Does Anyone Dread Father's day(and the like)

[CourtasanSatine]

I'm already dreading Father's Day since I lost my own father at 16 to cancer.I wish I could ignore the day but I can't

 

[4cruisin]

You are not alone in that thought. I lost my dad 34 yrs ago (I was 8) and my mom just 3 years ago and I dread both Mother's Day and Father's Day. My dh and I do not have children and those days are very sad for me. I just make the best of it by keeping busy, putting flowers on their grave and knowing that they are celebrating in Heaven.

Hugs to you.

Nancy

 

[newholiday]

another without a Dad
I lost my Dad 10yrs ago July 22nd

 

[BedKnobbery2]

I'm not really dreading it. My father passed away from a terminal illness, too. On his birthday, my parent's anniversary, or Father's Day, I usually call my brother or mother and we chat about "How Dad used to...." or "Remember when Dad.....". It's actually kind of nice to remember him fondly, particularly since his final days were so difficult for us all. Hopefully with time, those days will be like that for you and your family, too.

 

[Jiminy102]

I lost my dad 2 years ago this coming August. SO far I have been ok with father's day. It is his birthday that is hard.

 

[cgcw]

I do . It's hard.

I lost my own Dad 24 years ago today to a massive heart attack -- the Saturday before Father's Day. We spent a couple of hours alone with him at the funeral home on Father's Day. It's not a special memory.

I have a very deep regret that I didn't share my Father's Day gift with my Dad before he died....something he asked me if he could open a couple days before and I told him no. I will always regret that.....it still sits in the box, unopened today.

Since it's important to my DS's to recognize Father's Day for my DH, we get through the day. For me, it's one of the toughest days for me without my Dad -- even after all of these years.

 

[Margie J]

My Dad passed away when I was 14. We were very close so each year it's been difficult.

A couple years ago a sales lady in a store came up to me all bubbly and said something like "this would be perfect for Father's Day ..." I had to stop her and tell her that my Dad was dead, I needed no gift thank you. That changed her tune and maybe it made her think twice about approaching strangers in that way again. I understand that the store probably asked her to do it but you never know a customers personal situation.

The last few years I have honored my Fathers memory by volunteering for a local project called "Dads Make a Difference Day". It celebrated Fathers and their role in their kids's lives. The day is filled with family events, games and music.

 

[Van Helsing]

My Father is dead 24yrs and my mother 9yrs

Both Fathers day and Mothers day are a hard time for some of us

 

[Dan Murphy]

 

[CourtasanSatine]

to all of us in the same boat.I also dread late Janaury since my dad died late in the month(10 grade for me)

 

[4nana]

Yes, mixed emotions on Father's Day. I lost my dear Dad a year ago to cancer. First we will go to church with my Mom as all holidays are now difficult for her w/o Dad. Then we will take flowers, cards and balloons to cemetary. Later we will go out to KFC, cause Daddy loved fried chicken and reminisce the good old days.

That afternoon we will come home, try to cheer up, as our kids
will do their Father's Day celebration with DH.

God Bless You Daddy ^i^
I love you! Sandie

 

[cynsaun]

I get sad on Father's Day, but I don't dread it anymore because we celebrate the day for my husband.

I lost my dad suddenly when I was 19, and it has been very hard. I lost my paternal grandfather last year and that was hard because stood in my father's place when I married.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

My boyfriend lost his dad to cancer a few years ago and I know every year it's still hard on Father's Day.

 

[Robinrs]

Yes...

 

[luvwinnie]

It's DH's first Father's Day without his dad, so it will be a tough one.

 

[mom22belles]

My parents divorced when I was 2 years old. I grew up without a father. ( No visists or contact) I went to a catholic school where it was not common to have divorced parents. Every year while all the kids would make there Fathers Day crafts I would feel left out. Not that I didn't get to make one just that I had no one to give it to.

Cut to my early 20's Dad becomes part of my life again only thing is I still don't feel like I truley have a father. My part of the relationship feels forced. Like I know he's my father but I just can't connect to him.

Then 4 years ago my Dad's second wife leaves him and he goes into a deperrssion. He commits suicde. So once again I am fatherless.
I am still quite bitter over the suicde. I still can't believe he choose death over us. ( 3 kids and 6 grandkids).

My Dh is a wonderful father and i will try my hardest to make it a special day for him and our girls.

 

[liznboys]

My father left my mom and my brothers when I was 15. He didn't want to be a husband or dad anymore. But, he was never much of a dad before that so it wasn't a huge loss. Still, Father's Day was not a fun day for me for many years.

Now though, it's all about my dh who is an AWESOME Daddy. (Hi honey, if you see this!!! )

 

[snoopy]

Yup, hate both Fathers Day and Mothers Day since my parents are gone. But I do pull myself together for the sake of DH -- I want to be sure his boys know the importance of honoring their Dad on Father's Day.

 

[siouxsieQ]

This will be my first Father's Day w/o my daddy. I'm not sure how I will feel, or if it will effect me at all. I've gotten through everything else ok. I'm sure one of these days it will hit me that he is not here.

We will take hubby's dad out for dinner.

 

[Rajah]

In the past, no.

This year, I'm just glad I'm going to be in Switzerland.