Do you like to socialize?

[java]

This AM I was invited to have breakfast with a bunch of the neighborhood ladies, at someone's house. Some are bringing their little ones(I have one little guy that would have gone with me) But I decided not to go. I was sick all last week and still have the cough. Didn't want to spread it around. (that's my story and I'm sticking to it)
Really though I didn't want to go in general. I guess if I was alone(no kids) that I might go but the thought of being in someone's house sitting around making small talk. not my thing I guess.
Maybe I am just anti-social. I have friends that I do see and go out with. I just have a hard time with the ladies who lunch type of stuff.

So are you a goer or a not goer.

 

[luvmy2sams]

I'd rather have pins stuck in my eyes. I've got a few girlfriends that I go out with every now and then, but I'm most definitely not a social butterfly. Blech!

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

I socialize when I'm in the mood, but am never into making small talk. It's torture!

 

[mickeyboat]

I would have loved to go. I am not the most social person in the world, but I love going to events where I can bring my kids and I tend to have more to talk about with people I am just getting to know. It always surprises me how much I have in common with them.

Denae

 

[mickeyfan2]

I would have gone. An easy way to get to know others. One can always leave early and used the kid as the reason.

 

[Disney Doll]

I like to socialize with people I like. Having to do those social obligations where it's a bunch of phonies making small talk drives me crazy.

 

[MemoryMakers2669]

I'm a goer usually, depends on the event really. I love the mom bunch type things, always go to those.

 

[JVL1018]

I think it's easier to meet new people when we all have kids with us. Gives you something to focus on if there is any awkwardness.
Something like that, I would have been more liekly to go with my child then without.

I am not antisocial, but I am shy..no one believes me though because I fake feeling comfortable..and soon enough I really am comfortable.
But yes, I dread situations where I have to spend time with people I barely know.

 

[Robinrs]

I like to socialize with people I like. Having to do those social obligations where it's a bunch of phonies making small talk drives me crazy.

aMEN!!

I am a VERY social type, open, friendly... but private in RL. I prefer just being with my family. When I was younger I was a PARTY ANIMAL but those days are long gone.

 

[lovemygoofy]

I have my days that I want to socialize even if that includes small talk. I have days that I don't even want to answer my phone. I also have social obligations that I attend to and make small talk. I'm good at it but doesn't always enjoy it.

I would think that sometimes having kids would make a good ice breaker for people getting together.

 

[DMickey28]

I am totally the same way. I am a SAHM and on some days I want to go to some of the Mom's meetings of the groups online that I belong to. When it actually comes down to it I back out. I am ok on one on one meetings with other moms and babies but I hate groups.

I hate small talk. I hate talking on the phone to anyone besides DH, my mom and my lifelong best friend. I don't know that it's being antisocial, I think I am just pretty comfy with myself. I like being alone and I cherish my alone time.

Like this morning, DH is home from work because we had two very tough nights with DS. He got my cold from last week and DH is exhausted. (Yeah let's not go there as far as if I am tired!! I couldn't stay home from "work" last week when I was sick .. but anyway I digress!) The kitchen is cleaned, laundry is started, dishwasher going. The rest of the living area (dinning room and living room) are picked up and just waiting to be vaccumed when DH wakes up. DS has had is bottle, a container of banana's and is down for his first nap. I love being home. Oh, I also baked some cookies!!! I have my grocery list for the afternoon at BJ's. hopefully DH will watch DS because it's raining out and I don't want to drag DS out in the rain. Otherwise, I even love going shopping with just him.

Ok I went on a tangent, but I am with you. I would rather spend time emailing someone than on the phone. Once I "meet" someone through email it's easier to get together.

 

[CapeCodTenor]

I love socializing, although I don't do it as much. I can smooze with the best of them. A gift of mine. My wife, who's a harpist, has taken me to gigs where she's also a guest (a friends wedding or party), and she knows that she can go off and do her thing, because she knows within 5 minutes, I've struck up 2 to 3 different conversations. Small talk is a gift of mine. Although I have found it difficult at times to keep up small talk, especially if the other person isn't offering very much in the conversation.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

Well, myself in my current situation, would probably have not gone. If I did, I wouldn't have stayed long.

Being mid 30's, single (never married) and no kids, I have extremely little in common with most homemakers.

While I would love to make new friends, it can be difficult for me to find things in common. I like to talk more about musicals, classic movies and the night time shows on PBS. I also like to talk politics, history and international affairs.

While some mothers with young kids do enjoy talking about this stuff, I have found that most would rather talk about their husbands and kids and their latest escapades.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Sometimes I feel social and other times I don't. I tend to be shy even though it's not always obvious when I'm meeting someone. Once I've gotten out and socialized I am glad that I have done it--it's the getting out the door that's not always easy.

 

[DVC Sadie]

If it is a neighborhood get together then I would attend but I am not a social being in general. Sometimes it is good to get out of one's comfort zone for awhile and have surprised myself (in the past) with how much I enjoyed getting to know my neighbors.

My best friend in Maryland is a person who I met through one of those types of get togethers, and we have been friends for over 20 years.

 

[NMAmy]

Not so much. I see others and make small talk all day long at work. At home, I prefer it to just be DH, DD, and I. I really don't enjoy spending time being social on the weekends, either. I have some old friends that we hang out with occasionally and also with family but we don't go out of our way to socialize with people we don't know well.

I feel like I'm "on" at work all day. I have to have some quiet, private time.

 

[Freyja]

I love to socialize. It´s one of my favorite things to do. I sing in a choir twice a week, belong to a group of friends who meet at somebody´s (we rotate) house at least once a month and try to meet girlfriends for lunch once a week.

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

That's a tough one. I'd have to say I'm a mix. I mean, I like to socialize (or maybe I like the idea of socializing ) but it seems like when I'm actually presented with a chance to do it I back away.

When I first moved to Delaware almost 10 years ago I knew NO ONE and I craved friends. Then when the friends started coming I almost felt overwhelmed with comittments.

I used to hang out with this one girl who participated in Lady's Night EVERY Friday night! It was nice to go occasionally but I found the EVERY week thing to be too much of a hassle. And these were married women w/ children! They did it every week. They all knew eachother from highschool and I appreciate the fact they allowed me into their group but feeling like I was commited to something EVERY week just felt like prison to be honest with you. I didn't/don't have children (so I didn't have that in common with them) and quite frankly I love being with my husband and I'd look forward to the start of the weekend w/ my DH.

When I moved down here last October sometimes I'd start getting those feelings of, "Wish I had someone to hang out with" but then I remembered the feelings of being tied down. I've since met a few people whom I like very well but I'm older (and hopefully more wiser ) and I've put boundaries on the friendships. I'm not always available and I don't answer EVERY single call that comes in. I guess I feel like I have more control.

Sorry for the babbling. But, OP, you've given me something to think about.

 

[PatsGirl]

Usually a get-together once a week with a girlfriend or group is good for me. I am not very social but not that shy either (unless in large groups of people). I find small talk very difficult and then I become uncomfortable if I don't know what to say. I do go to all my kids sports meets and such and I am the new GS Junior Troop leader in town but I don't really socialize with any of the parents even at the games. I guess I'm just better on my own most of the time. I don't like the telephone and I don't like shopping either , two of the more common ways women seem to connect. I do, however, like to go out for dinner and drinks or to watch the Patriots play. I also don't mind emailing with friends. I'm not much of a team player and I don't compromise well -- yep, Type A with a small bit of OCD Well, now you know everything don'cha

 

[Chattyaholic]

I like to get together with family and friends but that's as far as it goes.

Like a neighborhood get-together, meeting new tablemates at dinner on a cruise, etc. no thanks, not interested.

I skipped a baby shower yesterday for a couple girls at work (one had her baby already, the other is due in a couple weeks). Just didn't give a hoot about going. I will give them gifts, but I avoid showers like the plague. If it's for immediate family I go, but grudgingly.