Does the Pain & Hurt go away?

[Poohgirl]

Yes it will. I have been through that miserable place. You will come out stronger. Prayers & Take care of yourself.

 

[Stitchfans]

very sorry I know how hard and trying it can be to live with someone who is bi polar. But he has to want to get better, and stay well. I wish you happiness.

 

[Freyja]

I´m sorry you are going through this. But may I ask, why are you still with him? I´m sure you deserve so much better than this.

 

[disneymom3]

Truffles, I know you want to try and save the marriage, but you can't save it by yourself. There are 2 people in a marriage, and both have to want to put the time & effort it takes to solve the problem, fix the problem, save the marriage. If that is not the case, then you are just spinning your wheels.

At this point, it doesn't sound as if your husband has any reason to change, to decide to take meds, or to go to counelling, or all 3. You are still there and enabling his bad behavior. OK, he is bipolar. Many bipolar people are amrried and live pretty normal lives because they do what they have to do to keep their disease in check. If your husband is choosing not to do this, if he is choosing not to take meds, get counselling etc. then what he is really choosing to do is to break up his family. Unfortuantely, that means you will have to be the strong one for yourself and your child...if I recall, you do have a child, right? Remember, everything that is happening your child is soaking up like a sponge. Do you want your child to think that this is the way people live, that this is the way marriage is suppossed to be? Of course not.

It's certainly OK to be upset, but you must get yourself together and makes some plans for you & your child's future.

This is an awesome post!