Does anyone take separate vacations from their spouse?

[LScot]

DH and I vacation about 1 week together a year and then we do a week or so separately.

I did about 4 days of WDW alone, a week with just DD and he did about 10 days in Colorado & Utah mountain biking.

We have always done this since day 1. He likes to be home more than I do.

 

[Disney Doll]

I prefer not to vacation without my husband.

Actually, a couple of months ago I went on an overnight with DSIL to see DNiece get inducted into her college sorority. I didn't want DSIL to do the 5-6 hour drive alone, and the boys (my DH and her DH) couldn't go due to work obligations. That was the first time I had gone somewhere overnight without DH since we've been married.

DH went on a business trip a couple of years ago without me. I have a business trip at the beginning of August and then he has one at the end of August.

Pleasure trips we do together.

 

[Dan Murphy]

I have not been able to 'coerce' my bride to join me in WDW since her one and only trip there in '99, but she does say she likes it, had fun, and will return, 'just not now'. I have been back 11 times, twice to DL, but those were tied into business trips. We do a number of shorter, more local trips throughout the year, tomorrow we are both off to our annual short one up in Wisconsin, along with several families we are very close to and see quite often. We were in Vegas twice in the past couple years, though if I never go there again, it would be too soon, can't stand the place, but I did grin and bear it, LOL. Up until the past year, Vince and I along with a buddy of mine and his boys would travel to The National Drag Races for a long weekend over Labor Day. As the boys got older, that seems to have become history. Marie has visited family a few times in Calif, on her own. We travel separate, we travel together, enjoy both.

 

[Laurabearz]

DH and I take at least one vacation each, without each other, every year. Plus the occasional overnighters, when I go over to a girlfriends and plan on drinking, I crash there instead of driving home.

When the girls are older, we will have girls trips, and they will have boy trips.

Plus we toss in several family vacations a year too.

 

[skiwee1]

We do it all the time. DH works outside the house and I'm a SAHM so I have much more down time to go places. We do plenty together also. I go to WDW for about 30 days a year without him. I also go to Atlantic City for a week or so every year without him. He, in turn, flies down to Florida for a week here and there to golf. He also goes tuna and marlin fishing on his friend's yacht for a few days here and there. Then there are the times that it is just us with no kids. We like to go to NYC for a couple of weeks each year. Finally found something that we both love! We also go on mini 3 day trips every couple of months without the kids. We go on family trips too taking the kids skiing for a week in the winter and the ocean for 2-3 weeks in the summer. This has worked out great for us! We have been married almost 18 years and it is still as wonderful as the first year. I wouldn't change a thing.

 

[ducklite]

I've been to Vegas, Calgary, and WDW without my husband on "girls only" trips. Had a blast but was glad to see him when I got back.

DH has taken a couple trips without me, mostly to visit his cousins who live out of state. He and our son also took a "male bonding" trip, they went to the Saturn plant in TN, the Arch and the Budweiser Brewery in St. Louis, and the Indy Speedway on a week long driving tour.

Anne

 

[VaGal]

We have been married for 17 yrs and usually once a year my friend from PA and myself have a " girls weekend" beach trip.
Usually leave on a Fri and return on Sun..we just enjoy hanging out together, shopping at the outlets..etc etc and DH doesnt mind at all he's just happy not to have to hit every mall and shopping place and be bored to death

 

[Alice28]

In the last 12 months we have each taken a pleasure vacation without each other. I went to WDW with my mom for 6 nights last October (she was going to a nursing conference in Orlando and we couldn't resist making a trip out of it) and DH went to Reno for 3 nights with his best friend in May. I think it's okay to do every once in awhile; we both had tons of fun, and the other was able to hold down the fort with the kids without too much hassle.

 

[WhenUwishUponAstar]

In the begining I never went anywhere by myself then on my 30th birthday I decided it was time I learned to do the travel thing by myself. The Dh and I have grown up together and it was just easy to let him do everything but I decided I needed to grow up and get out there, so I did. Now I take 2-3 short little over night or weekend trips a year because I'm a SHAM and It's hard to find someone to watch my kid while I'm gone and truely that's about all I need to recharge. We take our anual family vacations to WDW and Aspen. The DH and I take a weekend trip to Dallas for the OU/texas football game. Then we usually try to squeeze an over nighter somewhere just the two of us just to get away. Those trips, Christmas and a guys only fishing trip here and there pretty much eat up all of his vacation time.

We've been married 11 years but like I mentioned together much longer since I was 14 in fact and it's worked out great for us.

Sometimes you need your own bath with endless hot water and no interruptins, your own bed , your own remote and your own pint of hagen daz!

Yikes now I've got the travel bug......but since I squeezed in a cruise this year I guess I'd better wait.

anyway,I say go for it!!!

 

[MScott1851]

I used to live for weekends with my girlfriends, but now that we're married, I don't do it like I used to. We'll go out with a big group, and he usually tags along even on 'girls' nights.' I work 3 days a week and he works 5, so sometimes I will go and see my parents during the week while he's still working, but weekends and vacations are "us time." We both agree that we have more fun together than apart, he's the best friend I've ever had.

Case in point, one of his fraternity brothers had a bachelor weekend in Atlanta last month. Clint took me, and another couple, too. He went and met his old friends for dinner, and then met up with us for the rest of the weekend...this was his idea. I like that he thinks I'm cooler than all his old college buddies!

 

[kdibattista]

DH and I do vacation separately for a weekend.... girl's weekend is to the Jersey shore and guy's weekend is golfing. All other time is together.

 

[Nutsy]

Not me, but I have a cousin who goes away with her girlfriend all the time & only goes with her DH once a year. BTW the girlfriend is single.

 

[EdiePA]

I'd go on a "cross-stitch" retreat with friends once or twice a year. DH never understood my hobby and never wanted to travel, so it was go with friends or never go.

We're divorced now, so I can go whenever I want and I do!

Next year, a cruise!!

Edie

 

[Bob Slydell]

Yep, we do. Lately, DW and DS have been doing 10-12 day trips, where I'll meet up with them for the last 3-4 days, simply because DW has more accumulated vacation time than I do, since I started a new job.

I also typically go on one guys only golf trip in the winter.

 

[crz4mm2]

I have taken more vacations without my DH than with him. He does not particularly like to travel. Will NOT fly and will not get on a boat. So, that lets "us" out of that kind of travel.
I have been to WDW 4 times without him and Disneyland once without him (since we've been married). I have been on two cruises and numerous other trips. I would tell him to go on a hunting trip if he so desired. He flies Radio controlled planes and I don't enjoy it (liken watching him fly to watching paint dry ) so he does that alone. I think part of marriage is knowing you can spend time apart and it doesn't mean you don't love each other. I enjoy reading-he hates reading. I wouldn't expect him to do it just because I like it.

I had one of my best vacations ever without him It was 16 of us girls and we had a blast.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

We do too. DH goes on several golf weekends each year and also travels alot for business.

I have taken my girls on a few girls only trips.

And we now have established an annual ladies only cruise for each February. It is a fun way to travel.

 

[jkovick]

Originally posted by WDWLVR
In 14 years of marriage - no we haven't. Our vacation is when we really get to spend quality time together.

Now if there was something that either of us really wanted to do and the other didn't then I could see it once in a while.

ITA! Our vacation time is precious to us and we definately want to spend it together.

 

[Lisa F]

I wouldn't have called it a vacation but my girlfriends and I try to get together once a year for a girls' weekend. It's always at someone's house and everyone arrives saturday and leaves sunday. I also have done several summer programs taking me away from home (France, Italy, Cape May NJ) during grad school but again, I don't consider those vacations. If I am going somewhere fun I want DH with me.

 

[MinnieMe2]

I take rather frequent short trips, without DH, to dog shows. While I'm normally gone only one or two nights, occasionally I'm gone a bit longer. In fact, in June four of us girls rented an RV for four nights at a show, and we had a great time. Since DH doesn't enjoy the show environment as much as I do, I can relax a bit better when he stays at home. Plus, our kids are now young adults and one of us really has to be here. Not that they're bad kids -- but you never know, ya know?

I don't think I'll ever take a trip to the World without DH. But I would dearly love to take a week there with my sister, her girls, and my daughter....

 

[Talking Hands]

Yes, we sometimes take separate vacations. DH is pretty much a homebody and sometimes prefers to stay home rather than go with me on some of my trips. I frequently travel with friends from church. And he will not go to my interpreter or Tupperware conventions with me since he will spend his time in a hotel room while I attend workshops. He will drop me of sometimes and come back and join me for some vacation time after.