Does anyones DH not get excited?

[Alex2kMommy]

At first I thought I had made the orginal post!!!!!!

Me, too!

DH planned our honeymoon (which was an incredible, romantic stay in Maui), and has left every vacation since then up to me. I think of where to go, find out how much it's going to cost, negotiate with him about what we can afford and when to go, and handle the bookings. I get excited, he grumbles about the money and the time away from the office, and the preparation for being away from home: packing, buying supplies, making arrangements for transportation to the airport, someone to feed the cat... Don't get me wrong, once we're there, he has a great time and always thanks me for a wonderful vacation.

What drives me nuts, though, is that he's so hard to pry away from work, so our vacations tend to be several years apart; and invariably on our first day of vacation he says, "Wow, this is great! We should go on vacation more often!"

 

[kam24]

We are going on our first family trip to WDW. We usually go to an island and relax so DH is not too excited about going. He's afraid there will be no relaxing!
I had to convince him it will be great and we can take plenty of time to relax by the pools. I know he will love going on the crazy ride(he's a daredevil) Just seeing the look on his little girl's faces will make it all worth it. and he will thank me

 

[diannaneglia]

Hey at first I was not too happy my DH didn't want to go and watch his kids enjoy themselves and be part of the family. If it was something he wanted to do we would all be expected to cooperate...well except for his kayaking weekends and camping...well the camping I've done and do like that...anyhow, I am glad he doesn't want to go now because I know if he did, all I would hear is complaining about the crowds and what a rip off everything is and so on and so forth...I don't want anyone raining on my parade...I am spending all that (his) money to have a good time...not to hear someone whine how much it is a waste. I will have a great time with the two kiddos...he has NEVER said I couldn't go and take the kids and he wouldn't...and he actually has gotten to the point of listening to plans and saying he hopes we have a great time meaning it too. He only said that he doesn't want to know how much it is costing him...lol! So of course I say 'k'...lol I knew there was a reason I loved him. Hey as long as he doesn't push me to do the kayaking thing he can stay away from Disney all he wants!

Some day we will get to take a REAL family vacation where everyone is happy but hey if not at least my kids will never say they never had a vacation right?? (just not all together...they probally won't even notice...my son did ask a few times though...I don't know why daddy doesn't want to go...why doesn't he?)

Oh well...at least we get to go....Yippie...can't wait!

 

[stahshee]

my dh is a party pooper!!!!! he has fun when we are there but he b@@##@# the whole time when I am planning

 

[Lil' Grumpy]

oh, oh, i so sorry i responded in a joking manner....i didn't think it was this bad. while disney isn't my favorite activity to do, i really like how much
my family enjoy their time there. our little girl lights up like a firefly and
she doesn't know it's pretend. i can also remember when we took our
boys when they're little. we have made it a point to share in each other
hobbies over the years and it has become great bonding material. my
suggestion if there is alot of objections [to going], would be to split up the
schedule [one day together/one day apart and allowing each to do what they want.] i think one great source of what's available is reading trip reports from
singles and couples only. golfing, nascar, baseball esp. spring training,fishing
* i used to live over in cocoa beach & did deep sea fishing., a-1a has some
surfing beaches and so forth. sometimes the kids can split up too. [ it
reminded me the time i took our oldest over to deercreek state park to try
out his new submarine...it got away from the radio signal which meant us
tracking it down the creek. he was 3 so i had him piggyback including a
muddy hill. we ended up looking like 2 mud dobblers but we did finally
"catch" the sub.] my parents told us [all 10], particiapte in what you like to do and you'll won't look back with regrets. to us, our marriage has been many adventures in living.... wouldn't trade them for anything.

 

[MomofCKJ]

My husband finally relented and let me book our upcoming December trip. It will be the first one for our 3 kids who have been dying to go. DH has only been once before. He and I went for a week before we had children. He is not a fan. He finally gave in on this trip I think just to get me to stop asking! He has said he would rather be anywhere else that week and is only going because he feels guilty if the kids first trip is without him (I offered to go with the kids and my Mom if he didn't want to go). He wants to make up a t-shirt that reads "Disney....where debt is made". *sigh* He is normally a fun loving, wonderful, very funny guy but the Mouse just doesn't do it for him. I am hoping for a big avalance of pixie dust to hit him when we arrive!

Allyson

 

[luvmyboys]

I can totally empathize with everyone:

My DH hates:

the sun
crowds
and most importantly,
SPENDING MONEY!!!

Therefore, I was terrified when we went last Sept for the first time. He did enjoy himself more than I thought he would, but did do quite a bit of complaining about money, and that was with FREE DINING! So... I am not sure how he is going to react when I tell him we are going back this September!!
However, I am trying to make it as painless as possible by:
Paying for the whole trip in advance (secretly), and by taking a more leisurely vacation (no more commando for us)! Also, we won't be taking time out of our vacation to drive around Florida and visit friends, which really stressed him out last time. (Did I mention he also HATES driving?)
If I could leave him home I would, but for some crazy reason the kids and I love the old grump!

 

[PaulaSue]

My dh hardly ever seems excited.
He did crack a smile at our wedding and the birth of our girls.

 

[mshoo1]

In my case, it's my wife that could care less. We took a week-long trip to Disney World back when we were dating in 1999. She enjoyed the trip (a bad cold and Christmas crowds didn't help matters any), but she definately prefers beach vacations.

We are taking our 15 month old daughter to the Magic Kingdom for a day while staying in Tampa next month. It will be our first trip to Disney World as a family. My in-laws are tagging along as well. I'm so excited I'm practically bouncing off the walls. I'm taking my lifelong dream trip to Pebble Beach to play golf this summer, but it's almost been overshadowed in my mind by our upcoming Disney day. I'm always shocked my wife is so disinterested. She loves my rigorous preparation for these types of trips, but she teases me for it as well.

 

[shelleyz]

My Dh doesnt get excited or get into the planning either, but once we get there he is a BIG kid. We went October 2003 for the first time. I said to him 1 day that I wanted to go to WDW so he said plan it. We had a lot a fun and decided to go without the kids in January 2004, I planned that whole trip too. Went April 2005 as a family again and you guessed it, I planned that trip too. April 2005 we bought into the Disney Vacation Club. I had been looking into to it so I knew about it. While in MK DH sees a kiosk for DVC and asks me about it so I tell him what I know, of course he doesnt understand me, so we set up a tour at Saratoga Springs Resort. We didnt buy right on the spot but we did 2 days later. So I will have lots of trips to plan all by myself. Myself and my 2 DS's ages 5 & 7 are going without dad in August, with SIL, BIL and there 2 boys.DH will be doing a baseball trip. DH will join us in December. So even though he doesnt get into the planning he enjoys WDW, or he wouldn't have bought DVC.

 

[cfrith]

I read all these posts about DH's joining in on the fun of planning and DHs posting on this board. And I have to admit I'm a bit jealous. I love my DH, but I wish he would get excited about our trips. He has a great time once we get there. He thinks I'm nuts for how excited I get and how much time I spend on these boards. I tell him its no different that him laying on the couch watching the same stuff on TV every night. Just wanted to see if anyone was in the same boat I was. We disers have to stick together. I guess it could be worse he is taking me to the World in 7 days!!

I think I could have written the above post myself! That is exactly our situation. Word for word!!!! He sees me on the computer and says "let me guess, DISboards, or Mousepad?" LOL

 

[gottalovethem]

At least you all have a DH or DW who will go, mine is staying home. He hates crowds and traveling and Disney (I can't even fathom that). So off I go with our three little ones to Disney for our first family vacation, minus DH.

I've decided that I have to live life the way I want to and not let him hold me back -- at least he's not forbidding me to go

Maybe we will have a great time and bring back some pixie dust and next time he'll want to go

 

[Fourfun]

I can totally empathize with everyone:

My DH hates:

the sun
crowds
and most importantly,
SPENDING MONEY!!!

Therefore, I was terrified when we went last Sept for the first time. He did enjoy himself more than I thought he would, but did do quite a bit of complaining about money, and that was with FREE DINING! So... I am not sure how he is going to react when I tell him we are going back this September!!
However, I am trying to make it as painless as possible by:
Paying for the whole trip in advance (secretly), and by taking a more leisurely vacation (no more commando for us)! Also, we won't be taking time out of our vacation to drive around Florida and visit friends, which really stressed him out last time. (Did I mention he also HATES driving?)
If I could leave him home I would, but for some crazy reason the kids and I love the old grump!

OMG You are married to MY DH .... he sounds the exact same way...
the sun
the crowds
the $$ (unless its something he wants)
the driving.. (he only drives to work... I drive EVERY place else.. even to NC
the last 2 years.
He said we could go if we flew... So we are flying.. (but he is still complaning)
he has never been there.. So I said.. go this time... Like it or dont.. Next time we will go without you..... (he said Dont think I am paying for it)
Pooh to him... We both have great jobs... and we Both can spend the $$$
I will choose to spend mine having a great time with me DS10

 

[disneyfansx5]

Sorry so many of us have non-thrilled WDW husbands, but I am glad to know I am not alone. As some of you said, once we get there he seems to be fine and enjoys seeing the children interact with the character - they get so excited and are at times in awe if it is someone they really like. However, it took 2 1/2 years since our last trip to convince him it was time to go again - and that was just because he lost a bet. He said if a friend of ours went we would then go - thinking this friend would NEVER give in to his wife and kids. Guess what - the friend gave in and went 2 weeks ago. Now we get to go!

My DH says Disney's magic is in how quickly they can part him from his money. He complains about the lines and crowds too which is why we are trying our trip in Jan. 2007.

He too is also confused about me being on the boards and planning everything, but hey, I'm a planner and want to get this trip right. Who knows it may be 3-5 years before I convince him to go again.

 

[cornflkgrl]

My dh did not help plan ANYTHING about our trip. He did not even care IF we went to Disney World and was not at all excited about the trip and even got angry with me at one point within the 2 weeks before the trip when I would not shutup about the upcoming trip. When we crossed over into Florida he was still only mildly happy and that was just because he was not working that day.
BUT.........
when we finally hit I-4 and started to see buildings and then the Disney exits and the welcome signs he got a big grin on his face and took out the camera. When we pulled into the hotel he was smiling and went sprinting from the car practically skipping to through the lobby.
When we walked into downtown disney he stood and just stared and said, and I quote, "WOOOOOOOOWWWW!"
The first day at the Magic Kingdom he smiled the whole day and even waited in line for character pictures. He laughed at all the lame jokes on Jungle Cruise and Enchanted Tiki room. He sung along with It's a small world and....
on our last day of our trip he said "goodbye castle, goodbye train station, goodbye monorail, goodbye tram.........etc." as we were leaving and practically burst into tears when we drove out of the gates for the last time.

He is like this with everything. When we read the pregnancy test for my ds he said "well, I kind of figured you were (pregnant)." He didn't shop for baby stuff with me. He didn't go to many dr's appointments. He listened to his ipod for most of my labor and when our son came out he just stared off into space and my mother ended up grabbing the camera from him to snap pics. I was so upset with him thinking he just doesn't care at all. It took about 3 weeks but then he just bonded with our son and now he is nuts about him. Bonkers even. It just takes him way longer to get excited about stuff. I am hoping the next pregnancy he will get more into it but I understand this about him. He was even like this with our wedding, the whole 10 months of planning but when the big day came he pulled through and just totally suprised me with how happy and excited he was. He says it is because he doesn't get happy about anything until it actually happens?!

 

[diannaneglia]

Well I can see husbands not thrilled in going but at least some of yours DO go! Mine isn't even going which to tell you the truth only bothers me minorly. I think if he went he would whine and complain the whole time I would just have to kill him while we are there and now how would that look...Disney is supposed to me a nice place...not a place for murderers! Anyways...I am glad and he is glad...he isn't going. The bad thing (for him...and I don't think he relizes it) he thinks Disney is a rip off...but in a round about way...he is still paying for it...doesn't make sense. I think he only really agreed on me and the kids going to shut me up finally. I do think I drive the kids...my DH and my mother crazy with all the Disney talk but I can't help it...I am just so so so excited...that is why I come on here and am connected at the hip to my computer as of late...and of course they are complaining of that too...oh well...when this is all over...they won't have anything to worry about...I will be back to my boring pathetic life...poor me...lol.....

 

[gottalovethem]

diannaneglia, wow, that sounds familiar! Like I said before, I too am going without DH, the kids and I will have more fun that way! And I am sooo looking forward to it!

 

[janejakelibbyemma]

my dh is the same, we have just come back from disneyland paris, and he left it all up to me, which i don't mind, but i wish he would get excited, in fact i think i was more excited then the kids, this board me hooked for hours, and again dh thinks i am crazy.

 

[golden1]

My DH is not a big fan either. I'm shocked that he agreed to go on this trip.

I had lots of great WDW experiences as a child. He only went once in FEB and it was 30-40 degrees the whole time and the whole family was miserable. So when I proposed our Honeymoon at WDW he was less than thrilled but he relented. We went in June and I had a great time but the crowds and heat overwhelmed him. I thought I'd NEVER get him back to WDW after that! We did DCL 4 years later which was a really nice trip because we went in late Oct/ early Nov and the weather was beautiful. We ended up going with my ILs the very next year and that was the best trip of all.

I basically bullied him into this trip. We haven't been on a vacation since 2001. He thinks that he won't have any fun and he is going just to make me and the kids happy. He sort of sees himself as a martyr. I know he will have a great time so I just put up with the complaining.

 

[siestakeys04]

My dh was not excited but he is getting there because it is getting closer!!!
He may turn around when the time comes.