browneyes106
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My best friend is really hurting right now. She only has one brother. She had another brother that died 8 years ago. Her brother is getting married to a woman with four children. Two boys and two girls. My friend has never been in a wedding and was really hoping she would at least get to be in her brother's wedding. Just a couple of days ago my friend found that the woman's four children will be in the wedding and they will each have partner that is their cousin. Nobody from the groom's side will be in the wedding party. I think it is really unfair to the groom's family. A wedding is about two people and two families coming together. I don't think it looks right for only the bride's side of the family to be in the wedding party. What do you all think about this? Please share opinions, thoughts or experiences.
Well, maybe she doesn't want to have a large wedding party because she has already been married (actually, not sure of this, the OP doesn't say) and has four children.
As far as it only being "the bride's side of the family" - well, of course she is going to include her children in the wedding. They are her children, and soon to be the brother's children too.
I honestly don't get what your friend is so upset about. It isn't as if there are all kinds of adults in the wedding and she is being snubbed.
The bride has only been married once before. She started having kids when she was 16. Her oldest two children are from her ex-husband. The younger two children are from relationships in which she was never married to the fathers. I can understand the children being in the wedding. But the children are each going to be partnered with two of her nieces and nephews. I feel that the older two kids could be partners and the younger two could be partners. I think my friend is upset about the nieces and nephews being in the wedding party.
My best friend is really hurting right now. She only has one brother. She had another brother that died 8 years ago. Her brother is getting married to a woman with four children. Two boys and two girls. My friend has never been in a wedding and was really hoping she would at least get to be in her brother's wedding. Just a couple of days ago my friend found that the woman's four children will be in the wedding and they will each have partner that is their cousin. Nobody from the groom's side will be in the wedding party. I think it is really unfair to the groom's family. A wedding is about two people and two families coming together. I don't think it looks right for only the bride's side of the family to be in the wedding party. What do you all think about this? Please share opinions, thoughts or experiences.
The bride has only been married once before. She started having kids when she was 16. Her oldest two children are from her ex-husband. The younger two children are from relationships in which she was never married to the fathers. I can understand the children being in the wedding. But the children are each going to be partnered with two of her nieces and nephews. I feel that the older two kids could be partners and the younger two could be partners. I think my friend is upset about the nieces and nephews being in the wedding party.
My best friend is really hurting right now. She only has one brother. She had another brother that died 8 years ago. Her brother is getting married to a woman with four children. Two boys and two girls. My friend has never been in a wedding and was really hoping she would at least get to be in her brother's wedding. Just a couple of days ago my friend found that the woman's four children will be in the wedding and they will each have partner that is their cousin. Nobody from the groom's side will be in the wedding party. I think it is really unfair to the groom's family. A wedding is about two people and two families coming together. I don't think it looks right for only the bride's side of the family to be in the wedding party. What do you all think about this? Please share opinions, thoughts or experiences.
My best friend is really hurting right now. She only has one brother. She had another brother that died 8 years ago. Her brother is getting married to a woman with four children. Two boys and two girls. My friend has never been in a wedding and was really hoping she would at least get to be in her brother's wedding. Just a couple of days ago my friend found that the woman's four children will be in the wedding and they will each have partner that is their cousin. Nobody from the groom's side will be in the wedding party. I think it is really unfair to the groom's family. A wedding is about two people and two families coming together. I don't think it looks right for only the bride's side of the family to be in the wedding party. What do you all think about this? Please share opinions, thoughts or experiences.
Is she close with her brother?
My take on it is to for your friend to keep her mouth closed. Been there, done that.
Just give her lots of hugs.
They are very close. Well a week ago my friend asked her brother about it and he made up an excuse that his fiancee's family is bigger and more important. Then the next day the fiancee called my friend's mom and told her off and used the excuse that her and her family are very close and that her side of the family deserves to have more involvement in the wedding. She also told the mom that her family wasn't close likes her so they shouldn't be involved. I'm trying my best to comfort my friend. She was really upset earlier when she came over to visit me.