Do you think it is appropriate for underclassmen to go to the Junior/Senior prom?

[LvsTnk]

My kids attend a smaller Catholic hs and some of the parents are not letting their daughters go to the prom if asked, even if it's with their boyfiriends.

The thinking is that some of the girls in the junior/senior class may not get asked because too many of the underclassmen will go. Also, they feel that their daughters should wait and make the prom more of a special event. I have not heard anything about some of the boys not going.

DD's(soph) bf(sr) is one of the fallback guys the girls without boyfriends could count on to take them to dances since he hasn't had a girlfriend for the past several years. Certain girls actually expect him to ask them. I don't know how I feel about the whole thing, my son is a senior also and has no problem with her going.

Any opinions before I have to make a decision??

 

[DoeWDW]

I think if a jr. or sr. girl doesn't "get asked", she should go find her own date, whether he is from the jr or sr class or a sophomore or a college guy or whatever.

Also, in our schools around here, it isn't unusual for a group of girls to go to the prom together as friends. They don't feel the need to have a date to go to their prom.

 

[Michigan]

The prom belong to the class having it. If a senior want to invite a freshman to be their date I don't see the problem with that.

 

[dis4me]

I agree if the senior guy wants to invite someone outside of his class why shouldn't he. It isn't his responsiblility to find a date for the unattached senior girls. That is just silly.
As long as your son doesn't mind I would let her go. I went to a few senior proms when I was a sophomore and a junior.

 

[danacara]

Ridiculous.

I went to girls' catholic prep school: we couldn't go to the prom WITHOUT a date (the nuns make it date-mandatory). So you either ask someone, or you don't go! Great lesson for a girl: it makes her brave.

 

[brermomof2]

Heck yeah!! Way back in '85 my now DH was a senior and I was a sophmore. Good times, good memories.

OK, I'm going to have a heartattack. I just looked at that and realized that was 20 years ago!!! I was being sarcastic when I said "way back". I gotta go call my DH.

 

[worm761]

i see no problem with it. if her boyfriend is a senior and he wants to take her.

actually, i see a problem with the other scenario....him taking another girl to the dance. that is essentially a date. if it was my boyfriend, i would be ticked!

 

[Idahomom]

I say why not! I went to a prom when I was a freshman with my bf who was a senior. If your dd's bf wants to take her I would say let her go-what a special night that would be!

 

[cats7494]

Not a big deal, in my mind.
I would let her go. It is not her nor the bf's job to make sure the other girls have dates. If the junior and senior girls don't have a date - they can go all as a group.

 

[Megster]

I took a sophomore boy to my senior prom because most of the senior guys had asked their girlfriends or other underclassmen girls. I don't see a problem with an underclassmen going as long as they were asked! Why should an older boy feel responsible for asking a senior girl when he obviously would just like to share the night with his gf

As long as your son doesn't mind I would certainly let her go!

 

[ncgolfer]

I intentionally went to my senior prom by myself. I didn't wanna be tied down to one lady all night. Lets just say I enjoyed myself quite a bit. Kind of like a hungry man at a scantily clad buffet.

Geez, that was 12 years ago now that I think about it. Geez I'm getting old.

 

[gina2000]

Depriving a bunch of guys of their first choice for a prom for that reason isn't going to make them go out and ask someone in their grade. They just won't go.

 

[LvsTnk]

Yep, 2 of my daughters friends who have juniors for bf's are not able to go. Their parents already have told them. I don't know if it has something to do with how their older sisters were treated or not. One of the bf's doesn't want to go now, the other one already told his gf who is going to ask.

I should add that alot of these kids grew up together and their parents are close friends. We aren't part of this group.

 

[MELSMICE]

i see no problem with it. if her boyfriend is a senior and he wants to take her.

actually, i see a problem with the other scenario....him taking another girl to the dance. that is essentially a date. if it was my boyfriend, i would be ticked!

I don't see a problem with your daughter with her senior boyfriend either. It is not their responsibility to make sure the other senior girls have dates. That's just ridiculous. I agree that I sure would be miffed if my boyfriend took another girl to the prom though. That would sure get my blood boiling.

If one of my daughters doesn't have a date for a prom or homecoming dance I will tell them to go with their friends.

 

[Pam]

My daughter graduated from HS last June and went to Prom all 4 years of her high school life.

She's had the same boyfriend and they attended all the Proms together. He was 2 grades ahead of her in HS.

If he could not have taken her, he would not have gone. Same thing applies to her when she was a Junior and Senior.

They had a great time at all of the Proms.

Let your daughter go - she will have a blast. IMO, that's a stupid rule on the other parents part.

 

[minniecarousel]

I was kinda ticked at my older DS who asked a Sophomore to his Junior Prom and a Junior to his Senior Prom. He wasn't dating either of those girls - they were just friends. I told him that I was sure he could have found a "just friend" among his classmates who were still waiting to be asked. That said, if someone is "going steady" with a Senior, I think they should go to the Prom with them.

 

[Feralpeg]

My high school had a rule. If a student attended prom prior to the junior or senior year, they were not allowed to attend during their junior and senior years. It was in place for several reasons. First, it kept the number of kids attending to a reasonable number. This was back in the days when prom was actually held at the high school. It gave junior and senior girls a better chance to get a date for the prom. It made the event special for the juniors and seniors. Today, all the dances seem the same since they were gowns to all of them. And last, it made the prom a more grown up event. Let's face it, there is a big difference between freshman and juniors/seniors when it comes to maturity (not in all cases perhaps - I'm sure I'll get flamed for this one).

I still think it is a good idea.

 

[LvsTnk]

DD has been dating him for awhile everyone had a huge problem with it at first, even DS, and they have been "going steady" for about 2 months. He actually liked her for some time but since she is so much younger he waited to tell her.

 

[leighe]

My daughter graduated from HS last June and went to Prom all 4 years of her high school life.

She's had the same boyfriend and they attended all the Proms together. He was 2 grades ahead of her in HS.

I did the same thing. My boyfriend was a junior when I was a freshman so I went with him freshman and senior year.

Let her go. She'll have a blast. I loved all my proms!

 

[Maleficent13]

Let her go. We take this whole "let everybody play" thing way too far sometimes, IMHO.