Do you like being in weddings?

[disykat]

I would find it hard to be in a wedding that was just an overpriced party where the emphasis is on how everyone looks, but I've loved the weddings I've been in. All were focused on the religious ceremony with budget appropriate receptions determined by what the bride and groom could afford.

One was VERY simple with basically a potluck reception given by close family and friends - no matching dresses, one was a church wedding with a cake and punch reception - we wore matching dresses where the bride provided the fabric, one was fancier with a full buffet reception - we wore matching dresses but the bride was very careful of our feelings.

For my wedding I just had my sister and she wore a dress that we both liked that she could wear again. I felt kind of bad not having the three girls that had me as their maid of honor, but I just never wanted that kind of wedding.

I went to a wedding as a child where there were 12 bridesmaids! Rumor was that there was a lot of scrambling to fill all those slots. Even as a kid I thought it seemed like a big show and I just knew I would never do that.

 

[browneyes]

The only time I've been in a wedding was about 16 years ago when I kept the wedding book for a friend of mine's uncle that was getting married. It wasn't too bad, but I haven't been in a wedding since.

 

[katerkat]

I like being in weddings - but ONLY for people I'm close to. Since we have to fly cross-country for all the weddings anyway, it has to be a darn good friend in order for us to even go.

DH actually re-arranged his deployment schedule to make it to his friend's wedding. (He's a groomsman.)

Oh, and my sister chose a really nice dress for her wedding - I can definitely wear it again! (Especially since after the baby, it's going to be the only formal dress I own that will fit!)

 

[Tink&SquirtsMom]

I'm gonna be in my first wedding (besides my own) next summer. It's for my sister, who was my maid of honor. I'm matron of honor, my dd is flower girl and my ds is ringbearer. I can't even imagine how much the wedding is going to cost me. I have dd's dress which I think is $125 and shoes and tiara (which she has to have just like the bride, lol), ds's tux rental, my outfit, hair and make-up, throwing the shower, shower and wedding gifts and paying for travel expenses cause it's a destination wedding at a bed and breakfast on the beach. I'll do it with a smile on my face cause it's my sis, but i can't imagine doing all this for anyone else. Then again I probably won't have too. When I got married I was the first of all my girlfriends, all my friends hinted that I should choose them to be in my wedding so I could one day be in theres. I would've had like 10 bridesmaids! That just wasn't me. So I made it just my sister and my now SIL, and a cousin for flowergirl. My dh had my brothers as groomsmen.

On the plus side I love my bridesmaids outfit. Its a white strapless top with a pink ribbon around the waist, and a pink satin tea length skirt with some high heeled pink satin flip flops 9since its at the beach). And my dd and ds are gonna look adorable! I don't think any of us will wear our outfits again, but my sister promised to have the photographer take a really nice family shot of the four of us, so hopefully I'll get a nice family portrait out of the deal (thats what we did for my sis and her now fiance at our wedding and it's still their favorite pic of them together).

 

[aprilgail2]

Wow, in a way I am glad my last friend had 6 of us in her party, I can't imaginr having to pay for the whole shower by myself or just splitting it with one person ...at least with a bigger wedding party it cuts the expenses down per person for the shower ...LOL....

 

[Nutsy]

Never had the opportunity.......was meant to be a bridesmaid at one time, but I fell pregnant & would have been 6 months pregnant at the wedding, so I pulled out

 

[BedKnobbery2]

Originally posted by sweet angel
I've only been in one wedding besides my own (which I should've missed) and had a near miss this summer. I think it's highly over-rated.

Then again, I've never been really high maintenance or girly-girly, so maybe that has something to do with it.

The whole process, shower, bachelorette party, etc., is a bit much.

sweet angel, I'm with you 100% on this one. Definitely not a girly-girl, and all I can think is "when can I take off my shoes?". I've been in 2 weddings, besides my own.

 

[Trish Bessette]

I don't care for it.

I was in my girlfriends wedding years ago. Her wedding was 3 weeks before I was due with my first

The dresses were long, black and white gowns. I was the hit of the reception party as I hung a sign on myself that said "Shamou" (hope I spelled that right) I looked like a beached whale

 

[CJK]

I love being a bridesmaid..........on the weekend of the wedding!! I love the rehearsal the night before and the rehearsal party. I love going with the bride and fellow bridesmaids to get our hair done and laugh and have fun all day long. However, I DON'T love all the money that is spent and all the showers and planning and decorating, etc..... I've been a bridesmaid 9 times and I think I'm done. Part of me is sad that all my friends are married, but the other side (especially my husband's side! ) is glad that the bridesmaid thing is over for me.

On a side note, I'd like to know what the percentage of women want/wanted to be a bridesmaid during their life. My mother-in-law was never a bridesmaid and she's still bitter about it today. It doesn't help that I've been in so many. It just seems strange to me that she's jealous (when she has been married for close to 40yrs!), but maybe I'd feel the same way if I was never in one?

 

[RadioNate]

I desperately wanted to be a bridesmaid. I was the first of my friends to get married and thought it was a huge honor to be choosen. I'm a little insecure and saw it as the bride and groom telling you that you were one of the most important people in their lives. As my friends started to get married I was sad that they had other people more important than me in their lives. It was especially hard when it was the people who were in my wedding.

As I've gotten older and am not as insecure as I once was I realize that there is a whole lot more that goes into it.

Like I said before I'm currently in my first wedding. I'm liking it (except for the expense) but I don't think I'll do it again except for my cousins (which I'm certain I'll be asked). Their weddings will be productions but what can you do...it's family.

 

[LovesDoomBuggies]

I have been in/will be in five within 12 months. In May I was a bridesmaid for a college friend, in October I am a personal attendant for a high school friend, in April I will be a maid of honor for a high school friend, and in May again I will be a BM for a college friend. And my cousin is getting married sometime in January-March, but hasn't set a date yet, but I get to be in that one too =P

I am at that age where all of my friends are getting married. It's expensive!!
I have a bridal shower to go to on Saturday afternoon, and late afternoon I am going BM dress shopping for another one. AAGHHHH.