated that it was closed due to the request of the OP.

Not really, no.

I have either asked a couple times, maybe two or three, over the past ten years, (or took care of it myself when I was a moderator here ). In each case, if I recall correctly, it was due to a clod, who is no longer here as far as I know, taking threads so far off topic, trying to make it hurtful to many. But that was his style here, be hurtful to others. They were not a question posed by me, just nice threads of sorts. That poster did not affect me by his statements in the tread, but tried to make it a farce. So either I asked or closure, or I closed myself.

In those cases it should be closed. But not by request of the OP. A mod should step in.

 

[Scurvy]

If someone is being abusive on a thread and derailing it that badly, I can absolutely understand the OP contacting a mod about it. Ideally, the abusive posts could just be removed and the thread left open but I understand that isn't always possible. That's definitely not the same as someone wanting the thread closed just because it isn't going the way they wanted it to. And personally, I don't think it's really appropriate for the OP to ask that the thread be closed in either case - I think they ought to just bring the offensive posts to the attention of a mod and let the mod decide how to handle it.

 

[Robinrs]

I am WAY more annoyed by misspelled words and nasty people.

 

[happygirl]

I am WAY more annoyed by misspelled words and nasty people.

See the the spelling thing doesn't bother me in the least. Everyone makes mistakes.

 

[Tink888]

It doesn't bother me. I kind of feel like it's their thread and if it starts going in a way that's upsetting them or they're regretting it and they want it closed then so be it.

One thread closes and 10 new ones open. There's always something else to weigh in on.

 

[NMAmy]

When A OP ask for there thread to be closed? I guess I just don't understand why the took the time to post and then other people took the time to post. Then just to have it closed seem like a waste of time for all involved

As much as I DIS, I don't look at any of it as a really productive use of my time so, no, I don't worry about someone wasting my time with a thread that eventually closes.

It doesn't bother me--if an OP is feeling attacked, then I'm okay with them asking for it to be closed and hopefully, they learn a lesson regarding posting on a subject about which they feel sensitive.

 

[Anewman]

See the the spelling thing doesn't bother me in the least. Everyone makes mistakes.

I agree...

This a DISney forum, not a job search site. As long as it is readable/understandable, I am not bothered in any way. But if I was hiring someone, spelling mistakes on their resume would be a real issue.

 

[LuvOrlando]

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[C.Ann]

No - it doesn't bother me.. And I could see why someone might request that it be closed.. Not because people are disagreeing - not because they aren't receiving the responses that they want - but because there are a small number of people who get downright ugly, mean, and nasty - push it as far as they possibly can without getting banned - and by no means is it just presenting an opposing opinion.. It's meant to be humiliating, degrading, and just plain mean-spirited - having nothing at all to do with the original question posed by the OP..

If there's a particular thread you are talking about, I don't know which one it is, so I don't know exactly what happened in that case.. But in the years I have been here, I have seen some brutal attacks on posters - for no other reason than to humiliate and/or degrade someone..

Just my opinion..